Twitter 46: The center of the moon, the lesson of blood

I am only one year older than my brother. Three months later, my mother's breast milk suddenly disappeared. Later, I learned that I was pregnant with my younger brother, and natural breast milk stopped after pregnancy. I'm only three months old. I'm starving, but my breast milk is gone. I'm worried about my parents. It was difficult to buy milk powder at that time. In fact, even if you can buy it casually, you have no money to buy it. In this way, sometimes I eat milk powder, sometimes I drink porridge, and sometimes I eat condensed milk, so I grow up. It may be related to malnutrition from childhood. As long as I can remember, I have been in poor health, often taking medicine and seeing doctors everywhere.

In his 40 s, he gave birth to a second child by caesarean section. After giving birth to a child, the physical condition is of course extremely poor. My husband said that I worked too hard, so I must have a good month and take the opportunity to recuperate. So after a trip, I decided to let me live in a relatively good month center. This decision is out of line with my family's economic conditions. But my husband and my parents agree that money is not a problem as long as it is good for my health. You get what you pay for, and the monthly center charges so much. There must be a reason, and it must be good.

In this way, I spent more than 30,000 yuan to live in the Yayue Heritage Moon Club in Zhengdong New District. In Zhengzhou, it belongs to the middle and high grade, and my husband asked me to book a VIP suite (50,000 to 60,000). I wanted to rest for a month, so I didn't have to spend so much money. I gave in to living in the center of the moon. Therefore, in the choice of suites, I resolutely stopped giving in and insisted on choosing the mid-range rooms inside, saving tens of thousands. Later, I was often glad that I lost 20 thousand or 30 thousand.

Looking back now, the process of giving birth to a son was quite smooth, thanks to my good friend in junior high school, who is a surgeon. We deliberately decided to go to their hospital for students. My good friend accompanied me into the operating room. The whole operating room is a friend's colleague. The atmosphere was relaxed and harmonious, and I heard my son crying while talking and laughing.

After staying in the hospital for five days, I was invited to have a one-on-one confinement. I was very careful and took good care of my children and me. I clearly remember that every time I went to the bathroom, Yue Yue would follow me and say that it was not good for me to touch the cold metal button. She can press the toilet. I have always been grateful to the new moon. The pain was unbearable in those days, especially when the nurse came to press the stomach, especially after pulling out the pain stick, from the tip of the hair to the fingertips. I can't look after myself. If it weren't for her, I really don't know who would take care of the baby. Mother-in-law waits on her father-in-law at home, mother takes care of her daughter at home, and her husband has to go to work and can only stay in the hospital for one day.

On the day I was discharged from the hospital, the car in Ziyue Center directly sent me back to our reserved room.

This month center has a good reputation on the Internet. It's a three-story building, very quiet and beautifully decorated. Expect to be more considerate and provide better service than the hospital's confinement. As a result, I understood a bloody fact: don't watch advertisements, but look at the curative effect.

Yayue inheritance is a nurse system, which means that when you need it, you can call someone inside. Nurses are all graduated from regular medical schools, with certificates and science majors. It sounds beautiful. In fact, a nurse working 12 hours and taking care of three or four babies at the same time is simply too busy. I admire that nurses are not well paid and earn more than 3,000 yuan a month, but they are really dedicated and enthusiastic, and they can basically be on call. But their physical strength and energy are inevitably overdrawn. I often dare not give my baby to them for fear that they will not take good care of it. Therefore, babies are basically taking care of themselves, and they can't sleep well during the day and night, so they are very tired. This is far less than the 24-hour orbit of the moon. And nurses change frequently, which is not fixed. Some nurses have just become familiar with the baby, or the baby has just become familiar with the nurse, and the result has changed. It is of course disadvantageous to explain everything from the beginning.

In terms of diet, the Confucius Center promised to order a monthly meal according to everyone's physique before signing the contract. Later, when I got acquainted with my mothers, I realized that every mother's meal was exactly the same. This is really naked deception, and many mothers are dissatisfied. There is also too much meat, too few fresh vegetables, and the food is not balanced. The extra food is completely cheap bread and cake, not the healthy snacks promised by the chef at the Confucius Center. Lots of meat, few vegetables, extra meals with high sugar content. For a whole month, I often got angry, my gums swelled and my weight soared. I gave birth to a child, weighing 20 Jin, when I was very tired of taking care of the child alone.

One more thing, before signing the contract, the Confucius Center promised a psychologist. If the mother has postpartum depression and anxiety, professional doctors will immediately start one-on-one diagnosis and treatment. This is actually the most attractive thing for my husband. I was hospitalized for depression. Doctors in the Sixth Hospital of Beijing Medical University said that they can't have any more children in this life. If you have children, depression will definitely recur, and it can't be cured. I will take medicine for life. So my husband and family are most worried about my depression in the second month. The promise of the second month center made my husband sign it in an instant and paid tens of thousands of dollars.

But what about the facts? Why is there a psychiatrist? In the whole month, no matter what happens, you have to explain yourself and care for yourself. Compared with the actual situation, this promise of Confucius Club is simply a big joke.

Before signing the contract, another thing that attracts mothers is that the clubs in the Confucius Center have various courses, such as handicrafts, aerobics and yoga. However, after actually moving in, I found that all this requires you to have a natural birth, be young and be in good health, and give your child to a nurse before you can go to school. However, many baby mothers are weak after delivery and are not at ease to give their babies to nurses, so most mothers can't go. These attractive publicity actually just sounded beautiful at the beginning. Babies also have early education classes, but the babies in the month are basically sleeping, so it is useless. Now that I think about it, these extras are too fancy and impractical. But you have to pay for it.

If you give me another chance to choose the moon center, I just hope that the room is big enough, because most of the time you have to stay in the room, and I will value the moon that is accompanied by the moon center for 24 hours. These are all experiences bought with money. I hope I can give some reference to friends who read this article.

Recalling here, I suddenly remembered a worse thing. For several nights, the road was built outside all night, which kept the mothers in the whole month center awake. After we reflected to the competent leaders, they said that this was a municipal construction, and the Moon Center could not manage it, which did not solve the problem at all. Fortunately, the babies slept soundly and were not affected.

When I was out of the month, I came home as a refugee and breathed a sigh of relief.

If you think about it carefully, living in the Yuezi Center also has advantages: the family is relaxed, and my mother, mother-in-law, husband and daughter are not busy, and they all live normally at home. My husband came to see me at the weekend.

Yes, there is another biggest advantage. I met several like-minded mothers, and we became good friends and kept in touch. We get together with the babies from time to time, and it feels very good. When we meet, our exchange group will never leave until the children go to school, grow up and get married. We should keep in touch and tell each other the news. This is the greatest comfort, as well as the biggest surprise and gain for me who love to make friends.

All in all, we spent tens of thousands of dollars to buy an experience: if we must go to the Moon Club for one month, we must choose a one-on-one Moon Center, or sit at home for the Moon.

It's almost half past one. I have to go to work. I'll take time to talk to you tomorrow.