The consequences of "children's words are unscrupulous"

My home is in the countryside. I have three brothers and one sister. When the eldest brother got married, the second brother was in high school, my sister and brother were in junior high school, and I was in primary school.

Seeing that so many people in the family spend money but don't make money, my sister-in-law quarreled with her eldest brother and wanted to live a separate life.

Mom and dad are afraid that outsiders will say that they just got married and separated from their daughter-in-law and have a bad reputation. They condescended to do little things to accommodate their eldest sister-in-law and refused to let her do any work. They also gave her a separate stove for every meal, so that the eldest brother could take it to their new house to eat.

Even so, the eldest sister-in-law didn't give up. She quarreled with her eldest brother for three days, which made her family restless all day.

It is not easy to bring up the eldest brother's daughter, Lan Lan, to one year old. Mom and dad had to agree to separate from their eldest brother and let them move to the newly built house.

As for the fields and vegetable gardens, let the eldest sister-in-law choose for herself. Choose the piece you want and put it where you want it.

After leaving home, my eldest brother went to Guangdong to work, leaving only my eldest sister-in-law and niece at home.

Because my niece is still young, although the fields and vegetable gardens are separated, my parents still help to plant crops and vegetables for them, and my sister-in-law just sits and collects them.

When my niece was 6 years old, my sister-in-law gave birth to another son. My mother is too busy to help my sister-in-law with the children. My sister-in-law is very picky.

But my mother is really too busy. With so many fields and food and clothing for a large family, I can only take time to pick out the dishes and send them to her house. Sometimes I am too busy to send it, and my sister-in-law will send my niece to pick it in the vegetable garden.

Once, my niece went to the vegetable garden to pick vegetables, and saw two super-large eggplants and cucumbers, which were actually seeds left by my mother. My niece didn't know, so she picked them.

Mom happened to go to the vegetable garden and saw it, so she said to her niece, "Lanlan, let me know when you come to the vegetable garden to pick vegetables in the future." You see, you quietly picked the seeds I left behind. It's too old to eat. It's a pity that I have no seeds next year. Remember, no one is allowed to pick vegetables in the future. "

Hearing this, my niece burst into tears. Mother didn't care, picked tender eggplant and cucumber for her and told her niece to go home.

Who knows that at noon the next day, my mother was cooking in the kitchen when my sister-in-law suddenly rushed in angrily. Without saying anything, she grabbed her mother's hair and threw her mother to the ground, kicking and saying, "You old Bussy, why do you want me to eat your food?"

Mother was unprepared, her hair was pulled out by her sister-in-law, and she was punched and kicked by her sister-in-law. She struggled to get up and said, "When did I say I didn't want you to eat my food?"

Sister-in-law slapped her mother again and said, "Light light came back to tell me yesterday. She said you told her not to pick vegetables in the garden in the future. Children can't lie. Can I still wronged you? " If you don't take care of my children and won't let me eat your food, then don't eat it. "As she spoke, she picked up my mother's chair sitting in front of the stove at ordinary times and smashed two large iron pots on the stove. Suddenly, two iron pots fell apart, and the eldest sister-in-law was unwilling and smashed the table next to her.

This is not Japanese yet. Sister-in-law walked towards the hall with a chair in her hand, ready to continue smashing. Just when dad came back from outside, he snatched the chair from her hand and shouted, "Huang Ying, what are you doing?"

Sister-in-law didn't say anything when she saw dad coming back. She turned her head and walked out, muttering, "I don't think any old busi will dare to tell me not to eat vegetables in the future?"

Mom was so angry that she almost passed out crying in the kitchen, and dad was shaking with anger. This is really "when people sit at home, disaster falls from the sky."

Afterwards, we learned that my niece went back and said to her sister-in-law, "Mom, grandma won't let me pick vegetables in the garden in the future." Sister-in-law, that's not bad I thought that if you didn't take care of my children and let me eat vegetables, no one would live a good life, so the opening scene happened.

In fact, my mother just won't let my niece pick vegetables alone, for fear of picking the seeds left by her again.

Later, when my eldest brother came back from Guangdong, he heard that my sister-in-law had beaten my mother and wanted to divorce her anyway.

Fortunately, my parents are more reasonable, but they tried their best to persuade my eldest brother that this was all a misunderstanding caused by children's misinformation, and told my eldest brother to forgive my eldest sister for the sake of two children.

So the eldest brother forced the eldest sister-in-law to kneel down and apologize to my mother, and my mother quickly stopped her. She just said seriously, "Huang Ying, you have been in my house for so many years. Don't you have any idea about me and your father? " Light light blue is so small, the news must have shortcomings. If you don't ask, reach out and fight. If I fight back, I may not be able to beat you, but why don't I fight back? I just don't want to lose both sides, let this family break up and let outsiders see jokes. As the saying goes,' a big family is a big business', and you are also a mother. Everything you say and do will affect your child's later life. In the future, I hope you can be a good wife and mother! "

Sister-in-law bowed her head in shame, plopped down in front of her mother and sincerely said to her, "mom, I'm sorry, I was wrong." I thought children wouldn't lie, but I didn't expect to wronged you. Please forgive me, regardless of the villain? " Mother smiled and nodded.

Since then, eldest sister-in-law is completely different from before. She not only respects my parents, but also sends her niece to them to taste any delicious food and take care of our brothers and sisters.

Now my parents are over 80 years old and they are in good health. My niece, Lan Lan University, settled in Beijing after graduation. Her daughter is 4 years old. My nephew Komatsu is also married and his son is half a year old. Our family has become the first big family in the village with four generations living under one roof.

More importantly, our big family has been quarreling with Mei Mei, and no one has ever been red-faced, which makes the villagers envious.

Through this incident, I also understand the following reasons:

(1) Sometimes children talk nonsense, which is really terrible. Perhaps the child said it unintentionally, but if the adults interpret it excessively, it may lead to misunderstanding and tragedy.

For example, my sister-in-law, my mother's intention is to ask my niece to tell her next time she picks vegetables, not to go alone, so as not to pick the seeds she left behind. My niece is young, so I understand that my grandmother won't let her pick vegetables, which has aroused the dissatisfaction of my sister-in-law.

When adults hear what children say, they must not just listen to one side of the story, but must ask why, so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstanding.

If my sister-in-law didn't raise her hand when she came to see her mother, she wouldn't have done it.

After all, children are too young to fully understand what adults say.

(3) After misunderstanding occurs, it is necessary to communicate in time, especially between relatives. It is best to roll with the punches and roll with the punches. We can't let the contradiction worsen and cause lifelong regret.

"Home and everything will flourish", which will never change! Especially between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, don't make a fuss about a little thing, and the family will be ruined.

Like my mother, the innocent daughter-in-law beat her black and blue, but she just held back the pain and refused to let her eldest brother and sister-in-law divorce, giving her a chance to correct her mistakes and saving a big family and a small family.

In fact, it is not terrible for children to talk nonsense. What is terrible is the adults' interpretation of the meaning of music.

What the child said was obviously unintentional, and when it was heard by adults, it became another meaning. If there are old grievances or others fanning the flames, it may cause great misunderstanding and irreparable tragedy.

Therefore, as an adult, it is best not to take it to heart and laugh it off when you hear a child's childish words.

In this way, each of us will live happily, and we will not bother ourselves, tie ourselves in a cocoon and harm others and ourselves, right?

The first day of the annual reading and writing growth camp 155.

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