Why are more and more people unwilling to go back to their rural hometown for the New Year?

Why are more and more people unwilling to go back to their hometown for the New Year?

In a few months, the China New Year will come. For people who live in different places, the matter of returning to their hometown for the New Year is slowly put on the agenda.

When to buy a ticket, what gift to bring back, what new clothes to buy this year, which home to go back to for the New Year this year, etc., have all begun to think in my mind every day.

However, year after year, I find that many people are not so enthusiastic about going home, but going home for the New Year is becoming more and more a matter of crustily skin of head.

Chatting with people around me, I found that everyone didn't want to go home for the New Year. There are several reasons:

1. My hometown is too cold and the sanitation is too poor.

Every year during the Chinese New Year, a set of comparison pictures of dressing up will be popular on the Internet. City girls, dressed in fashion, immediately became country girls when they returned home.

There is no other reason. There is no heating in my hometown. It's too cold. I can only wrap my ugly but warm cotton-padded jacket and trousers around me.

But for adults, the hometown is cold and dirty, and the children are not so lucky.

Xiao has been in Xi 'an for two years, and she will go back to her husband's house for the New Year every year. Her daughter Yuanyuan will also get sick, or have a bad cold or a bacterial infection. Every time Yuanyuan gets sick, the whole family goes to the hospital for the New Year. Xiao has been holding her sick daughter for the New Year for two years in a row, so her heart trembles at the thought of going back this year.

There are not a few people like Xiao who are afraid to go home because of the harsh environment in their hometown. Most of them don't want their children to get sick because of their small children and weak resistance, but the custom of family reunion has to be returned during the Chinese New Year. Therefore, whether they can adapt to the uncomfortable environment in their hometown has become a big problem before them.

I don't want to be forced to get married by my parents and relatives.

I was twenty-nine years old, and then I was a little in a daze. Because I worked early, I was forced to get married by my parents and seven aunts almost from the age of 22.

In the past, she always took "young, take your time to find" to satisfy everyone's earnest concern, but after the age of 25, she will find that it seems that this reason can no longer resist everyone's expectations for her.

So, during the Spring Festival last year, Meng Meng, who couldn't bear his parents' nagging, was taken to a blind date by several menstrual cycles. Although this form seems silly and sloppy to her, just like picking vegetables in a vegetable market, she still crustily skin of head and looks at the blind date one by one, because she really can't bear to see the bitter and sad expression of her parents when they ask about their marriage progress in the village.

However, a blind date is a blind date. Meng Meng still doesn't want to give up her requirements for the future marriage partner, but she doesn't want her parents to worry. She has to pretend to be obedient, endure everyone's eager attention during the Chinese New Year, and then return to her happy single life as soon as the holiday is over.

People who are forced into marriage by their parents may go through the stage from resisting to pretending to cooperate. They should not only appease their parents' anxiety, but also be worthy of their own initial heart. Take care of both sides. Just thinking about it is already very tired!

3. party, gather people, but secretly compare.

As soon as I go home for the New Year, various parties such as primary school reunion, junior high school reunion, senior high school reunion, good buddy reunion and so on will follow.

Although it is obvious to draw closer to each other's feelings, it is often like a wonderful game in life. From wives and children to houses and cars, from wages and bonuses to work status, there is no shortage of comparison with others.

Even if the speaker doesn't want to show off his meaning, many people will involuntarily compare themselves with others and constantly squeeze their self-confidence when they see their classmates/friends who stood at the same starting point at the beginning, even worse than they are now.

As a result, the party that should have been happy has become a vanity fair that makes you feel ashamed, and the joy and expectation when you come are bleak.

Although life is for oneself, facing the gap, many people still have to spend a long time to get over the hurdle in their hearts.

The Spring Festival has become the fastest time of the year when wallets dry up.

There is a joke on the Internet, which probably says:

The so-called price of growing up is that when I was a child, the Spring Festival was the richest time of the year, but now it has become the poorest day.

That's brilliant.

Many people don't think that the Spring Festival is much different from when they were young when they were in college and in their first few years of work. At most, friends, classmates and colleagues spend some money when they get married and have children, and there is not much expense.

But once you get married, you will find that your wallet dries up faster than you think during the Chinese New Year.

Take myself as an example. Because my husband's family is a big family with many people and many children, thousands of red envelopes are needed for the Chinese New Year (according to one hundred children, my nephew and niece have ten children, and then my husband's aunt's family has about seven or eight grandchildren, and my menstruating uncle's family has about ten grandchildren, which is enough for my husband's salary for half a month anyway).

That doesn't count. If you want to visit relatives during the Spring Festival, you have to spend another thousand dollars on gifts, or share them equally with your aunts and sisters.

In addition, every year during the Chinese New Year, someone will get married, grow up, be a classmate or a brother, so the money will be paid several times.

In short, the Chinese New Year has become the biggest time of the year for family expenses. Although sometimes it hurts to spend money too quickly, there is nothing I can do, so I can only hope to earn more money next year.

5. Chinese New Year is monotonous and boring.

Every Spring Festival, what to do every day seems to have been decided. Go to worship ancestors on the 30th, eat jiaozi in the afternoon, eat jiaozi in the morning of the first day, eat jiaozi in the morning of the second day, pay New Year greetings, chat at home, play mahjong, set off firecrackers and watch the Spring Festival Evening. ...

It seems that every node has something to do, but the content is boring, and during the Chinese New Year, it is most taboo for you to hide and do your own thing, because everyone will be afraid of snubbing you, or feel that you are unsociable, so they enthusiastically pull you into the melon seeds to chat.

Therefore, even if you feel bored sometimes, you should cater to it with a smiling face, because no one wants to spoil everyone's fun during the New Year.

Concluding remarks

For those of us who are used to staying in the city, our hometown seems to be becoming more and more strange. Although it is approaching urbanization a little bit, it is still too slow and the progress is not great, so it cannot be "heart-warming".

But for parents who have lived in their hometown all their lives, their hometown is still their favorite home, because their lost youth and life track are hidden here, which is their foundation.

Moreover, no matter how much we hate going back to our hometown, our parents will always be eager for us to go home and spend the New Year with them, so that the almost deserted yard can be restored to its former excitement and let them feel the happiness of their children and grandchildren around their knees.

Perhaps, starting from this point, knowing our hometown and accompanying our parents is the biggest motivation for us to rush home!