"Why did you choose tea?"

This question, from April 28, 20 17, I was surrounded by people from all directions asking the same question: "Why did you choose to make tea?" Now it is really necessary to calmly restore the true answer to this question. First of all, I must face a very realistic question: what kind of job can bring me a stable income; The impact or even harm to the body will not be great; And I won't hate it too much, if I can be the best I like. In our limited life, those unhappy things are dragging us down. We always feel that life is either too long or too short. We always give up happiness like giving up tasks and look for ways to make our families and dreams noble; Until I entered the society and found a decent job, it seemed to comfort the mess at that time; I don't know if I finished my wedding, got pregnant, had children and bought a decent house. It seems that this can explain my life without failure! I don't think this is just a problem for our family. It fully proves that our generation has developed from an era of lack of material resources to today. In order to pursue the rapid growth and expansion of resources, it has been experimented, transitioned and even eliminated one day. I see the sadness in myself, the sadness that I can't live for myself, and the confusion and hesitation that I have been trying to pursue the direction of life. In this pursuit, I have been struggling and exhausted my strength. In the end, I still can't escape my fate, or I am trapped in a situation where chicken feathers are struggling at the bottom of the valley. In this way, in the same enterprise, struggling, depressed and depressed, I finally got up the courage to leave, but after leaving for a month, I chose this enterprise again. Now I think it's really because I'm not a firm person, sometimes I seem willful and lack of capital, and I can't do zero cost, which eventually becomes a farce on the stage of my life. Sometimes, it seems that you are smart enough, but you are not always smart enough to penetrate your heart. Sometimes you look very capable, but in fact you don't give yourself a good foundation for survival. So, in retrospect, I feel stupid.

Later, when I returned to the company, all the hidden problems would accumulate and increase. In the face of contradictions with employees, verifying the culture and operational strength of an enterprise is the main factor. Obviously, in the process of the final intensification of contradictions, I am in a state of pain, because I can't get along well with the boss who pays wages, and even my relationship has begun to deteriorate. This is a very depressing thing. My dissatisfaction with my boss stems from the fact that my promised position and status have not been realized, and there is no reasonable explanation at the same time. I can accept my lack of ability, but I don't like such behavior that I don't need to be responsible for you. It was at this time that I became obsessed and dependent on tea, because only tea can calm me down. After I calmed down, I metabolized all the unhappiness of the day. I gradually put down my work focus and began to enjoy life. My happiest day is to go to my rented small bedroom home after work every day, cook and make tea, a small bedroom, two people, a simple meal and a pot of tea after dinner. This is life. My advantage is that I never pursue the luxury of the upper class, which is why I have no economic strength, but I never think my temperament can match those high-end goods. Therefore, our life is tense and comfortable.

Finally I let go, but the company leader took the initiative to talk to me. The purpose of the conversation is very clear. In my opinion, you should either get out or give full play to your value. I was calm at that time. After all, I have settled for half a year. I used wine for the first month, and then I only drank tea. The more depressed I am, the more I like drinking tea. Later, I heard a teacher say: "People have little time to be happy, but most of them are negative emotions and unhappy times. How can there be so many happy things? " I really understand that it is normal for a person to be unhappy. There are too many happy things every day, and maybe he is really a little sick. So, when I was unhappy at work and extremely depressed, I chose tea. It won't make me feel happy, but it can let me metabolize some unhappy negative emotions. This is also the embryonic form of my beginning to make tea.

In the boss's office, I still vaguely remember that conversation. The female boss interviewed me in the office. I remember we were on the same side of the conference table, almost facing the male boss. She began to take the initiative to speak: "Look at your recent state, I don't know what you are doing, when can you be a leader?" When she said this, I could see that she was quite excited. Of course, you took someone else's salary and didn't bring them the benefits she thought. Of course, she can ask questions and even tell you directly that you are fired. I still remember that my reply at that time was the first to cut to the chase: "It doesn't matter, my contract is about to expire anyway." Before she could respond to this sentence, she began to explain it to me in a relaxed tone. I don't remember exactly what she said, but she also described it. At that time, the promise was not fulfilled, and there were company considerations. Therefore, this kind of rhetoric is superficial, which seems to show that my seriousness is a joke. However, the result of the final conversation can still satisfy the leaders. It is also from this time that I began to plan the future seriously. Teacher Gu and I are going to plan a baby, when we can buy a house of our own, and even when we can have our own business. In this way, everything came one by one in the conversation. It won't be long before the bosses are happy. In my personal joy, the trust of the bosses in me has been completely leveled. In this way, I finally laid the foundation for my final departure from this company.

According to the development law of things, there is a time process from making a decision to forming the final result. In this process, I can fully prepare what I want to do. At first, I tried to find another job. It took at least half a year from pregnancy to breastfeeding. After several fairly good conversations, I learned that I was pregnant or still breastfeeding, and even the other party politely refused the interview opportunity. I think, in the middle and lower career, women will face such problems, even senior female white-collar workers who have worked in large enterprises or foreign companies for many years are no exception. Until today, I didn't understand that the main reason for this problem is the main demand of society to promote the market, not the degree of Excellence. Of course, people like me who have nothing to do with Excellence have little chance.

