Who do your parents help when your eldest brother and sister-in-law fight?

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Although parents have an additional son or daughter when their children get married, parents cannot treat their daughter-in-law or son-in-law as their own biological children, especially when When a young couple has a conflict...

Many parents cannot handle it well when their son, daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law quarrel because of a conflict. As a result, not only can they not help solve the conflict, but they will also make the conflict huge. In the end, it was so unhelpful that we got divorced...

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When my brother got married, I was still in college. Although my family is in a rural area, my brother only graduated from high school and went out. I'm working part-time, but he also earns a lot of money from his part-time job. He also found the sister-in-law for me when he fell in love. My parents don't have any big objections to my sister-in-law. Nowadays, when people get married, they look for partners who have nothing wrong with each other. If you like it, if both parents can accept it, then it won't be a big problem.

As for my sister-in-law, I am quite satisfied with her, but her faults are also obvious, but my brother likes her and my parents did not object, so in the end my sister-in-law happily married her. My home.

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After the eldest brother and sister-in-law got married, they didn’t travel far anymore, so they found something to do near their hometown. The eldest brother’s parents gave half of the money for the wedding house, and the rest He and his sister-in-law paid half of it themselves. This was all discussed in advance, and the other parents did not care too much. If the sister-in-law gave birth to a child in the future, the parents would take care of what they should take care of, and they would still get the money they should get. He said that as long as the eldest brother and sister-in-law live well, it doesn't matter if they work harder.

After the eldest brother and sister-in-law got married, they actually had a lot of conflicts, including trivial matters and money issues. I even remember the most serious quarrel between the two of them. At that time, the eldest brother took the eldest sister-in-law to His nose was bruised and his face was swollen, and his sister-in-law scratched his face all over his face. The sister-in-law dropped the word divorce and left in tears. The eldest brother also went home to find his parents angrily...

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In the end, the eldest brother and sister-in-law did not divorce. Although the two couples often had minor conflicts and even broke up due to trivial matters, they still reconciled in the end. My eldest brother and sister-in-law have been married for more than ten years now. I can remember that they fought no less than seven or eight times because of quarrels. But every time they fought, it was so intense that they vowed to get divorced. In the end, after each went back to his own house to find his own mother, It will be fine again in two days, so overall the marriage life of the elder brother and sister-in-law is relatively harmonious, although their married life must be very memorable to them.

The most important thing is that although the eldest brother and sister-in-law have conflicts and fights, they are very good to both parents and do not favor one over the other. They buy double portions of everything they buy. Every time the eldest sister-in-law comes home, she takes the initiative to give it to her parents. Help, even if you are busy, your parents will ask you to be affectionate. The same goes for the eldest brother when he goes to his parents-in-law's house. Even during the Chinese New Year, the two families will spend the year together, and the same family will live in the neighborhood. Especially envious.

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So some people who don’t know the truth can’t help but ask me why my eldest brother and sister-in-law have been scolding and fighting for so many years since they were married, and they fought a lot. , why didn’t we get divorced, but became more loving? Did my parents do something? I smiled and said, it’s really thanks to my parents. If it weren’t for them, my eldest brother and sister-in-law would have divorced long ago. Every time my eldest brother and sister-in-law had conflicts, they went back to their own homes. My dad didn’t care when my brother came home. As soon as he picked up the stick, he gave my brother a violent beating. My dad said that no matter whose fault it was or who started the fight, my brother, as a grown man, had all the faults. Even if his wife did something wrong, he could not attack or curse. Men should You should take some responsibility and be patient...

Of course I haven’t finished my words yet. My sister-in-law and I have a very good relationship. I know a lot of her inner thoughts even though my brother doesn’t know. In fact, every time my sister-in-law goes back, she Her parents would also scold her severely. Even if she was wronged, she would still be scolded. Over time, she would not dare to go back...

In the matter of the eldest brother and sister-in-law, the parents of both sides The methods are surprisingly consistent. When a young couple has a conflict, the first thing they think of is their own children's problems, rather than trying to protect their own children and pick on each other's conflicts. Because both parties to the conflict are at fault, so the parents' approach is Very wise, this can not only reduce conflicts, but also make some irreversible situations recoverable. It is worth learning from many parents...

Summary: Parents are really happy when their children get married, but When children quarrel, parents are also worried. If married children can be reconciled after a quarrel, instead of magnifying the problem and even becoming irreversible in the end, then parents really have to learn a lot, wise people Parents will first discipline their children, because no one knows their children better than themselves, so when a young couple quarrels, if both parents are biased and discipline their own children first, instead of defending their own children, they look for the other party. troubles, then many conflicts can be resolved. If we blindly protect shortcomings, it may cause an irreversible situation.

Of course, disciplining one's children is not about blindly tolerating, but first letting one's children stand up to the truth, but it is definitely not unreasonable and unforgiving, and must be polite and polite, otherwise even if it is really right, it may In the end it became wrong...