Why do children have conflicts with their parents, and outsiders think that children are not sensible without listening to anything?

Children and parents are in conflict, and outsiders directly think that children are not sensible. This is a problem that many young people are very confused about.

The root cause is that children are too young and naive.

Children are young, inexperienced, willful, simple-minded, and a little dissatisfied, they are uncomfortable, contradictory, and even make a scene.

Children themselves think they are full of reason. They want to find an ally and supporter. They want to find someone who can hold their parents and say "fair words". Win the opportunity.

However, no matter relatives, friends, neighbors or even classmates, they are blaming and persuading children, and they all agree that children are not sensible.

Why is there a one-sided situation?

First, only parents are the most sincere love in the world, and no one will doubt it.

Second, there are parents in the world. Even if parents are at fault, children have no right to blame. There is a question of filial piety, and no one is allowed to cross the red line. Moreover, conflicts with parents are extremely illegal and absolutely intolerable.

Third, how much truth can a child understand after eating a few ounces of salt, and how can it compare with his weather-beaten parents?

Fourth, only mom and dad are good in the world, and there are no parents who don't get along well with their children for no reason, unless the children are too ignorant.

So respect your parents, don't infringe on their authority, and don't hurt the kindness that gave birth to you, raised you, taught you to love you and love you.

Sometimes it is really difficult for an honest official to decide housework, but if a child in a family often has conflicts with his parents, onlookers will definitely think that the child is not sensible. If he is a sensible child, even if there is anything wrong with his parents, he will tell them well and won't get angry with them. You should know inherit the wind. I won't have a hard time with children. I may have different views on some things, but it can't be non-negotiable ... when my daughter was studying, I reached an agreement with her. If we have different opinions, we must not lose our temper at home. If there are any contradictions, we can solve them through consultation. If you can't talk about it for a while, put aside the contradictions for the time being. When there is an atmosphere of renegotiation, we will negotiate together to find a solution. If there are frequent quarrels at home, it will not only affect the feelings of family members, but also have a bad influence on the surrounding neighbors ... I think as parents, we must pay attention to our words and deeds at ordinary times and be a parent who keeps his word. Don't make promises easily at ordinary times, let alone make wishes casually. In the face of children's requirements, we must seriously consider whether this requirement is reasonable and can be realized. If it is a reasonable request and can be realized, parents should seriously promise and honor it. This will reduce unnecessary family conflicts and give outsiders no chance to say that children are not sensible and often have conflicts with their parents ... I think there are the following reasons:

First, "outsiders" are adults. Adults like to stand in the position of adults and naturally regard children who are in conflict with their parents as "Xiong Haizi"; If the "outsider" is also a child, he may also think that the adult who quarrels with the child is a "bear parent".

Second, children really don't understand. From his own point of view, he is careless, willful, reckless, does not give up until he reaches his goal, regardless of the occasion, does not make progress, rebelles, and struggles with his parents ... It is estimated that even an "outsider" is a literate child, he also thinks that such peers are "not sensible".

Third, deeply influenced by the traditional culture of filial piety, children should obey and obey their parents. Let go even if your parents are wrong. They can't justify or disobey, otherwise they are "not sensible".

I have always believed that parents are the shadows of children and children are the mirrors of parents. From the shadow, we can see the quality, mentality, ability to distinguish right from wrong and honesty and diligence that children have developed since childhood; You can see your parents' three views and behaviors in the mirror.

In short, whether it is a shadow or a mirror, parents will tolerate their children's "ignorance" every time, and their children will become more and more "sensible"; Children are less and less ignorant, and parents will gradually become "useless" for the rest of their lives.

Why do children have conflicts with their parents, and outsiders think that children don't understand anything?

Since ancient times and today, small crimes are big violations. Children have conflicts with their parents. To outsiders, children are immature, naive, naive and extreme. Moreover, parents will not do bad things to their children, and their love for their children is from the heart. So parents are generally not wrong. Outsiders must be to parents, not to children.

Is that really the case? Not exactly. Pay attention to everything that is split in two. Although some parents are old, many are immature. Many parents lack knowledge, education and communication.

Children are often taught to say, scold and beat. There is also a real person. Handle children's problems simply and rudely.

After all, children are living people. They form correct views and opinions on some things through education and study. Sometimes, parents' words and deeds are often candidly admit defeat and fall far behind.

My granddaughter is four years old and often studies online. Sometimes the words are just right.

Once, she played with other children. Fighting for toys, and then she told me, Grandpa, I made a mistake yesterday. I shouldn't argue with her and rob her when the child comes to our house to play. I want to correct it.

The next day, the little friend came, and her granddaughter gave her many toys to play with. There is no habit of fighting for it anymore.

I think education is mutual. If a family wants democratization, whoever is right and who is right will adopt his suggestion. Don't exclude children just because they are young. This is completely wrong. Especially in today's society, children make rapid progress, adapt quickly and study well. Strange views. Parents absorb fresh blood and grow up with * * * is the last word!

Many adults always simply think that children are not sensible, and sometimes it is difficult to misunderstand and bully children.

Because in the eyes of adults, it has been formed that children are always children, and there is too little experience to rely on their parents, and the possibility of making mistakes is too high. So no matter what the reason, outsiders will think that children are not sensible at first and don't know it. Adults always think they are right. They always regard themselves as experienced people and don't care about their children's feelings. Especially those children who are in a rebellious period can't get the understanding of adults at all, and always feel that it is a child's problem. In fact, whether outsiders listen or not is not the point. The point is that as long as you don't violate the principle of being a man, you don't have to care too much about the opinions of outsiders. It doesn't matter what outsiders think. What you should do is to maintain family relationships and prevent outsiders from watching jokes!

Because most adults think children are their personal belongings. You shouldn't have your own subjective consciousness. You can't refute what he (she) said. Otherwise, it is disobedient and unfilial. It's arrogant and sad. They have distanced themselves from their children, so many parents and children have a generation gap.

Because outsiders are also afraid that children will not handle conflicts with him, so as long as children have conflicts with their parents, they accuse them of being unreasonable.

These outsiders and their parents are actually idiots and cowards. They don't have the wisdom and ability to deal with contradictions in parent-child relationship, so they use filial piety to suppress their children.

The standard of filial piety is measured by whether you obey your parents or not. If you have conflicts with your parents, you must not obey them, or even disobey them. You must be unfilial and ignorant.

But parents are not saints, parents are not everywhere, and everything is right. Really wise and responsible parents should allow their children to have different ideas and actions. You can't expect your child to succeed, and at the same time suppress your child with filial piety.

Reasonable parents should teach their children to be grateful and learn to be responsible for their words and deeds. Instead of blindly accusing children of ignorance. Children are not sensible because their parents have not taught them to be sensible, and even their parents themselves are not sensible.

Children have conflicts with their parents, so outsiders had better mind their own business.

Because many people stubbornly believe that "inherit the wind". Let them feel that no matter who is at fault, it is wrong to have conflicts with their parents.

I think this is the overlord clause.

In ancient times, the ethics of monarch, minister, father, son, three cardinal guides and five permanent members were still regarded as natural laws by many people, and like faith, they could not be questioned.

Since our society is advocating "equality" and "respect", we should seriously reflect, let go of those outdated obsessions and try to think with new ideas.