My husband sent me 20 red envelopes on Tanabata, saying, "Happy Tanabata, spend it as you like!" " what do you think?

The French philosopher Camus said, "All maverick personalities mean strength."

Today in the 2 1 century, the word "powerful" is even more fascinating. It's just that in this well-behaved society, it's a bit difficult to be unique. In fact, as long as you have an independent personality and can live a strong life, you can be regarded as a strong soul.

But there are still many people who can't be independent and need to be attached to others.

For example, eating and drinking depends entirely on the black sheep of parents, such as the waste youth who do nothing but rely on government subsidies. Of course, the most familiar person should be Ma Baonan, who can live alone in theory, but has never been weaned mentally.

I don't know how to describe Ma Baonan's life properly. If he is unlucky, he must have been spoiled by his mother in the first half of his life and got happiness that many children did not have when they were children.

But if he is lucky, he will never be able to get rid of his mother's control over his fate as an adult, and he will always obey his mother in his life choice.

From this perspective, Ma Baonan still has his sadness.

It's just that no matter how sad he is, once he can't realize that his life should be controlled by himself and blindly obey his parents, then his personal love and happiness will often have some unexpected tragedies.

I once saw a story about Ma Baonan on the Internet, which really made people feel sad and angry.

0 1、

Lin Rong is the eldest son and has a younger sister.

It is said that eldest brother is like his father, but he has no maturity and responsibility similar to that of "father".

This is because he was spoiled by his mother since he was a child. He only knows that hiding under his mother's wing, even when dealing with people without a mother, he will feel a little weak and unconfident.

As soon as he receives his mother's orders, he will feel that whatever he does is smooth sailing and invincible. This is probably a strange psychological reaction of a child who has not been weaned psychologically.

Lin Rong is the Ming City of Su Like in the hit drama Everything is Fine. When he grew up, he entered a good unit with the help of his mother and was well paid. On the surface, he looks like a good man. Just then, he met his wife Chun-Li.

Although the conditions in Lin Rong are good, they are not very good. It's just that Lin Rong really has a way to make people happy. He quickly captured Chun-Li's heart.

They really loved each other and got married soon. If the story ends here, that's all right, but Lin Rong's mother has to intervene in her son's newly married life.

She visited her son's house several times and said to him privately, "This daughter-in-law is so materialistic that she only knows how to spend money every day. The house was renovated once before, and when she moved in, she actually renovated it again, which really burned money. Before that, she actually asked for a bride price of 30 thousand, married someone like a girl and sold herself. If her son doesn't like it, she won't let that woman in. "

Lin Rong really can't understand her mother's thoughts. Now that she is married, she still speaks ill of others behind their backs. Why didn't she say so earlier? As for redecorating, after all, she is newly married, isn't it normal?

However, this is where Ma Baonan is fierce. At first, Lin Rong obviously felt that there was something wrong with his mother's idea, but after his mother said it several times, Lin Rong gradually felt that this woman was too materialistic.

Chun-Li really doesn't know how to describe her later life. On one occasion, Chun-Li and Lin Rong went shopping hand in hand. When they were thirsty, they asked Lin Rong to buy a bottle of water, not the kind of expensive milk tea, but the kind of drinking water for four or five dollars. Lin Rong blurted out, "Why do you say the same thing as my mother? Why do you drink to quench your thirst? Do you know that five dollars can buy three bottles of mineral water? Save it, will you? "

After drinking it, Lin Rong wanted to buy mineral water to quench his wife's thirst, but after listening to his words, who could drink the water? Chun-Li also took it. Is a bottle of drink a substance?

It's nothing. What's more important is that Lin Rong's mother can call Lin Rong specially the day before: "Son, don't send those expensive gifts on holidays. Married back, what's the point of repairing those empty ones? Did she hint that you wanted a gift? I know she hinted that you wanted a gift! This person is really expected. "

After being brainwashed by his mother, Lin Rong met this festival, either pretending to forget or perfunctory. She can't spend money anyway.

It can be said that Lin Rong didn't spend much money chasing Chun-Li, but he has never been so stingy now.

