How to master the right amount of joking

Joking should be done in moderation. Ordinary joking, just say one or two sentences, don't stare at one person all the time. This is acceptable to most people. If you keep making fun of one person, most people won't be able to stand it. Below is a collection of tips I have collected for you on how to master the appropriateness of joking. Welcome to learn from it.

One day, Mr. Wang, who was on a business trip out of town, received a call from a friend saying: Your lover fell into the sewer and was sent to the provincial hospital. Please come back quickly. ?After receiving the call, Mr. Wang hurried back. When I got home and saw my lover watching TV, I realized that I had been deceived.

? It’s too irritating and the joke goes too far. ?Mr. Zhang told his wife that after receiving the call from his good friend, he never thought that he was lying. So he found his friend. Instead of apologizing for his behavior, his friend said that it was normal to joke on April Fools' Day. ?He was very angry after hearing this, so the two of them fought in the street.

Coincidentally, another gentleman received a call from a friend in the office. The other end of the phone said urgently: "Hurry up to such-and-such mall! Your son pointed his finger while riding in the elevator." was broken. ?Hearing this, he ran out of the office in a hurry. He couldn't wait for the elevator and ran from the seventh floor to the first floor in one breath. On the way, his cell phone rang again, and his friend said to him: "Brother, where are you now? I'm on the second floor. I'll take a taxi over right away." ?You go back to work, you don’t have to come. ?He hurriedly asked: ?Can you not go to the hospital? The other party replied: ?No, today is April Fools' Day, I am going to make fun of you!? The gentleman immediately became furious. He ran from the seventh floor to the first floor, and his clothes were all soaked. Yes, this is still a trivial matter. The key is that the feeling of being anxious is too painful.

Among familiar friends, everyone makes fun of each other and speaks without restraint. This is a manifestation of the deep relationship between friends, and it is also a joy in life. However, everything has its advantages and disadvantages. Extreme joy brings sorrow. It is common for friends to break up unhappy because of jokes. Some even hurt their feelings and break off friendship because of a few jokes. In fact, well-intentioned deception and fooling can make the lives of those around you easier and more enjoyable, but you must control the heat. It's really too much to make fun of your loved ones' personal safety like this.

Before joking, you should first pay attention to whether the person you choose can bear your jokes. People in general can be divided into three categories: the first category is cunning and clever, the second category is honest and honest, and the third category is somewhere in between. If you make fun of the first type of person, he will not let you take advantage of him. The second category is those who are honest and honest, who have neither the ability to fight back nor the ability to resist. In appearance and appearance, this kind of person is either sanctimonious or impeccable. He likes to joke with everyone. No matter how you make fun of him, he has a very good temper and will not get angry. For those who are in between, the most careful thing to do is to deal with them. This kind of person probably likes to talk and laugh with others, but once he is teased by others, he has neither the intelligence to fight back immediately nor the tolerance to accept other people's jokes. As a result, the man becomes angry and angry, and everyone is unhappy; the woman hides alone in the room. I cried bitterly on the bed, saying that I was bullied. So get to know the other person first before joking.

Secondly, joking should be done in moderation. Ordinary joking, just say one or two sentences, don't stare at one person all the time. This is acceptable to most people. If you keep making fun of one person, most people won't be able to stand it.

It doesn’t matter if you are joking because you care about the other person’s dignity. But if it embarrasses the other person too much, it defeats the purpose of the joke. You laugh at your classmates who failed the exam, you laugh at your relatives who lost money in business because they were deceived by others, and you laugh at your companions who fell while walking? Originally, these are all things that should be sympathized with. But you use it to make fun of others, which not only makes it difficult for the other person to step down, but also shows your cruelty and ruthlessness. Likewise, you should not use other people's physical defects as the subject of your jokes, such as crossed eyes, pockmarks, lameness, hunchback, etc. It is a person's misfortune that you should pity rather than make fun of. Don't make joking a habit of your conversation. Not being able to speak other than joking can only show your shallowness. A person who deliberately makes fun of other people's troubles must be a heartless person.

Sentences that are humorous but not obscene and full of humor can make people happy and thought-provoking. This kind of intelligent humor is the best in real-life conversations. While not hurting others, Make everyone happy. If you can do this sincerely, you will definitely gain more people's trust, more people's admiration, and more friends.

In interpersonal communication, making a decent joke can relax your nerves, enliven the atmosphere, and create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere suitable for communication. Therefore, humorous people can always be welcomed and loved by people. But if the joke is not done well, it will be counterproductive. So, how to master the appropriateness of the joke?

1. The content must be elegant

Joking is done skillfully using humorous language. The art of communicating thoughts and feelings requires that language must be pure and elegant. The content of the joke depends on the ideological temperament and cultural accomplishment of the joker. Jokes with healthy content and elegant style not only provide enlightenment and spiritual enjoyment to the other party, but also powerfully shape your own beautiful image. If you joke and use dirty words, it will not only make the language environment full of filth, but it will also be an insult to the listener, or at least a form of disrespect. At the same time, it also shows that his level is not high and his taste is vulgar.

2. Be friendly

Being kind to others is a principle of joking. The process of joking is a process of mutual communication and transmission of feelings, and it is a manifestation of goodwill. If you use jokes to ridicule others, vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction, or even make fun of others for fun, only a fool will not be able to spot it. Maybe some people are not as sharp-tongued as you. On the surface, you have the upper hand, but other people will think that you cannot respect others and will not want to associate with you. In this way, you will lose many friends.

3. The objects should be distinguished

The same joke can be played on person A, but not necessarily on person B. People have different identities, personalities, and moods, and their ability to tolerate jokes is also different.

Generally speaking, younger generations should not joke with their seniors, subordinates should not joke with their superiors; women should not joke with men. When joking among peers, you need to understand each other's personality traits and emotional information.

The other person is outgoing, tolerant and tolerant, and can be forgiven for making jokes that are a little too big. The other person is introverted and likes to ponder the meaning behind his words, so be careful when joking. Although the other person is usually cheerful by nature, if something unpleasant or sad happens to happen, you should not joke with him casually. On the contrary, if the other person is introverted, but a happy event is coming, a joke with him at this time will have unexpectedly good results.

4. Distinguish the occasion

When joking, you must clearly understand the occasion and see if it is appropriate to make such a joke in this occasion. Generally speaking, in serious and quiet occasions, the conversation should be clear. It is solemn and cannot be joked about. On festive occasions, pay attention to whether the jokes you make can add joy to the festive environment. It is not good if you make people unhappy by joking. Generally speaking, it is not advisable to joke in serious situations, otherwise it can easily cause misunderstandings.

During working hours, it is generally not appropriate to joke around. To prevent distractions from affecting work or even causing accidents.

5. Avoid taboos

The taboos that usually need to be paid attention to are the following:

Avoid frivolous and unrestrained joking with elders and juniors, and avoid talking about it in particular. Things between men and women. When several generations live together, jokes should be elegant, witty, humorous, and enjoyable. On such occasions, it is taboo to talk about romantic affairs between men and women. When peers make jokes in this regard, and you are present as an elder or junior, it is best not to comment and just listen as if nothing has happened;

Be alone with people of the opposite sex who are not related by blood. Avoid joking. Even if it is a serious joke, it will often arouse the other person's disgust, or cause others to speculate and criticize;

Be careful to avoid taboos when joking with people with disabilities. Everyone is afraid of others making fun of their shortcomings, especially people with disabilities. As the saying goes, don't scold a bald man in front of a monk, and don't talk about a light bulb in front of a leper.