Guo Da Statham joked.

When I was a child, I saw Guo Da Statham's sketches. He has already told the truth in the song: as long as you live better than me, I can't stand it. Just when I was young, I didn't know the world and the friendship between people. True or false!

This sentence can also be said that as long as you are better than me, I can't stand it.

20 19 in may, I completely broke off the relationship with my old friend who had been in contact for ten years. Later, I recalled where our contradictions were ignited, all because of the participation of the other mother. Is it like talking about the bride price when talking about marriage? Of course, we finally separated, not because of this. But this is definitely a milestone in my life. This tells you that sometimes you don't have to do anything, just be yourself, which is wrong in some relationships.

Before her mother got involved in this relationship, we believed that no one in the world should know each other better than me. We can talk until midnight or we can talk until midnight. We can meet to watch the ball game, or go to the food stall in the middle of the night to celebrate the goal with a group of old people; We can take books to Tsinghua for self-study, or we can eat and talk with them. We chatted on the road, from life to work to feelings, and asked each other, "Which idiom do you think is the most handsome?" "The army is under pressure." We survived many difficult times and had many memories of soul mates. No one knows each other better than we do. Even our mutual friends know that we are the best. I will give a red envelope for her mother's birthday; Her family came to Beijing, and I bought food and gifts for dinner. I never thought that starting from doing these things for her mother was the fuse to end our friendship. This is what I thought of later.

I think we hurt each other in this matter. She was hurt indirectly by me, and I was hurt directly by her. I remember once, she sent a screenshot among our friends and said, My mother praised you again and said that she wanted me to move, too. Click on that screenshot, which is the running record I just sent. I felt something was wrong at that time, and then I said, I haven't run for a long time either, so I'm going out for a walk today. Let's do it together next time. Next sentence: My mother thinks you are good, and I look like a loser.

I was walking home with sweat on my back. But at that moment, I didn't know whether it was the running or her words. It looks like a farce between friends. I often talk to Xiaozi like this, and everything is fine. But she's different. Her mother's evaluation occupies a large proportion in her life. All her efforts are to make her mother stop denying it, even once, and give her an encouragement. I understand all this very well. But unfortunately, I thought she was very important to me, so her mother was also my mother. I didn't realize it was a war at all. Just like when I was young, my mother fed other children, but let herself cry and eat at the same time. My friend has been waiting for my mother's spoon for thirty years. I was cut off. I am the one who is fed.

I remembered a sentence that Wendu Tao said in an interview program: "Some people feel uncomfortable when looking at others. This has nothing to do with having money or not. This is related to his inner wants and needs. "

We don't belong to this category, but we are also one of the branches. One of your strengths is just a scar in the other person's heart. No matter what you do, touching this scar will only make the wound bleed again. In a sense, we are all allies who are not recognized by our mother. But now, my mother actually recognizes that you are particularly excellent, so our balance is tilted. You will be a man, you will be positive, and I will be sad and useless. There will be cracks when there is contrast.

I am also very wronged. I also have my own position. You put a screenshot of my mother praising me in the group. For me, it is to roast me on the fire. After all, I don't know what happened to you. I have done nothing wrong. This behavior has undoubtedly led our relationship into a minefield, either cautiously or explosively. Neither outcome is a good thing in a relationship. So, we need to chat, but it is impossible to chat. So this is an impasse.

I say this a little more because I just talked to a few friends about a topic: Do people around me want others to live better than themselves?

Envy is human nature. So I don't want people around me to live better than me, which can be understood as a normal thing. But it's still a mystery. People's diversity is to broaden their knowledge.

Implication: I can accept that you are similar to me, or even better. But don't exceed my ability. Because it means: we are no longer equal. I don't want to admit that I can't be with you. I don't want this conservation relationship to change. If you destroy your guilt, if you are guilty, I will punish you.

10 years ago, your poor and rich relatives expressed sympathy and often gave some help; Ten years later, your family is better, the house you built is taller than him, your child is admitted to a famous university, and life at home is getting better, which he can't accept. "I'm not getting better. How can you?"

I went back to my hometown many years ago and met my friends in junior high school on the way. She asked me where I worked, and I said in Beijing. She turned away at once and finally said, "You are different from me." "Originally, we are all the same. How can you be better than me? We are no longer the same person. "

Hint: Your success must come from unknown sources.

There used to be a beautiful girl in the village who went out to work in her teens because of poor family conditions. A few years later, I returned to my hometown, bought a new house for my parents, and gave the elderly100000 yuan. Now the village gossip has begun to "solve the case": it is said that she earned it as a prostitute outside (this word is really hard to say), otherwise she could not get hundreds of thousands without studying. The fire in everyone's heart didn't reach other people's homes, but they couldn't sleep day and night, and they gossiped clearly, and rumors passed around, and the villagers no longer paid attention to that one. After the girl left, her family had to move out of the village.

But they don't know how hard it is for girls to work outside and keep learning to improve themselves. Engaged in sideline business at the same time, through years of efforts, opportunities have increased. Village women envy young girls for their beauty and earning money, but they can't go back to the furnace to rebuild. Therefore, it is also a way to comfort yourself by slandering others.

This is probably the human instinct that human beings carry with them. Everyone has it, but it's always harder for people who can't help it. In the final analysis, comparison is a kind of resistance to unfair fate.

One is from Zhihu: A high school girl looks ordinary, but the boy she likes likes likes the most beautiful girl in the class, so she learns to dissect and dismember that beautiful girl. "If he likes you, I will make you disappear." The distance from jealousy to crime is not as far as I thought.

Interestingly, these people have something in common:

First of all, you see, they always ignore the efforts behind others' success, and ignore that what they get requires effort and cost.

Secondly, we never look at problems from a developmental perspective. People will change with time. Besides, how much do you know about a person?

Third, I don't look in the mirror very much, but I often let others "take a piss and look in the mirror." I can't do it myself. It is much better to pass on contradictions than to find problems by yourself.

Fourth, again, all bad attempts to others are caused by the unfairness of their own struggle against fate. Failure to tolerate and understand others will eventually narrow your own path. As for those who embark on the road of crime, they will ......

After combing these, you will actually find that people who don't want you to live better than him are all passers-by on the road of life. Clean up the general relationship and freeze the memory of "love" here. People should look forward.

How many have experienced many such things, enough to understand a few things:

1, no one expects you to be good, which is an indisputable fact and the foundation of human nature. Insist on doing your own thing and let people who don't like it get used to it. You can't give up your pursuit for others;

2. To share communication, talk to friends who know in the circle. Sharing is also a kind of release and learning. Sharing with the wrong person, the other person is not good at it, and listening becomes educating others. Therefore, China's old saying certainly sums up human nature: people talk to people and talk nonsense. It seems appropriate to use it here;

Making friends with the right person is as important as finding the right person to fall in love. Some relationships are inappropriate, so stay away and give up. Originally, there were many passers-by on the road of life, and few came to the end;

4, don't trample on others' self-esteem, don't try to insult others with quick talk. Big principle: Life is important!

Finish writing! I want to drink, but I can't wronged myself!