Grandparents spoil their grandchildren too much. What if the child thinks I'm too strict?

The biggest disadvantage of loving children is that you give them an imaginary and irregular world centered on them, and then when they grow up, they will get lessons and pains in the real society, and then learn from the pains what others learned from primary school. First of all, why do old people like to spoil their children? First, it is too easy to spoil and educate children. Follow the children, the children are happy, and the adults are at ease; To educate children, we must set rules for them, so that they can be self-disciplined and have the ability to live independently, and strive for a place in society in the future. This is a job that requires energy, physical strength and intelligence. Second, children are grandchildren, not sons, and old people don't have to consider their children's future. It's so pleasant to spoil him and let him try to turn around his knees. As for the adult family after the child, it is natural for the parents of the child to be worried. Then let's talk about what spoiled children look like when they grow up.

Friends who have seen Ode to Joy may remember Fan's brother, who is over 30 years old. He can't even do a real job, and he is heavily in debt. A family of three is still gnawing at the old man and sister, feeling at ease. Although I was spoiled by my parents, I felt that I was the center of the world since I was a child, and I had to rely on others to do bad things. He didn't learn to be self-disciplined, tolerant, get along with others, work hard, persist, be grateful and think for others. Although his parents spoil him, I doubt that he will be able and willing to repay his parents in the future.

1, strong self-centeredness. When a child is one to two years old, he naturally thinks he is the center of the world because of his limited cognition. If when he was a child, most people around him (family, relatives and friends) spoiled him, or the most powerful and authoritative people spoiled him and made him feel dependent, he certainly felt like a king, princess and "bully" in his family. If the school suffers a little injustice when growing up, his family will call him to make a decision, and his self-centered cognition will last until he was a child. Self-centered people are particularly difficult to get along with, without good friends, colleagues are difficult to get along with, and so on. Some only children find it difficult to get along after marriage. One of the most important reasons is that both of them have a strong sense of self-centeredness, and no one wants to or knows how to get along with others.

2. Poor self-discipline. We are all social people, and we all need to learn to control our own desires and adapt to the needs of rules; In order to achieve our goals, we need self-discipline, persistence and sometimes even hardship. Spoiling children means there are no requirements or rules for them. For a long time, how can children be willing and used to doing things within the rules when they grow up? When I grow up, I naturally don't want to abide by school discipline, social norms and work requirements. After such a person takes part in the work, he or she will suddenly wake up after a period of pain, or he or she will not be able to do any work for long.

3, can't insist, poor happiness, and don't know how to be grateful. It may be because their demands are met quickly from an early age, and doting children are unwilling to wait and dissatisfied with the happiness they generally feel.

In short, I think the biggest disadvantage of doting on children is that you give them an imaginary, he-centered, irregular world, and then when they grow up, they will learn from the real society, suffer hardships, and then learn from the pain what others have known since childhood. However, some of them will change themselves when they realize this, which will be more painful.