How to reverse the unfavorable situation when communication is unpleasant?

When you encounter poor communication, you are used to asking yourself the following questions, which will often help you quickly adjust your communication style and create a more favorable situation.

Question 1: Do I want to do something to improve communication now?

Question 2: What is my definition of this matter? You might as well write down the definition on paper.

Question 3: Is it possible that my present definition is a wrong interpretation? Or the wrong angle? I have collected all possible evidence to prove that it must be so?

Question 4: What is the possible significance of this matter?

Question 5: What should I do now to feel better? Do I need to change my perspective? Do I need more information or understand the other person's point of view? Do I need to change the way I do things now? Do I need to make a promise or apologize to the other party, or let him know the current needs?

Question 6: How can I communicate more effectively now, so that we can go further in communication and enhance interpersonal relationships?

Question 7: If this happens, what good will it do me?

When you encounter poor communication, you should write the answers to these questions on paper, which can motivate you to overcome the difficulties of poor communication at critical moments and seek better communication methods instead of making the situation worse or adopting a tolerant and repressive way.