What should I do if I am ignored after my confession is rejected?

Old summer solstice helps you analyze her psychology;

Before you confess, she was willing to approach you because she had a crush on you. Plus, you were very kind to her, and she was alone, so you gave her a lot of spiritual comfort. She likes her relationship with you before she confessed.

In fact, she is not sure how she feels about you, but she must have a good feeling and love. It's just that she dare not face such feelings. You have what she wants, what she doesn't want, and her own reasons, so she has to face her heart after you confess.

Because she has never had a boyfriend, she has a lot of vague knowledge about the relationship between the two sexes, which makes her afraid to take the first step easily, so escaping is her instinctive choice.

She said: She didn't think too much, just thought I was her good friend, didn't think about having a boyfriend, said I was sorry, I was too good to her, I am sorry, I am really sorry, and then said some encouraging words to me.

The next Summer of Solstice helps you analyze the subtext and psychological real track in her words.

A. She didn't think so much, only thought I was her good friend.

Because she has no emotional experience, doesn't understand love, and doesn't know the motives and reasons for getting along with you. It's just a good feeling and intimacy, and it's also a kind of trust in you. But she doesn't know how she feels about you, and instinctively denies that she loves you because of her emotional ignorance.

B.i haven't thought about having a boyfriend yet.

This may be because of her family education, perhaps because of her own understanding of feelings, or because of her own requirements for herself. In short, she thinks it is not the best time to have a boyfriend.

C. say sorry. I was too good to her. Thank you very much. I'm sorry too. I'm really sorry.

This shows that she recognizes your kindness, but she hasn't realized whether she recognizes you as a person. Maybe she once had some vague feelings about you, but these are uncertain, have no real perception, and are denied by her subjective consciousness. Just like you give her a dress, she feels comfortable to wear it, but she doesn't know what material it is. If you ask her what material you like, she will give you an answer that she doesn't know. So she subconsciously thinks that she will like clothes made of many materials, not just the clothes you gave her. Because of this uncertainty, she can only thank you for the clothes, but can't tell you clearly that she likes the clothes made of this material.

She stressed that she was really sorry because she subconsciously felt that she had feelings for you, but for some subjective and objective reasons, she could not accept you, so she felt sorry. I'm sorry, not only because she failed to live up to your kindness, but also because she actually has some good feelings for you, but she can't stand you now, so I'm sorry.

Through the above analysis of the old summer solstice, I believe you have roughly understood her complex psychological change process. The following summer solstice gives you some advice:

Although she is two years older than you, in the final analysis, she is still a child. She is unprepared for falling in love and doesn't know how to deal with emotional problems. That's why she seems very flustered, at a loss, and instinctively refuses to deal with your confession. So what you have to do is not feel sorry for her refusal, but try to understand her, understand her and look at the problem from her point of view. Besides, there are many subjective and objective reasons for her refusal now, not because.

She deleted WeChat and refused to call because she didn't know how to face you. She thought it was for your own good, and she would have her own logic to do so. Besides, she is not good at refusing and dealing with emotional problems, and she is not mature enough to deal with your confession. What you have to do now is to stabilize your emotions first, and it's no big deal to admit failure. If you indulge in confessing your failure, you won't have the courage to fail again and again.

Don't let this confession failure affect your mood and normal life. You still have your own life. Learning and feelings are only a part of your life, not the whole thing. She must want to see a good you, not a decadent you.

On the basis of dealing with your own life and study, consider your relationship with her. It should not be difficult to understand a person's current situation in the Chinese community in Canada. You can first understand and observe her current life and study status and wait for the opportunity.

She has great feelings for you now, but after a while, these feelings will gradually calm down, and when she faces you again, there will be no such great resistance.

It is very important to eliminate her anxiety and give her a reasonable logic to get along with you. Her logic is to treat you as a good friend. After you confessed, you upset the balance of this relationship. What you have to do now is to find a way that is logically acceptable to her and re-establish a balanced relationship with her.

Let's talk so much first. I hope the analysis of the old summer solstice can inspire and help you. I hope you can harvest a happy love.

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