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A man caught by light, an absurd light, why did you tear off the fig leaf of middle-aged marriage?

If there is a beam of light, only two people with true love can be taken away:

Will you be taken away?

Who will you go with? Lover or partner?

Will your partner be taken away? With you or with your lover?

What if you and your wife are left together?

20 19 The film The Man Caught by Light, starring He Wang, started from this absurd light.

The people taken away are all in pairs and are considered to have true love.

Then those who stay are like the only fig leaf torn off by this light, exposing mediocrity, hypocrisy, disloyalty, lies, paranoia and selfishness in middle-aged marriage.

0 1, mediocrity and hypocrisy: no love and no tears in middle age.

The main characters in this film are Wu Wenxue played by Bo Huang and zhangyan played by Tan Zhuo.

They got married on 17, which is the strong emotion of campus romance entering marriage.

However, after marriage 17 years, zhangyan looked sad and didn't laugh all the year round, while martial arts literature was extremely passive in evaluating teachers' titles.

Really middle-aged, everything is mediocre and lifeless.

But when a beam of light shone down to test true love, it caused quite a stir and doubt in their hearts.

First, they were questioned by Wu Wenxue's mother that they didn't love each other, and then they were ridiculed by their daughter. It was better to divorce.

What is even more ridiculous is that when they go to the class reunion together, they have to explain to everyone why both of them were left behind.

In order to show that he and his wife still have true love, Wu Wenxue spared no expense to go to the copy shop to take photos of his wife going abroad, made fake train tickets, and let his wife zhangyan lie down with him.

During the dinner, anyone who is not caught by the light will either find an excuse to prove that he is not in the light range; Or pretend to be free and easy, saying that one of us is middle-aged and talking about feelings, which is childish and ridiculous.

When Rebecca's PS photo was similar to another classmate's PS photo and the lie was exposed, Rebecca bowed his head and ate, embarrassed.

Wu Wenxue refused to admit his enemy's death, but also took out a train ticket to prove himself, and asked to go to the station to get a video to confirm that his wife was really out of light.

Finally, he actually took his sexual intercourse with his wife as evidence to prove that there is true love between husband and wife, so that others know it well and burst into laughter.

The wife was ashamed and left angrily.

Later, Wu Wenxue became suspicious when he found out that his wife zhangyan had confided the bitterness of her marriage to her daughter's best friend's father, Zhao Feng.

First, I questioned my wife. After I couldn't get the answer, I went to Zhao Feng to get the answer: Have they slept together?

But he turned a blind eye to the problems between himself and his wife, zhangyan, and evaded and shirked responsibility.

It is this mediocrity and hypocrisy that makes the marriage between Bo Huang and zhangyan exist in name only and on the verge of collapse.

02, derailment and lies: 7 years of itching, three views are ruined.

Another protagonist in the film is played by Wang.

She is intellectual and elegant, with a decent job and considerable income, but her husband Jianping Song's frequent infidelity always makes her a joke to her colleagues.

So she had to get a divorce.

But she waited for a long time at the gate of the Civil Affairs Bureau, and her husband didn't come on the pretext of something.

When the marriage didn't end, Li Nan breathed a sigh of relief and put on his wedding ring. The subtext is probably: he still loves me and won't divorce me.

Who knows her husband's mistress, He Xiaofen, who is not afraid of gossip, found Li Nan's unit and asked Li Nan where to hide Jianping Song, and had a big fight.

Later, Li Nan found out that her husband was missing.

Most likely, which lover was taken away by the light with her husband.

Out of curiosity, she began to look for her husband's lover and wanted to see what kind of woman her husband loved and was taken away by the light.

As a result, she found several husbands' lovers.

When she is with where, her husband likes to feel sexy, entangled, desired and worshipped.

When I was with my first love, Yan Xue, I was generous, kept pure, loved jade like a life, and promised to get married;

When I am with a woman I met in a car accident, I will tell jokes, be humorous, be completely open and talk about everything. ...

This man, Jianping Song, wandered among all kinds of women by his not-so-clever lies. A man with thousands of faces can be described as a recidivist who cheated.

But Li Nan always remembers that when Jianping Song pursued her, she said that a woman who likes the atmosphere, has dignity, is financially independent, and can give men freedom, found Li Nan and found her ideal soul mate.