In this process, I am also constantly reflecting on myself. If I want to continue to precipitate myself in my work, there is no chance. As long as you work hard, you may not be able to achieve great success, but you can still win. After all, I have only completed one overture in my decades of career. However, if I go on like this, day after day, year after year, what can I get except the continuous improvement of my position and salary? I think my personality and state may really be the result, so I will forget to give my life. What about my family, especially my daughter? Will she go through this with her mother in the future? Even when family members don't understand, they hate each other. If I am so sad and desperate, and at the same time copy some of these bad things to my daughter, then I think I am making a mistake. If I am the only one who has such behavior, I will take a detour at most. With this in mind, I began to discuss with Mr. Gu whether we can start our own business, so that I can have more time to take care of my children and spend with my family. At least I can be free. After all, children are still young, and sometimes headaches and fever are inevitable. I can accompany them in time and my parents will try their best. I am always getting old. In this way, we come to a conclusion that it is time for one of us to go out to do business by ourselves, and the other can provide support, so that at least two people will not be in the same boat at the same time, which will bring too much mental and economic pressure.

Next, what needs to be determined is what we are going to do. In fact, it is very simple to prove this, because a few years ago, when I took the first sip of Pu 'er tea, I thought that if I could have a decent teahouse of my own at the age of 30, I would be quite satisfied. At that time, it was also half-truth, and I was not sure whether it would really come true. At present, some ideas at that time will be realized in due course. To this end, we also visited the tea producing areas in Fujian to see the producing areas and factories. After seeing them, we still feel very different from the tea I imagined. At the scene, we didn't feel anything at all, and finally understood that what they said at the beginning: "Mountain, cloud, pure natural, pesticide-free" was a lie, because the tea mountain I visited was surrounded by terraces, but there were no terraces. I originally planned to make a cooperation plan after this local investigation, but I really lost interest in the end. My greatest advantage is that I never want to deceive myself, and I insist on this behavior of "not deceiving myself" so far, dare not say that it is deeply rooted, but at least it has become a bottom line of my basic principles. As you can imagine, it became a dead end. There may be many people here who can't figure out why they said they would drink Pu 'er at first and then went to Fujian for investigation. Everyone who knows tea knows that Pu 'er should be in Yunnan, and Fujian should be the origin of oolong tea, black tea and white tea. In fact, I like Pu 'er very much, but if I enter the Pu 'er market, I have no confidence at all. First of all, Pu 'er has a large market share, and Yunnan, in my opinion, is too far away to stop my exploration of Pu 'er. Going to Fujian was actually an accident. Accidentally joined a chat group in Wuyishan. In this way, I learned that a manufacturer was coming to Beijing for an exhibition and needed help. In this way, I had the opportunity to communicate with Wuyishan people and Wuyishan tea for the first time. Some of the people contacted this time went to Wuyishan to receive my factory. Later, I met a teacher in Wuyishan in this group. I didn't expect this teacher to become my first partner when I started making tea. Even so, I finally made up my mind to start making tea, and I began to look for partners and shops in a tea city. By the way, that's when I left my job. Actually, it was very simple. I asked for leave because I was not feeling well. Just now, I thought it would be better to resign and concentrate on preparing for the opening of the teahouse. So, I told my boss to resign at the end of the month. As a result, the boss asked me to take time to go through the resignation formalities the next day. I don't think this is a problem. It is also reasonable when a person loses some use value that he should have paid in an organization. Although he was still breastfeeding at that time, I never thought it was unfair or even exploitation. In this way, on the day of leaving, I finished the formalities and had a simple and hypocritical conversation with my boss through the screen. The boss is saying, "You are in poor health now, so don't worry. When you are in better health and your children are older, we will give you a position where you can play your own strength. " What about the rest? Mainly because you are excellent, something like encouragement. This is what I find ridiculous. I was also very firm at that time. I also said: "I can come back after leaving here, which shows that I have expectations and feelings, but now I have made a choice and will not be as naive as before." This is well thought out, and everyone has their own interests. May everyone be better! " Maybe that's what I mean. Maybe I didn't have such eloquent language skills at that time. But I think that day, I was special, perhaps because I was full of expectation and passion for what I would do in the future. That is, when my daughter was about half a year old, she left her job and began to prepare to open a teahouse, which opened a new chapter in her life and future. I still feel that although I have made a lot of preparations and the time is not short, it is still difficult for me to take this step without my daughter's arrival. In the end, I will become the person I imagined.

Later, I was thinking repeatedly: being a senior professional woman was once my goal, just because of my mission. Otherwise, I wouldn't choose to open a small teahouse when my daughter was born, or when my career promotion encountered bottlenecks, and so on. In the process of starting a business, I encountered many difficulties, and even had to give up tea and do some mature industries. Finally, I calmed down and felt that I should do these things with the goal of making tea better. So with the later planning, it also attracted an olive branch. I expected Tuoye to cooperate for more than a year, and I am willing to further invest in cooperation at the critical moment. Because apart from him, no one is more suitable for long-term cooperation and becomes an investor. At present, for better development, we have also accumulated and expanded the partnership system at the grassroots level. Before, I never thought I would be so persistent and persistent because of tea. After visiting some tea producing areas, I was disappointed, but I also felt that tea should be in a different display state and should create different demands. Therefore, I am also prepared to constantly expand resources, do a good job in retail, and rationally adjust the goal of making tea at every step. If everything has motivation, first of all, I hope this motivation can promote health and development.