Why are good friends for many years difficult to develop into lovers?

My view on this issue is that it is not that it is difficult for a good friend to develop into a lover, but that it is difficult to become a friend if you really move your heart.

In the variety show "Brilliant Forward", the mode of getting along with Wang Jinlin and Li Luer seems to verify this point. Although ostensibly in the name of lovers, the actual mode of getting along with brothers and sisters is no different. Rainie Yang took himself and Wilber Pan as examples to explain why good friends can't be lovers.

Arqie also said that he usually chats with his best friends of the opposite sex for a while, and it feels like a waste of feelings to say one more word or type one more word. Although I think this is a bit exaggerated, it also reflects that it is really difficult for good friends to develop into lovers most of the time.

I remember a friend of the opposite sex told me: "There is no pure friendship between men and women. They seem to be good friends, but one doesn't say anything when he is killed, and the other just plays dumb." I think this sentence is very reasonable, because if two people can become lovers, then it is not limited to good friends. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium

At the same time, excluding this controversial view, I think the following three aspects are also the main factors that make it difficult for good friends to develop into lovers:

0 1, good friends are too familiar and lose their attraction.

Both men and women actually prefer "freshness". When two people are together for a long time, they will soon lose their mystery. You know his personality and hobbies, and she knows what your life is like. Then I think more and know more, but I don't think it's appropriate to be the angel of the other side.

Sometimes "cut the gordian knot" is also a better way. Of course, I don't mean to confess or say anything to each other in a short time. I just want to express that I want to do the right thing and say what I should say at the right time. Talk about love in its "fresh-keeping period".

Couples don't need to be familiar with each other. The subtle attraction with a sense of distance is the most wonderful thing, which is what fascinates many people.

02. Good friends may just have the same interests and are not suitable for life.

Like-minded people are often more likely to become friends, and complementary ones are just suitable for lovers. I don't know if my friends agree with this sentence, but from my personal experience, it is.

Sometimes a person can be your good friend, more because you can talk and play together than live together. The premise of cohabitation is that one party is attractive to the other. This new attraction includes but is not limited to appearance, temperament, knowledge and money. After all, everyone has different pursuits.

03, the inferiority in the bones, dare not confess with each other.

There is a kind of love that you dare not tell each other. I thought to myself, "since I can't be a lover, I'll be a good friend and simply accompany you."

At school, I liked a girl in my class. Her appearance, height, family background and academic performance are all very good. We are the front and back tables, but we know the gap between us. Even if she can accept me, I can't accept myself. Finally, I try to make us good friends.

Again, if we were lovers, we wouldn't be good friends with each other.