Examples of the composition of the material "Thought decides success or failure"

I heard a story: a little girl was lying on the windowsill, eagerly watching people bury her beloved puppy outside the window, and couldn't help crying. Grandma came gently from behind and pulled the little girl to another window to let her enjoy the rose garden. Gradually, the little girl's mood was much better. The old man picked up his granddaughter and said, "Son, you opened the wrong window!" " "

How many frustrations there are in life, there are many windows of memories. You need to constantly adjust the window of your heart to feel the eternal sunshine. This is a good attitude.

-What is mentality?

In ancient China, there was no monograph on mentality, but related discussions were readily available. In the thirty-seventh chapter of Romance of the Three Kingdoms, the three brothers visited the thatched cottage and saw the couplet written by Zhuge Liang: indifferent and peaceful. This couplet was written by Zhuge Liang to his son, Zhuge Zhan, in the Book of Commandments: "People with a good attitude often make continuous progress through meditation and introspection, and hone their strong character through diligence and simplicity. If you don't have a clear mind, you can't achieve a firm ambition. If you don't have a peaceful mind, you can't achieve a lofty ideal. " Explain that a good attitude is closely related to career. The static mentality here does not mean that you have no ambition, but that you want to achieve "Zhiyuan" by learning "clear-headed". In addition, Lao Tzu once said, "Being calm is the best, winning without arrogance or rashness". This is the best artistic conception of what I call "peace of mind" today; Tao Yuanming's "being far away from himself" shows his noble and elegant demeanor; Bai Juyi felt that "the body and mind turned peaceful and the smoke scene was indifferent." It expresses that he abandons distractions and calms his inner refined realm.

In my opinion, mentality is a manifestation of a person's personality, a psychological response to reality, or a person's psychological endurance to things. Mentality determines people's thoughts and feelings about things, and also determines people's attitude towards career and life. Psychology believes that mentality dominates people's words and deeds, and negative mentality will have a bad influence on work, while positive mentality will promote work. Employees with superior conditions may not have an optimistic and enterprising attitude, and a harmonious working environment can fully mobilize people's enthusiasm appropriately. In the words of ordinary people: you can use the leadership of others, and you are exhausted and don't know how to die.

In addition to the external environment, the main factors that determine the mentality also depend on the synthesis of people's personality, ideas and values. Therefore, the theory of traditional Chinese medicine holds that mentality determines health or not. I said: Your attitude determines everything.

The institute of American medical college once did an experiment: 100 students were divided into three groups. The first group is stable, gentle, content and cautious; The second group is positive, positive, cheerful and lively; The third group is sensitive, impatient and never satisfied. A few years later, the institute found that 77% of the people in the third group suffered from cancer, heart disease and mental disorders. 3%, the other two groups were 25% and 26% respectively.

Some people say, "Your heart is your real master." Another philosopher said, "Either you control life or life controls you." Therefore, it is not difficult to understand why Beethoven "grabbed the throat of fate". People often say "he who sees through the world of mortals", but this sentence is full of praise. If you really see the world of "natural selection, survival of the fittest" and never feel how great you are, then your mind will be peaceful and calm, and there will be few twists and turns; If you are too vain and narcissistic, you will feel that the world is unfair and people are not old, then you will have a fighting mentality. However, if you struggle with the world, your arms can't twist your thighs. Depression, loss and depression have become your daily life.

-A good attitude is cultivated.

The famous scholar Zhou once told a fable: A young woman jumped into the river and was rescued by a fisherman. The fisherman asked her, "You are still young, why did you kill yourself?" The young woman was heartbroken and said, "I have only been married for two years. My husband likes the new and hates the old, and abandoned me. My child died unfortunately." What do you mean I'm still alive? "The fisherman asked again," How did you live two years ago? "The young woman thought for a moment and said," At that time, I was free and carefree, and I had a good life. " "Did you have a husband and children at that time?" "No," "Oh, it's just that fate brought you back to the past. Now you are free and carefree, aren't you?" After listening to the fisherman's words, the young woman was suddenly enlightened and went ashore with a clear conscience.

People's sadness and troubles should be displayed on a certain platform, and this platform is your standard and expectation for life. When the requirements are high, the platform will naturally get up. In fact, different platforms are just different lifestyles and feelings. The poor eat tofu so sweetly, but the rich may not be fluent in eating delicacies. This is all insanity. Since the best medicine and the most beautiful ingredients are not as important as health, why bother yourself? Maybe you have to ask: that's easy for you to say. Do you think happiness can be happiness?

A man picked up a young Shan Ying on the mountain. He took the baby eagle home and put it in the henhouse. More than a year has passed, and this eagle is gradually full-fledged and has the appearance of an adult Shan Ying. The man threw it into the air, but Shan Ying said that nothing could fly, so Shan Ying had thought of himself as a chicken. Finally, he threw it from the top of the mountain. The eagle fell like a stone. In order to save its life, it flapped its wings desperately. In this way, it finally flew! Hamlet said, "To be or not to be, this is a serious topic." When life is threatened, the best thing you should do, and the only thing you can do, is to quickly adjust your life coordinates, whether it is life or death. Even if you die, you should face life with a smile, fight against fate to the end and draw a happy ending for yourself. If you turn the corner, then you will truly realize the true meaning of life. Therefore, a good attitude is cultivated by self-cultivation.

