My boyfriend's father passed away, not seven days ago. He asked me to go to his house to incense his father and fold paper money. Is this reasonable?

In principle, if you are not married, you don't have to go, even if you talk about marriage, you won't have a wedding.

If you are registered and have no public relations with alcohol, it is another matter. Depending on the specific situation, you should attend the real funeral ceremony where you lived together, otherwise it will appear that the bride is inhuman (too unfilial). People who don't live together just pull a piece of paper and don't know each other's relatives and friends. Because the bride who didn't have a wedding attended the funeral, this wedding will be difficult in the future.

In ancient times, filial piety was emphasized for three years, so in reality, many people who died a few days before the wedding were "secretly not mourning", and the funeral was held after the wedding. At that time, the custom was that the red event was bigger than the white event, and it was unlucky for the bride not to enter the door to participate in the white event. Red things represent good luck.

If it's just boyfriend and girlfriend, there's no need to talk about marriage at all, then you don't have to go. To put it bluntly, it may not be successful. Will it be hard to say what the whole family wants to do in the future?

His parents are ill, so it's polite for you to visit as a girlfriend. You can also visit and comfort him and his mother at this time. But there is no need to do such a thing as incense. Of course, it's no big deal if you don't mind burning incense by hand, so you don't pay attention to this now. According to the previous custom, a big girl who has never been through the door will be laughed at by others when she goes to burn incense at her future husband's house (she can't get married and is in a hurry to get married). Besides, it is men's business to sacrifice and burn incense at home, so there is no need for women to do these things.

You've been to a funeral, and it's already affectionate to help. As a girlfriend, that's enough. Your boyfriend may mean that he wants you to burn incense and paper together to comfort his father's soul, which means he has found a wife. Let the father's soul rest assured. In fact, he can comfort himself. There is no need for you to go there. Talking about these is just a general talk about customs and human feelings. How to get along should be grasped by yourself. )

Although "taboos or custom constraints" are past tense, the new era does not pay attention to these. If you don't pay attention, why burn it? People can always make excuses for their absurdity.