How did you get through the most difficult and helpless time?

In the most difficult and helpless time, how can you get out without help? In fact, it is a question of how to get out of the trough of life.

In this case, people had better not ask relatives and friends and keep in touch with them as little as possible. Since you are a loser, people can look to the winner, not the loser, and they will not support the loser because they are afraid that you will continue to fail. You must learn to carry it alone, no matter how hard or tired you are. When you can't hold on, hold on.

If you carry it alone, you must sum up the lessons of your failure, set a good goal, and take one step at a time. Accumulate strength bit by bit. There seems to be a story like this: a donkey fell into a deep well without water, and it was difficult for its owner to save it, so he gave up saving it, but he couldn't bear to starve it alive, so he fed it some grass every day. The donkey accumulated a little grass day by day. After a long time, the donkey's grass accumulated at the wellhead and the donkey walked out of the well.

When the valley is low, a person is lonely. He wants to suffer what ordinary people can't eat, endure the anger that ordinary people can't bear, and have a strong belief. Perhaps, "if the sky is going to descend to Sri Lanka, it must first suffer from its mind, its bones and muscles, its body, its body, and its actions, so it is impossible to endure."

One should learn to survive and learn from wolves. If you want to survive smoothly, you should not only have the courage not to be afraid of danger, but also have the ability to find it. If you can't smell the danger of tomorrow, then tomorrow may be your death.

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Tell a few stories about being desperate for your inspiration.

I have a classmate whose relationship is to meet and know his name, and then build a group. He asked me a few legal questions and added WeChat. After graduating from college, he went south to Guangzhou to do cosmetics foreign trade business and opened a Taobao shop. He is the first classmate to buy a luxury car by himself. One night, he sent me a WeChat asking if I was there. I thought it was legal advice, but I didn't care much. I didn't expect it was about borrowing money. I switched positions, and the borrowed money was 2 K. I was surprised. If it is 20 thousand, it will be easy, saying that the money has been paid back.

Actually, I didn't expect him to pay me back. I know the nature of this loan. Unexpectedly, after more than a year, he paid back the money, and it was a thank you. Just received some smiling faces. Once, after he returned to Shanghai, there were some inheritance disputes at home. After consulting my opinion and having dinner together, he talked. He said he was really desperate. In short, he sold his own goods and didn't receive any money. Suppliers' money and employees' wages are constantly being pressed. Credit cards and credit loans have been used, but the position has not been adjusted. He borrowed one by one on his WeChat, and recorded everything he could borrow in one account. Almost 200 thousand at once, he survived the most difficult time. Of course, he also saw the relationship. Any friend of mine is only 2000, and some former customers, colleagues and even recruited employees have borrowed 1000. He is a very proud person, so asking for help actually means that if you don't make it, don't be a man again.

He himself said that if the crisis hadn't passed, he would go to a strange city to start working again. Fortunately, the final payment is coming and the crisis is over. Now I have bought a house in Tianhe, Guangzhou and found a beautiful wife. After doing business together, he gave birth to two children. After making money, he slowly paid off his previous debts. He said that my credit cards were overdrawn at that time, and I felt like I was going to die. Ordinary friends on WeChat borrowed money just to try. I didn't expect to survive, and I really didn't expect to borrow more than 200,000. I also told this story to a friend who almost made a down payment on real estate speculation. Try again, have the cheek to roll around and exhaust the last resources in their address book. Even if they are willing to ask for help, they will always meet it. The world respects the strong. Only when you are alive and have resources can you help those who helped you at that time. My friend also introduced several cases to me afterwards. When you are in a weak position, whether you ask for help or Dont Ask For Help, you can't get real respect.

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(1) Solve all the problems by yourself! (2) people move the living tree to the dead and find the way. This is my old method.

1997 After my business failed, my wife still stuck with me. 1998, we got the license.

At that time, I rented a big single room in a farmer's house, and the monthly rent was 30 yuan. Now that I have got my license, my wife has moved in with me. Of course, our marriage at that time was not valued by others, even a joke.

At that time, all our possessions were a bed, and the bedstead was borrowed from friends; A 9-inch black and white TV set is also the wife's best friend's; The newly bought refrigerator in Rong Sheng is our most valuable home appliance.

I found a job with a monthly salary in 750 yuan, which can only cover the daily simple expenses of two people at that time; I am also confused about life, but I have to pretend to be optimistic in front of my wife.

Sometimes my wife's parents will pretend to be casual and say: people always need their own houses.

I can only pretend not to hear, but I'm really anxious. I'm really going crazy, because you don't know if you can realize this simplest and most basic wish.

Until one day, I read in the newspaper that an advertising company in Guangzhou wanted a job with an annual salary of 6W. God, the annual salary of 6W in 1998 is so attractive to me. I'm going to try anyway. I must try.

My wife is very supportive. 1 When I came to Guangzhou to find a way out in June, 1998, my wife and I had only 1, about 350 yuan, of which she gave me1,000 yuan.

Twenty years later, I still remember my previous life clearly. My wife asked me more than once: Why are you so kind to her, so spoiled and spoiled? My answer is always: because of your beauty, because of your kindness, because you are still by my side when I am in the most difficult time.

When no one helps, at least it means that you are not worth helping in the eyes of others at that time; You can only save yourself through self-improvement and replace tears with sweat!