Children feel "unfair" and emotional. What should parents do?

Children feel unfair, it must be something that their parents do, which makes them feel that their parents don't love themselves and lose their sense of security. Especially Bauer's family.

First, caress the child.

After the child has emotions, my personal approach is that no matter what the situation, I will help deal with the child's emotions first. On the one hand, because the child's emotions are handled well, the next step is to communicate and solve the problem; On the other hand, when children are in a mood, they are also testing their parents to see if they still love themselves. Comfort and accompany you, let the children know that no matter what happens, mom and dad still love you.

Second, reflect on yourself.

My brother is a family with two children. Once Dabao wanted to sleep at his grandmother's house, and his brother agreed. But when he came to meet Bao Xiao, Bao Xiao insisted that his sister go home, but she didn't want to. So Bao Xiao wept bitterly, and my brother had to continue to persuade my sister. When my sister didn't agree, she scolded her for not being sensible. So the two sisters cried together.

Who is wrong in this matter? There are many similar things in life. In many of our behaviors, we will inadvertently instill a sense in Dabao: you are older, you should be sensible, and you should take care of the younger. However, in Dabao's eyes, she is a child herself and needs humility from others. This kind of request from her parents will make her feel unfair.

Third, deal with the problem.

1, use communication instead of scolding;

2. Listen to children's needs;

3. Tell your child what you think;

4. Respect children and don't force your behavior;

If you can't solve it, then turn to a scene to deal with your emotions and continue.

Generally speaking, children feel unfair and emotional. It must be that she feels uncomfortable. Soothe children, reflect on yourself, and use communication instead of scolding!