She is like this now because she was successfully brainwashed by her mother: first, she is a material woman. Second, I have married back, so it doesn't matter if I don't spend money now.

The worst time was on Tanabata, when Lin Rong made an excuse to play outside, and then sent Chun-Li a 20-dollar red envelope, saying, "Happy Tanabata, spend whatever you want!"

Chun-Li almost exploded. How can you spend 20 yuan casually? She is really angry and funny.

But this is not the last straw to crush Chun-Li.

02、

Chun-Li finally decided to divorce because she was pregnant. Her mother-in-law not only ignored her, but also sent Lin Rong's sister to their home at this time.

It turned out that my sister was in high school, and my mother wanted to save an accommodation fee, so she didn't sign up for boarding and sent her sister directly to the Lins' house.

Chun-Li should have needed someone to take care of her pregnancy, but her mother-in-law made it clear that not only would she not take care of pregnant women, but pregnant women would get up early to wait on Lin Rong's sister.

Lin Rong's mother called Lin Rong: "Senior three students have classes early, so your sister must keep up with breakfast so that your wife can get up early. Not to mention the usual laundry and cooking. " The implication is that high school students need care, but pregnant women don't.

If that is all, Chun-Li will have to put up with it. In fact, Chun-Li is very kind and strong. She doesn't care about her husband's sister. She is willing to take care of her sister for her husband.

It's just that Lin Rong's sister is also a bad temper and often quarrels at home. As a pregnant woman, how can Chun-Li stand it?

Soon, Chun-Li said to Lin Rong, "Honey, you have to let your sister move away."

At first, Lin Rong promised nothing, but I don't know what happened. Later, he brainwashed his mother.

At first, they agreed to move today, but when Chun-Li came home at night, she found Lin Rong's sister still there. She was a little angry at her husband's bad faith and said, "Husband, you must let your sister move out today."

Lin Rong felt guilty. She faltered. She shouldn't let my sister move. What happened to my mother? Who knows that when they were emotional, Lin Rong also lost his temper and said some ugly words.

"My mother is right, you are material." "What's wrong with pregnancy, pregnancy can't wait on my sister? You are selfish! " "You move away, mom said let me divorce you!"

Chun-Li broke out on the spot. In the end, he paid all this, but he was not appreciated. He is also called material and selfish. Even the other party mentioned divorce first?

She didn't care whether Lin Rong was angry or not, just said, "Leave!"

Later, the two divorced completely. After the divorce, Lin Rong regretted it and came to Chun-Li to get back together in tears, because he knew that he would never find such a good woman as Chun-Li.

More importantly, after the divorce, he was worried that Chun-Li would abort the baby in his belly, and he wanted a child to inherit his blood.

Chun-Li thought it would be unfortunate if the child was born with such a father, and decided to abort. But in the end, I don't know why, and I didn't abort the baby.

At the end of the story, there is only a specious ending. I heard that Lin Rong's mother didn't respond to her daughter-in-law's departure, and told people everywhere, "My son is afraid that he can't find a wife under such conditions? Many people come to post. "

Unfortunately, since Chun-Li's story spread in the city, Lin Rong hasn't found anyone else, leaving a modest joke. As for Chun-Li, she met someone who really understood her.

03、

Someone said: "Marriage is a matter of two people, but the marriage with Ma Baonan has become a matter of three people."

This statement makes sense. In the story, as long as Lin Rong sticks to herself and is not influenced by her mother, in fact, this relationship is likely to come to an end. You know, they were free to fall in love at first, and they both had a sincere heart for each other.

But the characteristics of "Ma Bao" ruined all this.

In fact, in Lin Rong's mind, the status of wife and mother has never been equal.

Perhaps, what he thinks is "the wife can change, but the mother can't." People who have this idea naturally put their wives in an unequal position. How can they give their wives real happiness?

If a person doesn't have his own personality, opinions or even feelings, how cheap is his love?

Nietzsche said: "Only a few people can remain independent, and independence is the privilege of the strong."

But Nietzsche lived in the old times at that time. Now, as long as a person with a sound personality can remain independent.

There is only one explanation for Ma Baonan's spiritual independence, that is, his personality is far from perfect.

Therefore, don't marry Ma Baonan easily.