People's personalities are different, and the environment and channels for cultivating a good attitude are also different. "Sex is similar, learning is far away", which is the theory of human nature advocated by the ancients. I remember that Mencius had a theory of good personality and Xunzi had a theory of bad personality. On the one hand, they advocate "karma", on the other hand, they all demonstrate from the perspective of "sexual similarity" "Sex" is human's innate natural nature, and "habit" is human's acquired social ability. Although people are born, the educational environment will also have an inestimable impact on people's acquired ability. In other words, a person's personality is not static, and the resulting mentality is easier to change. This is what people often say about psychological quality education. It is an indisputable fact that people's good mentality can be created.

Of course, we can't deny that there are opportunities and circumstances for people's success. Bill Gates once said: "It is necessary to admit that people are born with unequal reality." People's mentality is closely related to people's experiences and hardships. It is impossible for rich children to experience the taste of "a penny for a penny", and it is very unlikely that a garbage collector can become a banker. Children who are favored by the next generation hate suffering the least, and children born after "90s" seldom really hate Japanese militarism. This is a serious constraint of the environment on the mentality, and it is also the biggest obstacle to human thinking-inertia. I went to Qingdao by boat with a carsick man. I told him many jokes and stories along the way, which made him very excited. When he arrived at Qingdao pier, he was still wanting more. I asked him, "Why don't you get seasick?" Who knows that his voice did not fall, and he spit it out with a "wow". A depressed person's own inhibition is quite low, and a temporary good external environment can also activate his most primitive optimism. It seems that the biggest hidden danger that hinders a good mood is not others, but yourself.

I also read a story: there was a mother who loved her two sons very much. The eldest sells salt, and the second sells umbrellas. Although both children are very filial, the mother is always sad. It turned out that on rainy days, my mother was worried that the boss's salt was wet and could not be sold. It's sunny, and my mother is worried that the second child's umbrella won't sell. In this way, whether it is sunny or rainy, the old people are worried. There is a saying called "sunrise in the east, sunset in the west, sunny and affectionate." "There is no doubt about mountains and rivers, and there is another village." If my mother dialectically looks at it, the umbrella business of the boss is good in rainy days, and the salt business of the boss is not bad in sunny days. Anyway, her family also earns money, isn't it happiness?

-a good attitude makes a career.

An old lady in her seventies thinks that people should try their best to live a good mood no matter what they do. In spite of her family's opposition, she had a whim and learned to climb mountains. She has climbed several famous mountains in the world. Last year, at the age of 95, she climbed Mount Fuji in Japan, breaking the record of the oldest person to climb this mountain. She is the famous old lady Huda Cruz.

Miracles are created by people who are psychologically prepared. The only difference between winners and losers is their different mentality. Winners are indomitable and dare to challenge. His sense of honor comes from feeling the joy of success or failure; Losers are driven out of their wits, complaining, and always subject to objective interference and doubts about failure. Rousseau, a French thinker, said: "Faith is a passionate feeling that leads to great honor with unshakable hope and trust." There is an American who lost money in business at the age of 22, lost in running for the Senate at the age of 23, lost all his money again at the age of 24, and once again became a laughing stock when running for the Senate at the age of 39. At the age of 46, he began to run for the Senate and suffered a fiasco. At the age of 47, he whimsically ran for vice president and became the "mother of success". At the age of 49, he also ran for the Senate, and the outcome naturally failed. This shows that this person is really unlucky! However, at the age of 5 1, he finally successfully ran for president, ended the civil war and unified the United States. This is abraham lincoln.

There is an old song that says, "cherries are delicious, trees are hard to plant, and happiness will not fall from the sky!" " "An optimistic and open-minded attitude depends on your own feelings; A beautiful and magnificent life depends on your own development. A young man was sheltering from the rain under the eaves, and Guanyin walked by with an umbrella. The man pleaded, "Merciful Guanyin Bodhisattva, can you take me some way?" Guanyin replied, "I am in the rain, you are under the eaves, and there is no rain under the eaves." You don't need my help. The man came out at once, stood in the rain and said, "Now I'm in the rain, why don't you take me some way?" "Guanyin replied:" Now you and I are both in the rain, but I didn't get wet because of an umbrella. "You got wet in the rain because you didn't bring an umbrella, so it's not that I can help you, but that an umbrella can help you. What do you want from me? Go and find an umbrella yourself! " Then he disappeared in the rain. The next day, the man passed by the temple and met Guanyin worshipping his statue. The man asked Guanyin again, "aren't you Guanyin?" How can you still worship yourself? " Guanyin smiled and replied, "I met with difficulties, but I know that it is better to beg for myself than others!" " "

In the commodity economy society, cruel competition leads to indifference. To survive and promote development, people should not only struggle, but more importantly, adjust their mentality in time to adapt to the ever-changing trend of the times. A sociology professor in Peking University said: "Although we can't control the wind, we can adjust the sails." If disease can take away a person's life, then mentality is the most critical weight for your success or failure.

