How to write a letter to my husband?

Hello!

When you receive this letter I sent you, you must be surprised that I will write to you, right? I think I will write a letter and send it to you. In that case, you will certainly be more surprised and surprised. But the thought of coming back from vacation in another week is embarrassing. Don't go home until you receive the letter, haha!

Unconsciously, today is our fourth wedding anniversary. How time flies, as if the marriage happened yesterday, vividly, vividly. I believe you feel the same way, don't you?

I realize that it has been five years now, and we have experienced too much together, including bitterness, joy, surprise, joy and, of course, quarrels, but fortunately, we can quickly resolve the crisis every time and won't hold grudges. The biggest gain along the way is probably that we have two lovely babies, a son and a daughter, which form the word "good". We all agree on the care of children. With their two lovely babies, this life is enough!

You've actually changed a lot since I met you. In this respect, I believe all family members are obvious. I have to admit that although you are not perfect, you are getting better and better. I know you have always been shy in language expression, but you are great in action. For example, I appreciate your meticulous care during my pregnancy. Although I have a big belly, I have a hard trip to and from work every day. But you can eat your breakfast every morning; In order not to let me have supper at noon, you insist on getting up early every day on weekdays. After breakfast, you make lunch for me, pack the fruit you eat every day, put it in a rice bag and let me take it to the company. There must be a big hug when you go out every day. When I come back from work every day, I can eat my own dinner. When the road is slippery on rainy days, you must personally take me to the subway entrance. No matter where you go, you must be led when you go out. Sometimes even your friends will laugh at you and say, "isn't your wife pregnant?" What every woman has to go through. As for the baby? And at this time, you calmly replied to them, "I just have such a baby. "In fact, I am very happy that you can ignore other people's opinions and stick to being yourself. You never let me do housework when I was pregnant with my son. Even I occasionally sweep the floor, or wash dishes to dry clothes. Once you see or find these little things, you will say me. Tell me not to do anything and have a good rest when I get home. We insist on prenatal education for our son, telling stories and listening to prenatal education music every day. Every birth check-up is with me, witnessing every change of my son. These behaviors didn't last for a day or two until I went home from maternity leave to have a baby. I also deeply feel your dedication and concern for me. I am very happy, many friends envy me, and a caring husband like you.

On the night my son started school, I washed my hair and you dried it. It was one o'clock in the morning and we set off for the hospital. At that time, you were driving, and I took my mobile phone to record the law of labor pains. We both went to the hospital happily. When we gave birth to our son, we believed in that scene and process, and we will never forget it, right? I had a difficult birth. You were called into the delivery room by the doctor and signed the risk agreement three times. I believe your anxiety must be unspeakable, and you must pray for the safety of mother and child countless times. After so much suffering, my son died safely. Now I think about it, I still feel cold. During the hospitalization, my baby and I were hospitalized separately, and you were busy taking care of them on both sides. You haven't slept for four days and nights. We hugged each other and cried. I understand your hard work, and you sympathize with me for going through such a big disaster to give birth to a baby. When I came home from the hospital, I insisted on helping my son take a bath together every time. Because the baby is too young, I dare not hold him in the bath. You wash him every time, and I help him. It's funny to think about it now. Our two novice parents didn't even know how to use the baby's diaper at first, which led to frequent urine leakage. At that time, the baby took a shit seven or eight times a day in the second month. I look so scared that I dare not touch it. Every time, you take pains to change diapers, wipe your ass and do more things, but you don't say a dirty word or a tired word. A month later, you lost a lot of weight. You said you lost 8 pounds. Your love for me and my baby is in your eyes and warm in your heart.

My home was in Guangzhou when I was pregnant with my daughter. I have a big belly. I have to take care of my son. I have to buy food every day. I am busy with all kinds of housework, laundry and cooking. Although it's hard, I enjoy being a family, even if I'm tired. Although I miss it very much, the time when the first child was spoiled by you was really different from the second child. I've always been frustrated, complaining about how you are so inconsiderate to me. Because of this, I also quarreled with you. But when I think about it later, I am really too melodramatic. After all, times have changed, the situation is different, and there is no comparability. For example, when I was born, I had a job and income, and there were no other obstacles. Besides your work, you also have more energy to cherish me. However, in the second child, I didn't go to work and didn't have any income. You earn money by yourself, and you have to support your family in a big city. It is also very expensive to have a prenatal check-up outside, which costs more than 800 yuan each time. Your energy is limited and it is impossible to be perfect.

