If you tolerate others too much, they will go further and hurt you.

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My cousin called me two days ago to tell me that she had blocked a colleague. I was very surprised. My cousin is usually gentle and sweet, and speaks softly. I have never seen her lose her temper with others and even block the other person. I think the other person must be going too far.

Let’s call this colleague Xiao A. A few days ago, my cousin spent 76 yuan on Taobao to buy a four-piece home textile set. After the express arrived, she happily opened it and Xiaoli came over. When asked how much she bought, her cousin told the truth. Unexpectedly, the other party said, "It's only 76 yuan. Can I sleep?" The words were full of disdain.

This kind of thing has happened more than once. My cousin bought a piece of clothing with a discount of 500, and told Little A that she still made a loss. The other party directly replied, "Just your clothes cost more than 500." Why does it look like more than 100 yuan on you? Hey, you are not like me. Clothing worth tens of yuan looks like thousands on me. The cousin said that although Xiao A was only half-joking, she still felt naked hurt at the time.

There are countless things like this. For example, she often says to her cousin, "Why are you so dark, even pink can't cover it up?" "Why are you dressed like an aunt today?" "Your nails are made Too ugly,” and so on.

I asked my cousin what her reaction was and whether she refuted her. My cousin said that she was very uncomfortable at the time, but after all, in a company, she might have made an honest mistake, so she should be accommodating and let it go. , who knew that the other party would become more serious later. Finally came a breaking point.

When her cousin complained in front of her that her boyfriend didn’t give her a gift on Valentine’s Day, Little A said, “What gift do you want? It’s great to have a boyfriend like you. Contentment."

My cousin was so furious that she blocked him immediately without saying a word, and we never interacted with him again.

I told my cousin that I was the one who shaved her ears.

In this relationship, she has set her position so low and tolerates everything. You must know that for some people, the more you compromise, the more they will become worse.

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I remember when I was in the first grade of junior high school, I was at the same table with a girl F. Who knew that on the first day she drew a 38-point line, and I only had a three-point score? I laughed it off and thought I would be my deskmate for a whole school year, so I just had to endure it.

At that time, the conditions at home were not good, and all the clothes my cousins ??wore were not worn. One time, F said in front of the whole class, with a smile but not a smile, "So-and-so, your clothes are all picked from the trash can, they are so ugly." Thinking about it, I was really weak at that time. Even if you are bullied or humiliated, you are still calm and calm.

Later, when it was F’s turn to be on duty, she bossed me around and asked me to do the work for her. Although her attitude was quite bad at the time, I felt that her deskmate would not even look up or look down. Yes, it wasn't a big deal, so I helped her do it again.

One morning I came late and there was a puddle of black ink on my desk. I asked F what was going on. There was a hint of cunning in her eyes, but I still didn't expose her at that time.

Until that time, I couldn’t bear it anymore. I went to the bathroom sink to wash the mop, and I accidentally saw her talking to others about me like this, "She is my dog. What do I ask her to do?" She didn’t dare to do anything. Just like last time I poured ink on her desk, she didn’t say a word because she was so afraid of me.”

I couldn’t bear it at the time, so I immediately did it. He rushed, threw the mop directly in his face, and shouted, "Who the hell are you talking about? You are a dog. Don't think I have no temper. I just let you and don't care about you. You I have to push myself further."

Even though F was crying like a child, I felt extremely happy.

Later, the 38th line on the table disappeared.

Since then, I have deeply felt that if a dog bites you, you still have to bite it back, otherwise it will bite you again. You can never wrong yourself at any time.

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Do you often see people like this around you? You get your hair permed happily, and she says you look like an aunt. You wear a pair of pants, and she says it’s okay. You look so cheap. You bought a new set of clothes and she said you could only wear Taobao ones. Or when you laughed at yourself for being an older leftover, she said she probably wouldn’t be able to get married in this life. Wait, that sentence The offensive language seemed to be said in a joke, and the naked viciousness could be felt from eight streets away.

There is also a kind of person, just like the classmate I mentioned above, who for some reason always targets you and ridicules you, never tires of it, and always feels like he is at the bottom of the pyramid, overlooking all living beings.

What’s funny is, what do most of us do when faced with such attacks in life? In one word, “tolerance”, either because we care about a company and don’t look up or down, or I feel that everyone is just a friend, and I am afraid of hurting the friendship and making jokes. There are such friends, so most people just laugh and let things go.

In the end, the other person doesn’t appreciate it, but challenges your tolerance again and again. You really can’t bear it, but the other person blames you for not being able to make jokes, jokes, jokes, and always likes to dig into other people’s privacy. Making fun of someone's shortcomings, or even deliberately provoking conflicts, causing great harm to others' self-esteem, is also called a joke. If that's the case, I'll shoot you a hundred times and see you laugh.

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So what should we do with such people?

I read an article before, and there was a sentence in it that impressed me very much, "If you tolerate others too much, others will go further and hurt you."

Especially that kind of bitterness A mean person, if you keep giving in, she will think you are weak and can be bullied. Therefore, when the other party shows signs of being bullied, we must immediately fight back, extinguish the flames of arrogance, and show our bottom line.

So how should we extinguish it, "repay the enemy with his own way," or, respond to violence with violence, NO, this is very satisfying, but when others treat us like this, we are very unhappy. Unhappy, if we do this, we will become the kind of mean person in the eyes of others. Everyone doesn't want to be the person they hate the most.

It's better to be like this, with a clear attitude and a cold eyebrow.

"You talk like this, which makes me feel very unhappy. I hope you won't do this again."

If you think this is not powerful enough, then just yell like me, " Get out of here, I've tolerated you for a long time. From now on, I don't want to offend you."

I believe that she will never say with a smile again, "You are the only one who can do this. It’s great if someone wants it, so why choose?”

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