The 35-year-old leftover woman gave her nephew 1000 a red envelope for the New Year, but she was ridiculed by the whole family: Is it wrong to be single?

Chinese New Year was originally a festive festival for family reunion, but I don't know when it started. More and more young people are afraid to go home for the New Year, especially single young people. Going home for the New Year is tantamount to public execution.

There will always be relatives telling you what to do, and even the closest family members will urge you to go on a blind date from time to time. They seem to be very kind, and they seem to be thinking about your lifelong events. I don't know how much harm this kind of kindness will do to single young people.

More and more young people choose to marry late or even not, which is not entirely their own reasons. In addition to the progress of ideas, the more important reason is that they have social pressures unimaginable in the previous generation.

Buying a house and buying a car are basically standard now. Who dares to get married easily before the career improves? When they meet some harsh families, they may not even be able to afford the bride price, so they choose to start a business first and then get married, mainly to give more protection to their married life in the future.

In addition to this reason, there is also an attitude towards love. In the past, people thought that they should get married and have children at a certain age. Whether there is love between two people or not, it is enough to see it right. After all, who do you live with?

However, with the progress of the times and the development of society, people's ideas have changed, especially young people. They no longer feel that it is the same to marry anyone, but are more willing to pursue love. If they don't meet the right person, even if the family urges them again, even if they are under great pressure, they will insist on quality before quantity until they meet the right person.

But the crux of the problem is that their families may not understand this idea, resulting in a generation gap and contradictions. Family members will urge marriage, and young people will fight hard and stick to themselves under great pressure in the name of "for your own good".

They lead a hard life, which stems not only from the pressure of life, but also from the pain of not being understood. Especially during the Spring Festival, this kind of pressure and pain will be infinitely magnified, so gradually, more and more young people are afraid to go home, let alone the New Year.

My friend Li Chen is a typical example. She is thirty-five years old and has never been married. She once had a boyfriend who had been in love for more than three years. She was going to get married, but she found that the other party had changed her mind. She couldn't stand such betrayal and resolutely cut off the future with each other. Until now, she is still alone.

Li Chen is an enterprising woman and should be regarded as a typical strong woman in the workplace, because she became the youngest management in the company before she was 30 years old. She not only bought a house and a car, but also saved some money. She said that with these, even if you don't get married all your life, you must have a good old age.

Of course, Li Chen is not a staunch unmarried person. She just thinks that there is no age to get married, and only people should get married, so she has always been a natural attitude. Love will not be rejected when it comes, nor will it complain when it doesn't come, nor will it disturb your inner order.

But her family may not think so, especially her parents, whose ideas are particularly conservative. In recent years, they have been worried that Li Cheng is not married, and they feel that they have lost face in front of relatives and friends, even losing face, so they have never given up urging marriage.

When Chen Lidu comes home every Spring Festival, she feels her head is big, but she can't help it. She can only say that she is trying to find and marry herself before she is forty.

Chen has a brother who got married before he was 30. Because he is the only child in the family, his parents live with his elder sister-in-law, especially after his nephew is born, so his parents have more reason to take care of their grandchildren. In this case, every time Li Chen goes home for the New Year, he feels like an outsider and looks particularly redundant.

She is not so much a member of this family as a relative, but she is unmarried and an unmarried daughter, so she is in a particularly embarrassing situation and has not been laughed at by her relatives and neighbors.

Li Cheng made psychological preparations early in the morning and secretly told herself that no matter what they said, she would be as patient as possible. After all, she doesn't see many people all the year round, and it's New Year's Day, and it's good to make money.

But her psychological defense line still collapsed, because on the first day of New Year's Day, she kindly gave her nephew 1000 red envelopes as lucky money. Unexpectedly, her nephew not only didn't say thank you, but also smiled.

"Aunt, why have you been living in my house? Is it because you can't get married? My mother said that if you don't get married, you will become an old maid. Old girls can be annoying, but I don't have much opinion of menstruation. "

At that moment, the smile on Li Cheng's face froze, and her heart instantly sank to the bottom. My nephew is still a child. He should know nothing about getting married or not. His family must have said too much, so he was affected. Whether he did it on purpose or not, she felt suffocated by this kind of malice.

As soon as my sister-in-law heard this, she quickly stopped her, pretended to twist the child's face and said to him, "If you talk nonsense again, I will hit you and beat you aside." Then she turned to Li Cheng and said, Children are not sensible and always like to talk nonsense. Don't think too much.

Li Cheng smiled wryly. At this time, her parents heard it, and her mother said, "Isn't it an obvious fact that you don't talk nonsense?" Children can't talk nonsense, and adults can't talk nonsense? How many relatives are waiting to see our jokes? I'm in my thirties and I'm not getting married. I don't know what to think. "

My mother was particularly bitter when she said this, and she deliberately curled her lips and pulled her throat, looking very disgusted. Li cheng can't stand it any longer. She felt that there was no place for her in this family, and she couldn't wait to pack up and leave on the spot.

But she put up with it. After all, it's the Spring Festival, and she has to put up with it for a few more days. Until then, her heart was completely cold. Originally, I was kind enough to give my nephew lucky money, but I didn't expect it to be ridiculed by the whole family. These jeers pierced Li Chen's heart like a knife and made her feel single, which was a mistake.

But then again, what's wrong with being single There is nothing wrong with being single. What is wrong is the prejudice of this world.

She hasn't met the right person yet, but she hasn't met her own destiny, just a little more enterprising and trying to make her life better. What's the matter?

By 20 18, the population living alone in China has accounted for 16% of the total population, that is to say, the population living alone is nearly 200 million, which shows that singles are gradually becoming a normal state.

Not all of these single people are not going to get married. They may just be waiting for their fate, so they have to choose to get married in the future, but the rest of us have no reason to laugh at them and look down on them.

Because this is just their own way of life, they didn't do anything wrong or hurt anyone. They're just not like us.

There is not only one way of life, and no one has stipulated that we must live in one way, so whether we are single or married, it is not a question of right or wrong. I just hope to be more tolerant of single people at this stage, no matter how old they are now, they have their own pace of life.