1. Life is about trade-offs

Life is about trade-offs. The journey of life is wonderful. And what we do most is - weigh. Weigh the pros and cons, weigh the gains and losses, weigh the success or failure, weigh the advantages and disadvantages...

1. The basis of weighing varies from person to person

The standard of weighing is: Whichever of the two benefits is greater, Whichever is the lesser of two evils. Therefore, the choices each of us make are within our tolerance. Innately, it is difficult to quit smoking, it is difficult to quit drinking, and it is not difficult when you are dying.

Because we have trade-offs, every decision we make is the result of careful consideration. It is also the complexity of the trade-off process that depends on how important we think it is. The greater the degree we can bear, the simpler the weighing process will be; the smaller the degree we can bear, the more complicated the weighing process will be.

For example, if renting a two-bedroom apartment in Nanyang costs 500 yuan/month, which accounts for 1/2 of our income, we may seriously consider: Do we want it? Is it worth it? If it only accounts for 1/10 of our income, we will definitely respond happily.

For the same product, different people, some will be agents or wholesalers, while others can only be retail or retail stalls. In fact, they are all the result of their own weighing decisions.

2. Stove Effect

Because everything people do is a weighed decision, they all tend to be in the "comfort" zone, and no one wants to endure "pain" Torture in the induction zone.

When acupuncture is applied to the calf, the calf will start to beat unconsciously; when the hand touches the stove, the hand will retract rapidly... These are all responses of the human body to avoid pain. People living in the world also have to avoid pain. environmental behavior.

There is a "stove effect" in management. The so-called stove effect means that after an organization establishes a management constraint mechanism, if someone violates organizational disciplines, it will be like touching a burning stove with their hand. It will be so hot that they immediately withdraw their hand. If they encounter the stove again in the future, they will try to avoid touching it. Provisions involving penalties such as laws and regulations have a "stove effect".

3. Eyes ≠ Vision

Everyone has eyes, but not everyone has vision.

Twenty years ago, when some people in Fengfei Lingjiao resigned from their traditionally recognized "iron rice bowls" and went into business, most people didn't take it seriously, thinking that they were "speculators" and not doing their jobs properly. However, a few years later, even though these people's pockets have bulged and their cars have started to drive, most of them still think with envy and sad faces: Why him and not me? Why is he better than me now when he was originally inferior to me! At this time, I wanted to follow them and get rid of poverty and become rich, but I felt that it was "too late."

More than 10 years ago, when a group of people entered the stock market, responded to the country’s call and showed off their talents, most people thought it was a mirage and a dream; but a few years later, a group of millionaires and thousands of When millionaires are wandering around the stock market, people who want to return to the "road of making money" may feel that they have missed the opportunity...

Many people are gaming their lives in such a "tragedy". But they didn’t understand one truth: We should use trends to plan life, rather than professional planning.

Most of us always set limits on ourselves and use "it's too late", "it's too difficult", "no one is buying" as mantras. As everyone knows, as long as it is never too late to start, we can turn a "barren land" into a "fertile wilderness". This is our value. Just imagine, as a salesperson, you can solve customers' needs, concerns, and questions, and sell appropriate products to customers. This is the value of a salesperson. The same is true for other industries and positions.

When a person was 65 years old, he decided to learn English. People around him laughed at him and poured cold water on him: "You are 65. Even if you learned it after studying for 5 years, you are already 70." ... He said angrily, "Then if I don't learn English, will I be 60 in five years? ”

Chinese proverb - live until you are old and learn until you are old. Since our ancestors said this, it seems that learning is really important.

It is said that the eyes are the soul. Windows, but eyes are the focus of wisdom.

So, where does wisdom come from? From learning, from experience, from experience...

As the saying goes, "It is better to travel thousands of miles after reading a book, and it is better to read than to travel thousands of miles." "There are countless people", this is the truth.

In today's rapid development of the information age, learning has reached an unprecedented level of intensity. Whoever can master the latest information will have the opportunity to win. Education is a porcelain rice bowl that will break; experience is an iron rice bowl that will rust; only learning ability is a golden rice bowl that will increase in value. Learning can increase your knowledge, nurture your wisdom, and expand your horizons!

"Keeping abreast of the times, advancing with the times, and coordinating with the times" is the key to our increasing value. Everything starts with learning! In life, on the road, you must keep learning, learning, and learning again!

4. Having time = valuable

Nowadays, we have carefully discovered that people are trapped in a strange circle - busy! No time to read, no time to study, no time to spend time with children, no time to spend time with parents...

In short, "busy"! But our Chinese characters are very interesting. The word "busy" has "heart" on the left and "death" on the right. It means "busy" when the heart is dead. Then "the heart will not die" means that there is hope and value. In other words, "busy" means that we think that something is of no value, so there is no need to give time to it, so we become "busy" when it comes to it.

Therefore, if you invite a friend to dinner and he says "busy", it must mean that he thinks there are more valuable things to do during this period of time than you inviting him to dinner, so he will wait until you invite him to dinner. He was "busy" on this matter.

Where there is value, there is time. Wherever the heart is, there is scenery; where ambition is, there is success; where there is love, there is touching; where there are dreams, there is hope; where there is dedication, there is gain!

Life is the "law of cause and effect". It is not the cause that determines the effect; it is the effect that follows the cause.

Spring, summer, autumn and winter, the four seasons cycle, the flowers are similar every year, but the people are different every year. The biggest difference between people lies in how efficiently they use their time. A wise man cherishes time as gold; a fool regards time as dirt; a mediocre man regards time as a blur. Therefore, there is a saying of "husbandling", which means that days are like running water.