After seven years of marriage, Li Nan has been demanding herself by this standard. Even when he learned of the existence of mistress He, he often stayed up all night, reflecting and criticizing what he had done wrong.

Finally, she was freed by the deceiver, deleted her contact information and lost her wedding ring.

After seven years of marriage, if you have such a husband, wouldn't it be ruined?

03. Selfishness and paranoia: The love advertised by some people is just desire.

There is an ironic scene in the movie.

A researcher from the local Chinese Academy of Sciences calmly came to the police station and surrendered himself, claiming that he personally killed his wife.

Because many people reported missing cases and no one received him, he calmly told a thief who was handcuffed in the corridor and baked.

Many people disappeared when the beam of light came down. As a scientist, he soon discovered the truth:

Those with true love were taken away, and those without true love were left behind.

And he knows in his heart that he loves his wife, so the only reason why they both stay is that his wife doesn't love him.

He went home with this conclusion and asked his wife to cook for him. His wife didn't like it, but she did it anyway. In cooking, he put chopped green onion that he didn't like.

So he made sure that his wife no longer loved him and killed her in a rage.

He has no remorse for killing his wife. What he regrets most is that he didn't report it after eating a hot pot.

It goes without saying that such a selfish and paranoid person's indisputable love is true love or control desire.

04. Why does middle-aged marriage become the target of public criticism?

In recent years, the marriage dilemma of middle-aged people has become a topic of self-mockery and hot discussion.

Many film and television dramas also take this as the theme and main line, which arouses the strong sense of * * * of people trapped in the middle-aged marriage dilemma.

"Forgot to Know You" starring Hong Tao and Guo Xiaodong; "One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences" starring Mao Hai and Li Qian all have similar themes.

There is only one problem reflected: middle-aged couples are incompetent in communication.

It is precisely because of poor communication that middle-aged couples often forget romance, lose understanding, ignore the ideal of * * *, and abandon their initial feelings a few years ago.

One by one is still full of anger and deep resentment; Or despair, cold war-style separation.

But these practices have no benefit except to make the difficult middle age more sad.

Therefore, people trapped in the middle-aged marriage dilemma should start with communication, break the bottleneck and regain happiness.

Restart the system of love and praise in marriage: seriously think about what advantages your partner has, rather than hiding it in your heart, it is better to announce it in your mouth;

Be brave, let go of unpleasant memories and think about the scenes since we met, especially when they decided to overcome all difficulties and die together, and share them with their partners;

Be generous and be the one who says "I love you", "I miss you", "I need you" and "thank you" to your partner first.

Pope John gotman, a famous American psychologist, drew the following conclusions and data based on his observation of 3,000 American families and 700 newlyweds:

If the system of love and praise between husband and wife (both husband and wife retain some basic feelings and feel that the other is worthy of respect, admiration and even love) is still in operation, their marriage can be saved.

Among those couples who can take a positive view of their marriage history, 94% may also have a happy future.

So, all you have to do is restart the love and praise system in marriage.

Master communication skills and solve problems with your heart. Communication is a skill that can only be mastered through learning, so some communication incompetence is caused by long-term lack of communication ability.

As long as you really want to solve the problem, then you should learn to start with tenderness and end with compromise in communication.

The book Happy Marriage points out:

In what way the discussion begins, it will inevitably end;

Whether you like it or not, the only way to solve the marriage problem is to seek compromise.

Therefore, it is a prerequisite and courage to choose a warm environment, pleasant atmosphere and gentle tone to discuss.

Learning to compromise is not cowardice or shame, but courage and love.

Learn to accept and dare to change. Christopher Dream, a senior Canadian life coach and speaker, quoted the truth taught by a friend in his book Intimacy-Cao Liangqiao to the Soul:

The secret of enriching life is what people want all their lives, but the real secret is that your life is already rich.

If we change "life" into "marriage", you will benefit a lot.

Like this:

I've been asking the secret of making my marriage sweet. The reality is that my marriage is already very sweet.

This belief will make you cherish the sweetness of the past, accept the bottleneck of the present, and be willing to change for the future.

Therefore, what people who are caught in the middle-aged marriage dilemma need to do is to open their mouths and be kind to each other.

I hope the above words can encourage my readers.

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