In real life, why can’t “leftover men” find a partner?

Nowadays, there are more and more leftover older men, and it is difficult to find a marriage partner. Many older leftover men feel that the women around them are becoming more and more picky, and then they attribute the reason why they cannot find a partner to women to cover up their hypocrisy and embarrassment.

In fact, are women really picky? Not entirely.

The main reason is that these leftover men do not have better conditions themselves, but they still desire to find young and beautiful girls to marry. They have no self-awareness and are unwilling to admit their own shortcomings. They blindly pursue their own whims. The final result must be that no woman is willing to marry them, and they have to stay single.

Maybe men feel that they can’t lose face, but this is a fact. In reality, no matter what kind of older leftover men they are, their requirements for marriage partners are almost the same, such as: it is best to be first-hand. , a girl who has never been in love.

You must look beautiful and have a good figure.

It is best to have financial conditions, and do not need betrothal gifts or houses when getting married

Be able to have children, do housework, and make money

In life, those older leftover men do not Is this all you think about?

But in reality, let alone whether there is such a girl, even if there is, she will not marry you.

Many leftover men are unable to correctly view finding a partner and keep dreaming about such a sweet dream. You must know that it is difficult for such a dream to become a reality.

Furthermore, most of today’s women are of high quality and are no longer the women of the past. They not only have thoughts and abilities, but also have their own goals in life. They understand life and can live it, so how can they be wronged? How about marrying such a man yourself?

Definitely not. When women become more and more high-quality, and those leftover men cannot change their views on mate selection, and do not correctly face their shortcomings and correct them in time, no woman will really marry them.

Is it all women’s fault that they look down on leftover men? No, it’s because men themselves have not become high-quality, and the conditions are no longer equal.

01 Juanjuan was my classmate in middle school. She told me about the leftover men she met, which were really weird.

That was what Juanjuan saw during a blind date. The boy she was dating was pretty good-looking, but his conversation was obviously not up to par with his appearance, and he had no quality at all. The man was thirty-two years old and the son of Juanjuan's mother's colleague. He wanted to find a young and beautiful girl to marry, and he required that the girl had never been in a relationship.

Juanjuan had never been in love at that time. She had been working since she graduated from graduate school, and was forced by her mother to go on blind dates. Because Juanjuan was very beautiful, the man was very moved when he saw her and started talking to Juanjuan about getting married.

Juanjuan was really embarrassed at the time. In her words, where did this man get his confidence? She immediately asked to marry him. This girl didn’t like him at all. From time to time, the man would tell Juanjuan what would happen after marrying him, ensuring her happiness and having more children in the future.

However, when Juanjuan asked him what kind of job he had and whether he had a house, he was silent. Juanjuan said that at first glance, the man seemed very vain, not honest at all, had no quality, and did not know how to respect women.

Juanjuan said that even if there was no man left in the world, she would not marry him because he and she were too far apart in terms of thoughts, life and emotions.

After that blind date, Juanjuan never went on a blind date again. She really couldn't stand the men she went on a blind date with. They had a lot of problems and nothing, but they still wanted to pick women. It was really a joke.

Juanjuan would rather stay single than find a boyfriend easily. She was really disappointed with the leftover man. It wasn't until I was thirty that I married a foreign man and went to live in Germany.

02 In fact, today’s women are really becoming more and more high-quality. They are not only confident, but also know how to behave elegantly and live tastefully.

Many women will improve themselves through various channels. They have higher pursuits in life. Even if their lives are not poetic, they can still create poetry. They exercise, pay attention to health, read books, enrich their knowledge, travel, and increase their knowledge.

In work or career, they are very hard-working and diligent, actively involved, and dare to challenge themselves. They have academic qualifications, abilities, high literacy, know how to behave, and have a kind heart.

They can live a life without relying on men and work hard to live a high-quality life. Moreover, they also have a certain financial and material foundation and will not get married just for the sake of getting married.

In fact, many women who have not married because they missed the marriageable age will mostly make themselves better and will not waste their lives. This is different from those older leftover men.

In life, some leftover men have no demands on themselves at all. They live a life of passing by without working hard or making progress. They get older and older, but they always complain about the unfairness of life to them, without ever thinking about their own reasons.

They long for marriage, but they still hold the same old views on women, thinking that women need to rely on men to survive. They are stubborn and accuse women of being materialistic.

Especially the kind of good-for-nothing leftover men who want nothing but want women to be young, beautiful and not materialistic. It really makes people speechless.

Therefore, there are more and more leftover men, not because there are no women, but because they are unwilling to change. To a large extent, no women are willing to marry them.

03 Many leftover men are troubled, why can’t they find a partner?

Essentially, it’s because most of today’s “leftover women” are getting better and better. When women become excellent, they naturally look down on them.

Men like to criticize women for their various shortcomings, but they are never willing to change their own shortcomings. You must know that when you demand others, others will definitely demand the same from you.

Men hope to find young and beautiful girls, but as for themselves, they still have a lot of bad things despite their age; they ask women not to be in love, but they don’t know how many emotional experiences they have had; they ask women not to be materialistic, but they themselves are not. There is no economic foundation; women are expected to make money if they can give birth to children, but they don’t work hard and live a life of muddle-headedness.

It is true that no one is perfect in this world, but you need to work hard to make yourself better. When you become excellent yourself, are you still afraid that you can't find a woman? But some men just don't want to let themselves become excellent and only focus on dreaming about their dreams.

How many dreams like this can come true?

It is impossible for a woman to marry a man who is full of shortcomings, but refuses to change, doesn’t work hard, and doesn’t have a sense of responsibility.

So, in a sense, the reason why older leftover men can’t find a partner is because women are becoming more and more high-quality and they no longer look down on them.