I have known her for more than a year. When she came to Kunming, I accidentally called her and asked her to come out to play. When she arrived at their school, she came to see me alone.

Oh, I will show you an article and you will know what she means. As for the specific method, it is very simple. It depends on the specific situation and you can act as the opportunity arises:

How to know if someone likes you

Compiled by Wu Junyi

Expert: Beware of people around you who don’t smile!

Does the person you like like you? Do your friends and subordinates like you? Norman Lee, an associate professor of psychology at Singapore Management University, found a simple way to tell: tease them with a joke. If they laugh easily, that means they like you.

Norman Lee studied love and dating for many years when he was in college and found a fairly stable pattern: if a girl says to him, "You are very interesting," she will be willing to date him; if the girl listens to If she can't laugh after hearing what he thinks is a funny conversation, she often already has a boyfriend or is very busy.

After graduation, Norman Lee worked on a project for a company for several months. He disliked the two leaders and considered them both vicious and incompetent. Although he never expressed his opinion publicly, Norman Lee showed it unconsciously: When they told jokes, he always couldn't laugh. But other colleagues would smile brightly, as if the two leaders were comedy experts.

Later, Norman Lee summarized these phenomena into psychological theories and proposed that humor may be an evolved function to express interest in love objects, friends, relatives, etc. In other words, people make jokes and other humor and then see the other person's reaction. This is the same as putting one foot out to test the water before swimming. If the other person is interested in you, it is easy for them to think that you are humorous and smile in return, even if objectively speaking, you are not actually funny. On the other hand, if the other person is not interested, they will not find humor in what you say, even if your joke is the best joke.

Whenever we meet someone new, we take a moment to consider whether we are willing to develop various types of relationships with them. In every joke and response, we showed interest in connecting. In stable interpersonal relationships, people also need to understand the quality of the relationship. Humorous exchanges between lovers and friends are the best "indicators" to show whether each other is satisfied in the relationship and whether they have the same ideas.

For example, Norman Lee used to make his girlfriend laugh with jokes and tricks. One day in 2002, he discovered that his girlfriend was not funny. He told her about his research in this area, but she insisted that her lack of laughter was not dissatisfaction but worry about other things. Sure enough, they broke up completely a few months later, and the time Norman Lee discovered that his girlfriend stopped smiling was the beginning of her change of heart.

Humorous communication makes people feel good and means that the people we like like us back. If the joke fails, it's not necessarily that the other person doesn't appreciate your joke, but that it doesn't accept you. So Norman Lee advises, pay attention to who makes you laugh, who you make laugh, and who doesn't!

(Excerpted by Hao Ruiyue from "Guangzhou Daily" on June 4, 2011)