"I asked for a bride price of 300,000 when I got married, and now I want to pay my husband." Can I not return it?

Marriage, bride price money is essential, everyone has different requirements for bride price money, some are high, some are low, and some people value feelings more than bride price money.

However, after marriage, they usually give each other a dowry. As for the dowry, it depends entirely on how much the family gives.

Nowadays, people demand a lot of money for bride price, which is generally more than100000 yuan, and even higher in some places, but there will be more dowry.

The high bride price money often makes people breathless, but in order to get married, the man's family will not hesitate to make up the bride price money, will not hesitate to borrow from relatives and friends, and even borrow usury.

Married a wife with the borrowed bride price money, and finally both husband and wife have to pay back the money together, which affects the relationship between husband and wife and may even lead to divorce.

Therefore, there is absolutely no need to pay a high bride price, and the woman should also consider the man. She can ask for the bride price according to the other person's family situation, instead of opening the bride price money indiscriminately, so that she will be happy after marriage.

1.

Xiao He talked with her husband for a long time before talking about marriage. At that time, both of them met their parents and were quite satisfied with each other.

However, Xiao He's parents have higher requirements for bride price. They offered the man a bride price of 300,000 yuan and said to Xiao He: "The bride price is too low, and the man will not cherish you in the future."

The man's family conditions are average, and the money saved in these years has not reached 300 thousand, which is a bit unacceptable for Xiao He's bride price request.

However, Xiao He's parents refused to let go at all, so the man's family had to take out all their savings for many years, which was still hundreds of thousands short. No way, they had to borrow money from relatives, friends and loan sharks to make up 300 thousand bride price.

The man's family gave 300 thousand bride price, so he didn't buy a house. After marriage, Xiao He lived with her husband and parents-in-law.

My father-in-law works in a nearby factory, and my mother-in-law is in poor health. She takes medicine every month. My father-in-law is not very kind to Xiao, and life at home is also very poor.

Usually, my mother-in-law cooks and has no meat for three meals. The rest of the dishes are scalded and then scalded, not to mention eating fruits and snacks.

Xiao-he can't eat spicy food, and when he eats spicy food, he feels uncomfortable. But every day after work, my mother-in-law will cook a spicy table and only cook some non-spicy dishes for Xiao He. Xiao He said she wanted to eat something else, but her mother-in-law was unhappy. She said, "If you want such colorful gifts, our family can't afford such a good thing, so we have to go back to our parents' house to eat. "

Xiao He put down his chopsticks and went back to his room. She didn't eat all night, and her husband didn't come in to persuade her.

2.

Because of this incident, Xiao He and her mother-in-law had a cold war for many days. They often eat out before going home. When my mother-in-law saw it, she was very dissatisfied and said, "With such colorful gifts, I knew I would eat well outside every day."

Xiao He was very wronged after hearing this, and the bride price money given by her husband's family was not in her hand. Is it necessary to say something to her with the bride price money every time?

On one occasion, Xiao He came home from work, but he heard her husband calling outside to say that the loan had been repaid.

Xiao He didn't know until he asked. It turned out that when her husband gave the bride price, he borrowed hundreds of thousands from outside and had to pay back more than 10 thousand loans every month, which greatly exceeded his salary. He had to go to other platforms to borrow, borrow, return and borrow, and he was slowly stuck.

After listening to her husband's words, Xiao He never thought that the bride price money at that time was actually borrowed by her husband.

Xiao He quarreled with her husband and went home angrily. Her parents-in-law didn't say anything when they saw her coming back, and they didn't call her at dinner.

I had a cold war with my husband for several days I really can't help it when he repays the loan. I asked Xiao He if I could get some money from home and return the borrowed bride price first.

Xiao-he thought about it. Life at home is coming to an end, so it is also appropriate to get some money from home to help her. Unexpectedly, some time ago, her brother got married and her parents had given her 300,000 as a bride price.

Xiao He had no choice but to pay his debts with her husband. He will give half of his salary to her husband every month and dare not buy cosmetics and new clothes.

Mother-in-law's money for taking medicine every month is also small, and there is hardly any money at home. The economic pressure at home is so great that Xiao He can hardly hold on.

3.

I forgot where I saw such a sentence: "The bride price is like a boulder, which is on the head of the suitor and stifles the marriage."

Originally, getting married was a happy thing. Don't make the other person breathless for the bride price. As long as the husband and wife are happy and don't be so colorful, they can be very happy after marriage.

If the bride price is too high at the time of marriage, the husband's family is likely to dissolve the engagement or can't lend the bride price money.

Once the in-laws borrow the bride price money, the husband and wife will get married in the future, and they will also pay the bride price money together after marriage. Such a marriage will not be happy.

Although women can't get married without bride price money, they can't pay too high a bride price. She can pay the bride price according to each other's family strength.

Now many tragedies are caused by high bride price. It is most important to give each other some space properly, reduce the pressure of marriage and create a happy marriage with feelings.