Very stubborn people often have the following characteristics:

Plato said: "The most regretful thing in life is to give up easily what should not be given up, and stubbornly persist in what should not be persisted."

A truly smart person , know how to "flexibly" and will not do "one-size-fits-all" things. As a human being, you have to do something and not do something. If you know your mistakes and can correct them, there is no greater good.

People who are overly stubborn are actually "not smart enough", but they don't realize it. They often have the following characteristics.

01

He knows little about things, but stubbornly believes that he is "knowledgeable".

"The Analects of Confucius·Wei Zheng" writes: "Knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, that is knowing."

No one can understand everything in society. You can only learn about one or a few aspects. There are almost no people who are proficient in all three hundred and sixty professions. Even smart people like Zhuge Liang, who know a lot about astronomy and geography, cannot accurately predict what will happen in the future.

When a person thinks that he is a "saint", he often commits the problem of stubbornness. Gradually become a "one muscle" in the eyes of others.

I once saw a joke: A kind person picked up a poor turtle, drove to the beach, and released the turtle to the beach. However, the turtle is unwilling to swim into the sea, and always stays with kind people and does not want to leave. The kind-hearted man was moved by the turtle and thought that the turtle was connected to human nature and was destined to be with him.

A kind-hearted person took the turtle home and kept it for a while. He told everyone about his fate with the turtle. When a guest came to the house and saw the turtle, he said: "This is a freshwater turtle, and it's injured."

Seeing this, I suddenly understood that the well-intentioned people mistakenly thought the freshwater turtle was a sea turtle. In fact, It is a mistake of insufficient knowledge.

The wisdom of the world requires us to learn it throughout our lives. If we are unwilling to learn and are arrogant, we are stubborn and will not do ourselves any good.

02

I have done something wrong and still don’t want to repent.

If you are wrong, you are wrong, and if you are right, you are right. No one is a saint, and everyone can make mistakes. If you insist on taking the wrong thing as the right thing, then you are "self-indulgent".

Wise people are often very humble. Even if it is something they are very sure of or do right, they are willing to listen to other people's suggestions. Maybe the problems pointed out by others can help them master more. What a "trick".

Even if you do things right, there is still room for improvement. No one can think that they are "perfect".

Making mistakes is an important experience for a person and a process of gaining experience. For example, when we were in school, we would always get the questions wrong, and then correct the mistakes in time under the guidance of the teacher. When correcting the mistakes, we would have a feeling of "sudden realization".

A stubborn person is like the driver of the carriage in the idiom story "Going in the wrong direction". The harder he works, the further out of reach his ideal becomes. If you stick to the wrong direction all your life, you are destined to achieve nothing. My life is very tiring, but "tired" is meaningless.

03

Unwilling to accept other people's suggestions, thinking that others are "jealous of him".

Some people say: "These days, there are many people who can't see your kindness."

This sentence is true, because when a person becomes better and better, he will often be criticized by others. Jealousy, or even someone secretly trying to pull you into trouble and make you make a fool of yourself.

However, treating everyone around you as "enemies" is a sign of excessive stubbornness.

In everyone's life, there are always a few people who sincerely wish you well, and there are always people who can give you pertinent opinions. For example, your parents must hope that you will get better and better. When you achieve success, they remind you not to be proud. When you are down in life, they will suffer with you and help you selflessly. And your lover, brothers, sisters, close friends, best friends, etc., all hope that you will be better and better.

Smart people are good at making friends, listen to other people’s suggestions with an open mind, and carefully identify the quality of suggestions.

Choosing reasonable suggestions and implementing them carefully can often help you avoid detours and stop losses in time.

He is very humble. On the surface, he is "weak and incompetent" and is led by others. In fact, he is "good at making use of other people's wisdom" and is leveraging his strength.

My college classmate Lao Wei started his business the day he left school. He chose to open a bar. However, the city where he was located had a small population, so it was difficult for bars to become popular. Someone suggested that he open a hotel and use fine wines to attract more customers who love drinking. Lao Wei thought it was feasible, so he changed the bar into a small hotel and built a large counter to display his "fine wine". Soon, Lao Wei made his first pot of gold.

As the saying goes: "A man changes with the times."

Only by knowing how to listen to other people's suggestions can you better seize opportunities. If you are too stubborn and unwilling to listen to any opinions, you are actually blocking the wisdom of others.

04

If you don’t love learning, it is difficult to accept new things.

Gorky said: "The more you read, the stronger and braver your spirit will be."

Reading is not just about reading books, but also treating society as a book and treating work as a book. Think of it as a book. Only by studying diligently can you understand society, improve work efficiency, and improve your temperament.

As the times progress, a person's thinking must also progress, otherwise he will be eliminated. Those stubborn people think that the knowledge they have learned is enough, but they don't know that they are already behind the times.

For example, a person in his fifties would say as soon as he opens his mouth: "I am already old. The future era will belong to young people. I have no choice." Talking is like "relying on the old and selling the old", without realizing that you need to make progress and have the opportunity to change your destiny.

In our unit, there is a fifty-year-old colleague who does not know how to use a computer for work. No matter who teaches him, he will not learn. Even if he writes reports, he still insists on writing them by hand. Although he is very serious and responsible in his work, his work efficiency cannot be praised.

As a human being, you should stick to what you should stick to, and change what can be changed. You can't be stubborn in everything.

There is a saying called "If you don't break, you don't establish." Only those who dare to break the pattern of life can enlarge the pattern of life and innovate.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

The pictures in this article are from the Internet.