China's view of marriage, why China people's love will be defeated by marriage and reality?

China's view of marriage, have you seen love? I heard that love is back, so what is love? Western scholars say that only European culture has love, while China culture has no love. China's modern love culture was introduced in the later period. I think this is what we often say: foreigners know and pay attention to romance, while China people don't know and pay attention to romance.

Here, share a joke about marriage. A China man and a French man are talking about marriage. Men in China say people say: You French are so casual. Go to bed as soon as you fall in love! The French young man replied: You China people are very casual and get married as soon as you go to bed!

Why do China people have such an attitude towards emotion? Marriage is about reality, not love.

First of all, the average level of our economic development has not reached a high enough level, and our social welfare and security system has not reached a level that allows a person to live according to his own ideas.

Therefore, most people, even those who have no worries about food and clothing, do not have enough material security. Therefore, when choosing a marriage, we must first consider the protection of material conditions.

Secondly, our attitude towards emotion is closely related to family background, personal growth experience and education level. China traditional culture is a sticky culture. The boundaries between people are not clear. They are offside and seriously eroded. Everyone is used to it; Once these people get married and form a family, they will not be independent of each other.

We think family members love each other very much. In fact, this is a parasitic relationship. This kind of emotion is dependent and morbid; Once children fall in love and get married, they will follow the same trajectory as their parents, instead of enjoying the mature love between two people.

This parasitic and abnormal emotion is particularly serious in economically underdeveloped rural families and urban families, especially many children. Even if boys form families, separate families, distribute finances fairly and let their children live independently, it is particularly unrealistic.

Children still have to bite the old man and rely on him to shelter from the wind and rain. This relationship is difficult to adjust. In domestic TV series, the theme of countryside or city is an endless original ecological family phenomenon and family tone. It reflects the concepts of family, upbringing and survival.

With the rapid and healthy development of modern social and economic level in China, people's living standards are getting better and better! Our concept of marriage should also keep pace with the times! We should not only pay attention to the accumulation of material wealth, but also adjust the concept of family and parenting, and gradually cultivate people with independent personality and sound mind.

China's concept of marriage, of course, these changes need long-term efforts to change slowly. This reminds us that we must be as sober as possible and choose our love and marriage carefully according to our objective situation.