There is a story in America: a young Indian wants to enter this world. He first consulted the patriarch. The old patriarch thought about it and wrote him three words: "Don't be afraid." He said: "My secret of life is only six words, and I will only give you three words today. Think slowly! " "Decades have passed, and young people in the past have achieved great success, but at the same time they have also felt the hardships of the world. He returned to his hometown with emotion and went to visit the old clan again. But contrary to expectations, the old man has already passed away. The family took out a letter and said to him, "This is what the old clan leader promised you before his death. "He hurriedly opened the letter with three words on it:" No regrets! "

I don't know if you have noticed that it is much more difficult for people to look back on the past than to look forward to the future. This shows that God puts people's eyes in front, hoping that people will look forward instead of always looking back and regretting. It is of course necessary to sum up the past, but regret will definitely weaken your fighting spirit, make you cautious from now on, and cause a bad mentality.

Tolerance is the best way to cultivate a good attitude.

First of all, tolerance is not only good for others, but also good for yourself. Isn't there a fashionable saying that "women just have to be hard on themselves"? I also apply this sentence: people must be tolerant of themselves! Forgive yourself for being unwise, short, ugly, shallow and petty. The world has its own strengths. If you fight with others in everything, you will often lose your advantage and eventually get black and blue. You know, there are many people who are better than you. Only by admitting our own imperfections can we learn from each other's strengths and replace jealousy with a normal attitude of appreciating others. Only by being kind to yourself in this way will you find out how beautiful the world is! Work, life, study, picking up girls-ah, what a pleasant thing to have a girlfriend; Only by being kind to yourself in this way can you have time and energy to do what you like best. You may shake hands with opportunities instead of regretting for life.

Secondly, only with tolerance can we learn to give up and embark on the journey again. Tell another story in vain: I went shopping with my sister when I was a child. I don't know when she lost a glove. Those are her favorite cotton gloves! Unexpectedly, my sister thought about it and threw away the other glove. She also said in words: "What's the use of only one? Might as well throw away the other one, maybe the person who found it can still use it. Man, when it's time to give up, you must learn to give up. "

Learning to tolerate and give up is not only beneficial to physical and mental health, but also an essential tonic for winning popularity, family harmony and career success. Now there is a new social science called brinkmanship. For example, there are places to go abroad. Among the ten candidates, others have broken their heads and spared no effort to get this beautiful vacancy. Only you work quietly and silently. Can you believe it? The good job to Paris belongs to you. This is the charm of marginal figures! From June 5438 to February last year, I gave up the idea of pursuing click-through rate and focused on the strategy of "excellent writing". Only 13 articles were published in four months, of which 4 articles were reviewed by tea critics and 3 articles were adopted by relevant newspapers. This little achievement is not because of my level, but because I calm down and concentrate on writing. In my opinion, articles without utilitarian mentality are often good products.

Third, tolerance is the only way to avoid suffering. Legend has it that Hou Yi trained a good skill of wearing a hundred paces. One day, Wang Xia called Hou Yi to the palace and asked him to demonstrate his shooting skills. Wang Xia said: "In order to make this performance more exciting, I will make a reward and punishment rule: if you shoot, I will give you two thousand dollars;" Otherwise, I will cut you thousands of pieces of land. " After hearing this, Hou Yi said nothing, walked heavily and looked serious. He picked up the arrow, strung the string, posed, drew his bow and aimed. At this time, he thought of the great significance of his arrow, and unconsciously he was short of breath and his hands trembled. Whoosh, the arrow missed. Hou Yi was pale, but the second shot still missed. He had to put away his bow and arrow and leave the palace angrily. Wang Xia asked his men disappointedly, "This Houyi usually shoots an arrow, and he hits every shot. Why is he so depressed today? "

Being swayed by considerations of gain and loss is the instinct of all animals, which will cause invisible pressure and even endanger life at critical times. I remember a plot in Haoran's "Gold Bar": It is said that foxes are the most cunning animals, but hunters have many ways to catch foxes. The most typical coup is to dig a small deep pit in the ice and snow, dig the edge of the pit into the shape of the bottom of the pot, then pour ice on it and fill the pit with delicious meat. The advantage of this method is that the fox turns upside down, but can't turn around. And because of the body's inverted control, the hair is open and can be sold at a good price. In fact, the pit with ice is the most dangerous, and the fox knows this very well, but he is deceived by the consideration of gain and loss and is reluctant to leave.

Think about it, what's the difference between us humans and the fox that fell into the pit and died? You don't want to miss any good thing, the result may not be comprehensive, and you also miss the opportunity to slowly taste some kind of life fun.