As a member of society, we live no longer than a hundred years. Throwing away leisure time such as eating and sleeping, we only have less than one-third of the time left for study and work. And it is these times that most people do not pay enough attention to. Let’s take a look at how we spend the journey of life: lamenting and complaining about the unfairness of life; chatting about nothing; playing mahjong leisurely; beating or being beaten by our wives with fists and kicks...

Such Is life what we want? These are things we take for granted and work effectively in our lives. I remember a sage said that there are four attitudes towards the environment in life: complain, change, adapt, and leave. The last three are all positive, only the first is decadent and bleak, and the most undesirable. In reality, many of us are experiencing "depression and bleakness" every day. Such actions will not benefit anyone or yourself. As a joke goes: There is a person who often thinks about which came first, the chicken or the egg. As a result, the mind is in a trance and the career fails. The friend told him that it doesn’t matter whether the chicken or the egg comes first. If you are a chicken, you should lay eggs; if you are an egg, you should quickly become a chicken and lay eggs; if you are neither a chicken nor an egg, you should seize the time to "borrow a chicken and lay eggs"...

In the final analysis, that is To create and bloom the value of our lives. "If You Give Me Three Days of Light" by the famous American writer Helen Keller, from the perspective of a weak woman with a disability and a strong will, conveys to us a voice that healthy people should cherish life and everything given by the Creator. . And she herself is witnessing her own value in such labor.

To cherish life, start by cherishing time! Because time is the element that makes up life. Time is the fairest material in the world. It will not give you one more minute every day because you are rich, nor will it give you one less minute every day because you are poor. It is the same 24 hours, 1440 minutes, 86400 Second.

So, how to maximize value from limited time? Let’s take a look at the four-quadrant theory of time!

? Important

Ⅰ Ⅱ

? Not urgent Urgent

? Ⅳ ? Ⅲ

Not important

Ⅰ——Important but not urgent; Ⅱ——Important and urgent;

Ⅲ——Urgent but not important; Ⅳ——Not important but not urgent;

What we do every day Everything you do can be distinguished by the four quadrants of time. Things in quadrant I (important but not urgent) should be done frequently and persistently; things in quadrant II (important and urgent) should be done quickly and immediately; Do the things in Quadrant III (urgent but not important) as little as possible and don’t do them as much as possible; the things in Quadrant IV (not important and not urgent) should be done as little as possible and firmly.

As long as we work according to this principle, we can make full, reasonable and effective use of time, improve the efficiency of time, and create greater life value.

As the saying goes, time is like water in a sponge, as long as you squeeze it, there will always be time.

The professor is giving the last class to the graduating MBA students. What puzzled the students was that there was a large iron bucket on the lecture table and a pile of fist-sized stones next to it. "I have taught you everything I can teach you. Today we will only do a small test." The professor put the stones into the iron bucket one by one. When there was no more stone in the bucket, the professor stopped. The professor asked: "Can there be nothing more in the iron bucket now?" "Yes." The students answered. "Really?" asked the professor. Then, he slowly took out a small bucket of gravel from under the table. He grabbed a handful of gravel, placed it on the surface of the iron bucket filled with stones, then slowly shook it, and then grabbed another handful of gravel... After a while, the small bucket of gravel was filled into the iron bucket. inside. "Can there be nothing more in the iron barrel now?" the professor asked again. "It's... okay." After the last experience, the students became cautious. "That's right!" the professor said, taking out a small bucket of fine sand from under the table and pouring it on the surface of the iron bucket. The professor slowly shook the bucket. After about half a minute, no fine sand can be seen on the surface of the iron bucket. "Is the iron bucket full now?" "Not yet..." Although the students answered like this, they were actually unsure. "That's right!" The professor looked excited. This time, what he pulled out from under the table was a pitcher of water. He slowly poured water into the iron bucket. After the water in the pitcher was poured out, the professor looked up and asked with a smile: "What does this little experiment show?" A student immediately stood up and said: "It shows that no matter how full your schedule is, you can still squeeze it in." "It makes sense." The professor paused and said, "It tells us: If you don't put the rocks into the iron bucket first, then you will." There will no longer be a chance to put the rocks into the iron bucket, because the iron bucket is already filled with gravel, sand and water. And when you put the rocks in first, there will be a lot in the iron bucket that you didn't expect. space to hold the rest. In the future of your career, you must distinguish between what is a stone and what is gravel, sand and water, and always put the stone first." In "Influence. In "Seven Habits of Effective Leaders", the author uses the four quadrants of time to measure various matters faced by managers: Among low-performing or failed managers, the most common mistake many people make is to put " Confusing "important things" with "urgent things", confusing strategy with tactics, "doing the right thing" with "doing things right". This is reminiscent of Drucker's words: "The most ineffective people are those who do the most useless things with the highest efficiency." After clearly distinguishing "important things" from "urgent things", how to " "Put the First on First" is the most important thing.

People who always do important and urgent things often have a lot of remaining time.

After finishing the "business", they have quite a lot of time to do "important but not urgent", "unimportant and urgent" or even "unimportant and not urgent" things (whether inside or outside the office). Like an iron bucket filled with rocks, there is unexpected remaining space to hold gravel, sand and water.

Don’t let trivial matters get in the way. Don’t let busyness ruin the journey of your dreams! Cherish time, cherish life, time is value!