"At the beginning, you didn't want the bride price, and now you want to hit my son's idea." What if mom is unreasonable?

Marriage means that two people tolerate each other and two families give in to each other. Sometimes when the two families have different views on three things, it will also bring a lot of trouble to the couple. Generally, at this time, both husband and wife need to reconcile in their own homes to achieve a relatively neutral result. If not, it will also lead to the end of their marriage.

The premise of marriage is that two people know each other and love each other, and the three views are consistent. Two people can tolerate each other for each other's sake and prevent marriage from becoming the grave of love.

There is a saying: "People will meet two kinds of people in their life, one is amazing and the other is gentle." The former collides with youth and the latter supports life. Love should be mutual. When a person opens the privilege of love to another person on his own initiative, he will certainly hope to get the same response, because only being pampered can give confidence to love.

Three years of pain, seven years of itching. When two people have been together for a long time, there will always be some big and small things that lead to conflicts between them. Usually it takes two people to insist at this time. After persistence, there won't be much difference between them, because you already know each other's bottom line and will take a step back for each other. This is the tacit understanding between husband and wife, which is not available between lovers.

Now most people think that housework is shared by husband and wife. However, some parents always think that the housework is done by the woman. His son is a treasure, and you are the little princess at home. Think differently. In the eyes of other parents, what you said is wrong. At this time, parents of both sides need to have a sense of boundary in their children's marital affairs, know how to let go, and don't ask their children to have their own families. Parents who know how to think about their children will have filial piety in their later years, and their families will be happy, otherwise it will affect the feelings of husband and wife and produce resentment, thus creating estrangement. This is also a time bomb, which will trigger future quarrels between the two.

Chun-Li was born in the countryside, and her family has a younger brother who is seven years younger than her. Both parents prefer boys to girls. Originally, Chun-Li was very happy before he was seven years old, and all three of them were beautiful. However, since her younger brother was born, Xiaoli's status has been getting lower and lower. /kloc-a little after 0/0, she cooks for four people, cleans the house every day and picks up her brother after school. If she is late, she will have to go to school.

Later, she gradually got used to this kind of life, knowing that her parents would not spend too much money on herself, so she always cared about her grades and went to public schools, regardless of her parents. She went to study in a big city by herself. She studied better, but what her parents care about is how much it costs to go to a big city, so that she doesn't have to study, go home, work and get married. So for four years in college, Xiaoli worked part-time, got a scholarship and supported herself.

It was not until a few years later that she found a boyfriend who she liked and had similar views. Although there is no money at home, he is also a potential stock and can earn again. Xiaoli's parents think it's good to raise their son well, and they don't want bride price money when they see that the man's family is in trouble.

Husband and wife lived together for two years, and the man lived up to expectations. He studied computer and started a company with his friends. Now he is doing well. He can earn more than one million yuan every year. You can also buy a house in a big city and pay the mortgage slowly, but Xiaoli's younger brother is almost old enough to buy a wedding room and car for his son and marry a wife. Unfortunately, the two old people have accumulated money for most of their lives and can only buy a better car, and there is not enough money at home.

One day, Xiaoli's parents came to see Xiaoli. Xiaoli chatted happily about her favorite house and wanted to ask her parents' opinions. Xiaoli's mother interrupted her before she finished speaking. Parents said that they came to ask Xiaoli and his wife to pay for their son's wedding room. Xiaoli was shocked. She also knew that her parents were biased, but she didn't expect to buy a house for her brother with the money she bought. Xiaoli's husband also disagreed after knowing it, but her parents-in-law could not refuse.

Later, Xiaoli's mother-in-law came from her own home and quarreled with her parents. At first, Xiaoli's parents said they didn't want a bride price, and now they want money, one of which is a suite. However, Xiaoli's parents take this for granted. When they argued with the man, they said, "At the beginning, my daughter didn't want bride price money. Now that you have money, it is also appropriate to help your son buy a house! " The two families also made a big fuss about it. Originally, the couple with Meimei had quarreled many times because of their parents' problems, which was almost impossible. Xiaoli went to tell her parents that she and her husband were going to divorce if this continued, but her parents said they would not leave until they bought your brother's wedding room.

Her parents are not the most unacceptable. There may still be such a patriarchal family in this world, but we don't feel it when we live in a happy family.

Just like Fan in Ode to Joy, her family ignored her daughter and desperately wanted a son. It is not easy for her to work hard for her family in Beijing alone. She just cares about her son and asks Fan to give him money every month. As a result, Fan is almost a senior in high school. He doesn't have his own house, so he can only buy fake bags. At first, she was looked down upon by Qu Xiaoyu, and her suffering could only be swallowed in her stomach. After all, others can't help her, and she can't break up with her family.

Everyone can't choose their own birth, but if you really live in a family with a serious preference for sons over daughters, I think you can stop seeing each other, because such family members, besides sucking blood from you like leeches and forcing you to submit by moral kidnapping, really don't need to let you have any more contact, because they will only drag you down and won't bring you any benefits.

Girls can cut their hair short, shave their heads, watch football games, wear men's clothes, smoke and drink, play racing cars and buy robots.

Boys can wear long hair, earrings, makeup, skirts, like pink, and collect Barbie dolls.

Girls study if they want, and boys cry if they want.

The world is like a huge material library, from which we can choose anything we like. Gender should never be a limitation.

When Chun-Li told me what had happened to her, I could only comfort her more, because I couldn't encourage her to break up with her parents, and I couldn't tell her husband that I felt sorry for her. All I can do is to make Xiaoli not so sad, enlighten her and take her to some interesting places to ease her mood. In fact, I can do very little, but I am more grateful to my parents and myself.

When the sky is dark enough, the stars will shine. beard

The more difficult it is, the more it can show the extraordinary will of the strong; The darker the society, the more brilliant the human nature of saints will be.

The so-called "the hardest thing in life is to practice." When you gritted your teeth to survive the most difficult days, you have lit up the darkness around you and become a shining star.

When you feel that you can't cross the hurdle in front of you, don't think it's despair, because all the good things in the world will come to you as long as you cross this hurdle.