Handling conflicts between children, what should I do if they are beaten?

There is a joke: The mother said to her son: "Why did you hit your classmate with a rock?" The son said: "He hit me first!" The mother said: "Then you can't hit him back. Come and tell me!" My son said, "No! You can't do it right!"

The children go to school and sometimes they come home with a bad result. Children are the darlings of their parents, how can they bear it? Ask quickly what's going on! Children often can't explain clearly, or deliberately explain unclearly, so call the class teacher and ask. Once you understand, fight! fight? So, is this person in our family the one who was beaten or the one who hit others? If the child is beaten, the parents will inevitably become angry and fearful, and they would like to rush to the school to beat the perpetrator. If it was the one who hit someone, the parents would protect their own shortcomings, thinking that my child would be in trouble anyway, forget it, and be too timid to apologize to the other parent.

Conflicts and fights are inevitable for children in school, especially boys. Some parents are now popular in "wolf nature" education, saying, if someone hits you, you have to hit them back! Parents believe that fighting back immediately will prevent them from being bullied in the future. Eh? When has the time come to retaliate? This kind of education is too violent and inappropriate.

When being bullied, you must first understand why you are being bullied. Why others bully you. In fact, there are several reasons, either to attract attention, to show that you are powerful, or because of jealousy.

If you are bullied, you must also mentally build yourself up. People who are bullied should not think that it is their own fault and that it is the other person's fault. Don't feel that it is the result of something wrong that you have done, causing you to feel inferior and give up on yourself. Being bullied does not mean that you are weak, and you are not the only one who has been bullied. The most important thing is that the person who hits others needs help. People who hit others need correct education to understand how people should get along with each other and how to solve problems.

As the saying goes, if you can’t afford to offend, you can afford to hide. A gentleman does not stand under a dangerous wall. If he sees that the situation is not good, he should first stay away from the place of right and wrong. If you are really bullied, the best way is to report the problem to your teacher first. Generally speaking, teachers will uphold justice, clarify the facts, and handle problems according to certain procedures. Teachers will be relatively vigilant about children who love to bully others and provide more education to keep them on the right track. For your own children, you are required to uphold the Chinese virtues of "gentleness, courtesy, thrift and humiliation". When getting along with classmates, when there is a physical conflict, you must judge whether the classmate is intentional or unintentional. If it is not a big deal, forgive if you can, and try your best. Don't get into conflict. If you know that a child has a particularly bad temper and is particularly prone to misunderstanding others, it is better to stay away from him and have less interaction with him.

Teach children to observe the environment and control themselves. Don't teach children to fight tooth for tooth.