Because I gave birth to a baby, my body was seriously damaged. The doctor said that in order to reduce the risk, it is not recommended to give birth naturally. My daughter was too naughty at that time. In the first few months, her fetal position was always good. Around 34 weeks, she suddenly changed her fetal position and became abnormal. It was also because of the third trimester that exercise could not correct her fetal position. In the third trimester, the second child has poor sleep and often suffers from insomnia. At the end of 37 weeks, the doctor said that due to abnormal fetal position, she could not give birth naturally. When the doctor told us that today was a good day to go home and make an appointment for caesarean section, we immediately decided to go home and find someone to calculate the lucky time for caesarean section in advance. After the time was fixed, I gave birth to my daughter by caesarean section. I will never forget the moment when my daughter was born. When the doctor said it was my sister, I squatted on the operating table and shouted with surprise: "Really, great." I was so excited that I left tears of happiness and thanked God silently, because my greatest wish in my life is to have a daughter. Now, we have got our wish, which is considered as our wish. The arrival of my daughter is undoubtedly the biggest surprise for you and me, because all along, we all thought that she might still be a son, and we are all trying to convince ourselves that we might not have a daughter in this life. I didn't expect God to come back against the wind and give us such a big surprise. It's an unspeakable joy. As a mother, I have suffered from natural delivery and caesarean section, but it is also a painful experience. It is worthwhile to get two lovely babies, no matter how painful. You'd better take good care of me and my daughter and wait for your sister's full moon before going out to make money.

It is said that people near Zhu Zhechi and Mexico are all black. Living together, people will influence each other. After leaving the society, I have always been a hard-working and active person. And your biggest weakness at that time was laziness and inattention. After getting married, for a period of time, I was very discouraged and felt worse and worse, and I kept complaining about your bad work. You didn't do it well. We often have a small quarrel every three days and a big quarrel every five days. You also said how I became like a dissatisfied housewife. In fact, I hate myself when I lose my temper. It's so ugly. I hate myself. I once hated you in despair. I thought my initiative would never affect you, but I seem to be infected by your shortcomings. I think it's over. Instead of getting better together, we will get worse together. I am not reconciled. I don't want our life to be so gloomy. Fortunately, from the second half of this year, I took the time to start self-reflection, and then picked up the habit of studying every day again. Sure enough, books and knowledge are my greatest spiritual friends. I read and write, channel my emotions through words, constantly reflect and motivate myself and recognize myself. After I persisted for about two months, my mind changed dramatically, as if I had returned to the positive and sunny mind when I was young. I feel much calmer and see through many things. So I set myself a learning goal and determined the direction of progress. Even though I am busy and hard, I live a full and happy life every day.

Slowly I understand that you and I both have shortcomings, but we should learn to tolerate and understand each other. There are no two identical leaves in the world, and neither are people. We are different individuals, and our cognition and views will be different. Therefore, when we have an argument in the future, we might as well calm down for a few seconds and don't talk about right and wrong in a hurry to win or lose. In feelings, in fact, whoever wins and loses, the result is both losses. For example, although we won each other in a quarrel, we lost our feelings, which will make our hearts farther and farther away. Home is a place to talk about feelings, not to reason. I hope that each of us can restrain our pride and stubbornness and take a step back to be happy. We should learn to look at things slowly and keep two sides. You can have your own opinions and accept the other person's different opinions, instead of fighting and arguing hysterically as soon as there are differences, you should also let the other person accept your own opinions. We might as well do things casually, who has reason to listen to who; Important matters must be discussed, and you must never force the other party to listen to his ideas completely. When we encounter differences, we might as well speak our thoughts and opinions calmly first, and then combine our own views, learn from each other's strong points and make a comprehensive decision, so that you and I will be happy, right? Because we think differently between men and women, and each idea has its own advantages and disadvantages, we might as well avoid our own shortcomings and take out our own advantages to solve the problem. If we insist on doing this, I believe that many unnecessary quarrels will be reduced in life.

