The truth of marriage: there is no partner who does not cheat.

The truth of marriage: there is no partner who does not cheat.

Someone asked: unfaithful partner, then why should I get married?

It is basically impossible to want marriage and comfort. Marriage itself is not a comfortable state, because it needs to restrain and suppress human nature.

What preparations must be made before marriage? That is to be prepared to start your life in a particularly uncomfortable position unless you can see through human nature.

When a person can see through human nature, he will be very relaxed in marriage. He is a social animal with a body, but he has a soul that longs for freedom.

1, no one can be emotionally loyal to a person.

In "I like life as it is", Zhou said: sex is a kind of physical life, following the principle of happiness; Love is the ideal principle that spiritual life follows; Marriage is a kind of social life and follows the principle of reality.

These are three completely different things. The difficulty of marriage lies in how to unify the three in the same opposite sex, so as not to let habit paralyze temptation and happiness, and not to let trivial reality damage the passion and ideal of love. The difficulty of marriage is that marriage is a social organization, which requires stability in essence, while love, as its natural basis, naturally tends to trade.

Most marriages are unhappy: because it is impossible for one person to satisfy another person's three human pursuits at the same time, and if there is one, it is very rare.

If a person marries at the age of 25 and dies at the age of 80, according to the moral constraints of marriage, this person will suppress the nature of being a human being for 55 years. Basically, no one can do it, so basically no one in marriage can't cheat, just depending on whether it is mental or physical and the severity of the situation.

2. Will there be people who don't cheat?

There will be no people who will never cheat, but there will be people who will never cheat physically.

In men's cognition: emotional derailment is not derailment, but physical derailment is derailment. Therefore, they will have many emotional infidelities. Men with marriage and family will have love for a girl and have all kinds of fantasies (most of men's fantasies are sex).

They don't choose physical infidelity, not because they love their wives or are loyal to their marriage, but because they don't want to deal with the troubles caused by possible bad results, so they choose to endure and give up.

There is a passage in "I like life as it is": One idea is that couples who love each other must be absolutely loyal and must not hide their actions or even their thoughts, otherwise they will desecrate pure love and sacred marriage. A person has enough experience to know what a naive concept this is.

Cheating doesn't mean not loving. It's a pity to give up someone who loves you deeply because of occasional infidelity. At this time, someone must ask: is it still love if he cheated?

People's emotions are very complicated and abstract. We can't use reason, but the best measure is feeling. You know best whether a person loves you or not. The emotional interaction between two people will tell you whether the other person is really good to you. If a person especially demands the loyalty of the other party, then he is a very simple person and deserves to be protected.

Because once people know human nature, they will lose their enthusiasm for life. The value of simplicity lies in thinking that everything is simple, but people are not. People are complicated, especially emotions.

Regarding the contradiction of human nature in marriage and love, Zhou said this: If you are a wise man who knows human nature, you will not tolerate him or her. This is tolerance with jealousy, jealousy with tolerance. They restrict each other, making your jealousy a dignified jealousy and your tolerance a dignified tolerance. Lovers complement each other and bind each other, which is their confidence in love. No one restricts anyone, and in the end, no one can live without anyone. This is true love.

3. Those who can keep their marriage are heroes.

Comparing people in marriage to "heroes" is not ironic at all, but really out of admiration. Nowadays, women are particularly capable of making money, supporting their families, taking care of their families and having children. They are all-rounders. People in marriage are obviously more mature and have a deeper understanding of life than those who are afraid of marriage and do not want to go in.

"True heroism is to see the reality clearly and still be alive."

Those "old people" who have been married for many years don't know the point of "humanity" and know that there is no partner who doesn't cheat. But they still stick to this marriage, still pay for each other, still care. Many people who have been married for many years will laugh at themselves: I have relatives instead of lovers, and my daughter-in-law has been relatives for many years.

Everyone who gains muscle knows the pain of this process. You should control your diet and take more exercise. Every detail is an extreme. Remodel every cell of your body, and when you succeed, the whole person will be replaced with a new body. Marriage is the same, it breaks all your beautiful yearning and longing, and then lets you see the truest and ugliest side. When you cross it, you can see another kind of scenery that others can't see, which is the other side that heroes can reach.

Marriage is a classroom where you can quickly learn about passion, humanity and life. It can make you grow up quickly and instantly distance yourself from ordinary people. For such people, there is no better word than hero to recognize their strength. Even though all this may not be what you want on your own initiative, what you gain here is your strong heart and your ability to see the essence of life differently from ordinary people.

Nothing is difficult, nothing is complicated. When you know all the routines, trends and habits of the human heart, it is actually like this. However, as long as you are responsible for yourself, as long as you can look beyond betrayal itself, as long as you work hard enough, you will definitely come out.

Betrayal may destroy a person's happiness in this life, but this destruction is only a "hypothetical premise." And you are the one who will ultimately change your destiny and future. Remember, the person who can change everything is yourself, and only you.