The mother was pushed out of the delivery room, but why did her family disappear?

Surrounding pregnant women before delivery and children after delivery, this is the state when many families in China add their mouths.

"Buy bowls and chopsticks", regardless of boys and girls, in dozens of square spaces, if there is one more crying figure, there will be countless laughs.

However, behind this tranquility, there is a slightly lonely figure.

She may be covered up by pain, and may forget to lose because of the child's crying.

Outside the delivery room, echoed with the doctor's cry:

"Family members? What about the family? "

The parturient is lying on the movable bed, and there is no one outside the delivery room.

When the child was born, everyone excitedly left around the child.

The cleaner said, "Gather around when you need it, and gather around when you don't."

This is a scene posted online. After a long time, the family members came over and took the painful woman back to the ward. I don't know how to explain it to the woman who paid the most when I came back.

Two or three generations around a child, the child does not understand, only feel that he was born to be the center of the world, and once a family has a little life, it seems that it will naturally weaken the sense of existence of other feelings.

Just like a new mother waiting outside the delivery room, she is isolated from her husband and wife and from her parents' affection. It seems that there is only herself in the world, and she is also at the moment when she needs to care most.

This situation is no less than disaster movies and Resident Evil.

Lonely, helpless and cold.

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What is the most complete emotional framework of a family?

It is not easy to give a fixed answer, but what is certain is that children are not the only ones who need to be loved.

An elder sister in the office once told her postpartum story.

After giving birth to the baby, she was too weak to speak.

I don't know how long it took, but the old people at home were all around the child, and no one noticed her calling in a low voice.

At this time, the husband who finished the formalities came back to see her face flushed and looked at a bunch of relatives next to her.

The man fell down in front of her and asked her what she needed.

"water."

Soon, the man who consulted the nurse brought a cup of warm water and slowly fed it to the elder sister.

Now, the child is in primary school, and the elder sister still remembers this glass of water, which seems to be worth showing off than a few pieces of gold and silver when she got married.

Indeed, what is more important than caring, and what is more golden than true love?

Liu Yuxi said in his poem:

Rain in the east, sunrise in the east, said it was not sunny, but it was still sunny.

Have women who are easily overlooked after having children also experienced "sunrise in the east and rain in the west"? And the woman who is loved and cared for is not "Tao is sunny or sunny."

From a girl to a mother, it is a time overnight, but it is not a mission that can be adapted overnight.

At the stage when she is trying to accept a life coming into her life, and at the moment when she is helpless, she needs that once shoulder to continue to shelter her from the wind and rain.

A complete structure of a family of three needs a harmonious couple first, then a normal environment can be found below, and then a healthy child.

Russell said that if a child wants to grow into a happy, generous and fearless person, then the child needs the warmth from the surrounding environment, and this warmth can only come from the love of parents.

Parental love is the best textbook for children.

How to face difficulties, how to deal with interpersonal relationships, how to seek common ground while reserving differences, and how to mediate disputes will all become examples for children in the future and will also protect the integrity of the whole family structure.

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To establish a healthy family environment, we should start with controlling the mobile phone.

Children sleep, and husband and wife sleep in separate beds;

A triple bed and two mobile phone screens have become a true portrayal of countless families before going to bed.

The child finally fell asleep and quickly brushed his mobile phone;

Children make trouble all day, that's all, mobile phone.

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We use children as an excuse to play with our mobile phones with peace of mind, as if we can only charge them by pouring out our love.

If it is "the fallen flower intentionally follows the flowing water, and the flowing water has no intention to love the fallen flower", then we can persuade the flowing water to wait for the fallen flower;

Now, once the fallen petal is unintentional and the running water is ruthless, I can't even figure out where to persuade.

Children who can just crawl are interested in mobile phones. Why? They can neither use WeChat nor be king. Why are they struggling to climb to the mobile phone?

In most cases, they often see their parents staring at their mobile phones. In their young minds, they must understand what this Little Square is.

Finally, when they are sensible, they can also play games with their mobile phones without disturbing you.

But you don't bother me, I don't care about you, marry a mobile phone, marry a mobile phone, and recognize the machine as the father.

Mr. Lu Xun once said:

As long as the mind is not blocked, everyone likes their children to be stronger, healthier, smarter, nobler and happier than themselves.

If the mobile phone invades the family, occupies the family affection and dilutes the family affection, then the children must be stronger than their parents, and they will play mobile phones better.

Think about it, how many times you don't go for an outing on a rest day, how many times you don't accompany your lover to the movies in your spare time, and how much time you slip away in the slide of your mobile phone screen.

The more time we spend on small videos and jokes, the less chance we have to be with the people we love when we are still healthy and our hair is not so gray.

Plutarch said:

Life is only two and a half minutes: one minute to laugh, one minute to sigh, and half to love, because people die in the third minute.

There are many people who need love, but little time for love. Don't wait until you are white-haired, then look back and sigh the disappointment of your life.

Because,

Time is indifferent. If you ignore it, it will surely get back at you.

Emotion is fragile. If you ignore it, it may ignore you again.

Don't let the mobile phone become a burden at home. So:

Time is limited, if you want to use your mobile phone for leisure, you must quantify it regularly;

Restrict occasions, family group activities and don't participate in mobile phones;

Restrict content, work, promotion, advanced and others.

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Every family member should not be left out in the cold. What does a complete love need?

I came home from work overtime one day, after ten o'clock in the evening.

When I went upstairs, I met my eldest brother upstairs, so I went downstairs quickly.

"Why do you want to go?" I asked.

"The child wants to eat ice cream. I'll go outside and have a look. " Brother didn't have time to talk to me, so he left a message and ran away

The sound of * * * enjoying bicycle unlocking came from downstairs. I remember, but I forgot to tell him that it was raining outside.

I remember the last time I came home in the middle of the night, he went to buy a mask for his wife.

Later, I found my eldest brother hanging an arm and slowly going upstairs.

"What's the matter?"

Eldest brother looked up and gave me a cold look.

"Nothing, I fell."

"Where is the eldest sister-in-law?"

My brother was silent for a while.

"NianLia went on a trip."

……

From then on, I never dared to ask him about his family, as if I were afraid to poke his wound.

If there are three people in a family, two people are well dressed and one person is sloppy;

If a family, two people live like emperors and one person lives like a servant;

In this way, it is hard to say that there is equal emotional communication between them.

But, how to do it?

Delete "you should".

In fact, in a family, there is only "I should" and there is no "you should". The lonely woman at the delivery room door is probably thought by her family that "you should" give birth to this child, but no one thinks that "I should" take good care of this woman.

The responsibility of the family is to take the initiative, not to assign tasks in the workplace.

Unilateral acquisition, like the lack of water in the ecosystem, will not exist in an endless cycle of growth.

Everyone has a family and the family has become more stable.

Don't treat your family as a "tool"

Under the news of the mother, many netizens left messages.

A netizen talked about the different treatment before and after giving birth and the different family attitudes.

Generally speaking, it is "chilling".

The last thing you need in your life is the person you love. If a person wants to leave the interests of his loved ones to himself, then he is the loneliest person in life.

Because, probably everyone will dislike him.

Have the consciousness of "guardian"

Life is a continuous rain, and everyone is moving forward with the help of each other.

We have the responsibility to hold up an umbrella to keep elderly parents, close lovers and young children away from the ice and rain.

No one can be left behind.

When every member has the thinking of "guardian", a family will have a stronger fortress and the ability to cope with the unpredictable world and the impermanent life.

I hope there will be no more lonely women outside the delivery room, and I also hope that every family has countless emotional lines that can be easily cut off.