On "rationality"

When I was young, I was impulsive. I once had a disagreement because of the same thing, but after a quarrel, my head was hot and I ended a relationship rashly.

Now that I think about it, how naive it was at that time! There was no emotional problem between the two people, only to blame that we were unwilling to compromise at that time, so that we were "old and dead" for a long time. Even if the misunderstanding was cleared up and passed, after all, times have changed, and every time I think about it, there will always be a little regret.

For such a thing, people will always find all kinds of excuses and excuses, such as youthful, hot-headed and so on. It seems that all shortcomings and mistakes are completely covered up by the word "young". That's right-people always have to find a seemingly natural explanation for themselves and others!

People often say that "impulse is the devil"! I seem to have read a similar statement in a magazine, which means that the IQ of the brain is almost zero when people are impulsive, and rationality does not exist at all!

A father got a call from his teacher saying that his son didn't go to school this afternoon. He was so angry that he dragged his son to fight until he was seriously injured and hospitalized. Afterwards, I learned that it was my mother who took the child to the hospital-my son had been having a fever that day, and he and his wife were both busy with business and were not there!

If the father had a little patience, listened to the child's explanation and figured out the ins and outs of the matter, he would not have caused such physical and mental harm to the child.

Reason is really a good thing. With it, people will not be confused and lose control of their emotions. Reason can keep people's thinking ability, distinguish between right and wrong of all people and things, and know what can and can't be done, thus avoiding some emotional mistakes.

Doing things like this is the same as being a man. I often hear people say, "Don't look at a person once or twice, what is his character!" " I don't doubt that some people are "discerning people", but this blind cognitive way is completely different. Close communication between people is the basis of fundamentally understanding each other. It is obviously unfair, paranoid and unreasonable to judge a person only by one or two small things or superficial contact.

There will always be some shortcomings in the world, and the so-called "gold is not enough, and no one is perfect" is the truth. Most people will only magnify the shortcomings of others when they are irrational, but it is easy to ignore the quality of each other's flash. Only through in-depth and meticulous understanding can we make a rational and comprehensive evaluation of people.

A person's irresponsible remarks may only represent your own point of view, but ignore the invisible cognitive interference to the people around you. Although I would like to believe that most people have their own rational judgments when facing some people and things, there are always some people whose way of thinking is inherently inert. They are used to blindly following others, so they seldom take the initiative to think.

I remember hearing people say such things. The man in the incident worked outside all the year round, and the woman took a pair of children at home. Although life is hard, this family lives well. Once I went home alone, just walked to the entrance of the village and met an acquaintance. The sneaky man told the man to go out as little as possible and look after his backyard ... The man was very worried. He didn't do any work and stayed at home all day. First it was stalking, monitoring and torturing, and then it actually developed into a combination of fists and feet. The unbearable woman ran away from home with a pair of children in a rage, and the good family broke up like this!

No matter what the purpose of this so-called acquaintance is, we will interpret it as a kind reminder or a simple joke for the time being, but the consequences are obvious. Maybe it's nothing, but I don't know that the speaker doesn't listen to his heart. Just for a casual remark, a man lost his reason and judgment, and finally ended up separated.

In fact, many passionate crimes are the bitter fruit of impulsiveness. Think twice before doing anything, make a cup of tea, take a deep breath, calm down, empty all negative things and make everything go smoothly. "If there are no ghosts inside, how can there be thieves outside?" ? Many times what really hurts you is not what others have done, but your irrational and restless heart!

The rapid development of modernization makes people feel like clockwork. The pressure of work, the burden of life, complex environment and excessive demand make people exhausted. However, the more so, the more we should keep a calm mind, an indifferent attitude and a rational thinking.

Don't ask for great achievements and achievements, just ask for a stable and worry-free life!

(20 17. 12.22)