Of course, it is impossible for any couple not to quarrel all their lives. However, we can use the occasional small dispute as the spice of life, so that we may better understand each other's thoughts and help us maintain our emotions. It is easy to know each other, but difficult to be together; It's easy to get married, but it's not easy to get married and have children with the same person for life. Between husband and wife, the most difficult thing is: don't bully the young and poor, don't abandon your wife. It is said that it is easy to bear hardships and share weal and woe. I never envy young and loving boys and girls, but I will be moved by those old people who can support and help each other when they are old. I believe that fate lets you and I hold hands here, and I hope we can wait for each other until the end of our lives.

Who wants to be displaced if life is not easy? In order to live, we have to live in two places at present, and it is this kind of gathering less and staying more that makes us cherish each other and our families more. I remember one time, when we were chatting, I said that my family was very busy, especially when my children were ill, and I really worked day and night. I said I envy you for having so many holidays and free time. And you said, you envy me for being at home, being able to accompany my children and my family every day. Except for business trips or business trips, you live like a tramp all year round. Speaking of this, we are all suddenly surprised that the complaints in our eyes are actually the envy in each other's eyes. From that moment on, we realized that we all had our own difficulties. In fact, we are all quietly paying for the family, but in different ways, but the goal is the same, and we all hope that the family can get better and better. I try to understand your hard work and hardship outside. I said, "Honey, you have worked hard. You went to the north thousands of kilometers away by yourself, and you have always been afraid of the cold. It is really difficult for you to work in such a harsh environment. " You also try to understand that it is not easy for me to stay at home. You said: "Taking care of children is actually the most tiring, and I definitely can't sleep well every night." I believe that at that moment, our hearts were moved and warm, because we were all surrounded by each other's care and understanding.

In the last few times of the video, you kept asking me about my family, big and small. Once I got impatient, I said why you are so in charge. As a result, you said that you often don't even have a speaker there, and you are very lonely. If it comes to the weekend, it is really more lonely. You want to know more about my family. At that moment, my inexplicable nose suddenly soured, and I felt deeply guilty about you, because all I saw was that I was busy with various affairs at home. If you are tired, you don't want to talk, so you just ignore it. You often want to talk, but because you are in a foreign land and on a business trip, there is no one to talk to. So I apologized to you right away. I said, "I'm sorry, honey, I ignored your situation and didn't consider the problem from your point of view." Then we talked for two hours. Later, as long as you have time to call me, I will be much more patient with you. Sometimes, as long as I have enough time, we often talk for a long time. We are all comforting and encouraging each other. Just get through this period of time, and our goals will be realized one by one.

As a father, you must be a good father, and your love for your children is believed to be felt by them. As a husband, not bad, at least in the most difficult moment of my life, you have been with me. As a son, you are still very filial and have always been concerned about the health of your parents.

To tell the truth, I have complained before about why you don't have a stable job. But then slowly, I let go and re-examine my thinking. I don't think I can be so greedy. I already care about your family, me and the children. You are a person, not a machine, and your energy is limited. You have paid more for your family, which means you will definitely be short of money. And I, as you know, although I love money, I don't worship it. If you make money desperately and completely ignore your family, even if you earn more money, you will lose your love and companionship for your family, which is not the result I want. Therefore, I never thought that I must be rich or expensive, have a family and be happy. Home, we manage together, money, we earn together. Housework, whoever is free will do it, and two people will do it together when they are free; From the perspective of making money, it doesn't matter who earns more or less. In terms of family status, none of us should look up to anyone and look down on anyone. I hope we can respect and appreciate each other more and complain less about each other. Just like I am investing in myself and learning skills, I was looked down upon by others before, but you have always encouraged me and supported me, which has brought me great motivation and made me more convinced that I must do better and better.