It took me three years to understand the first half of my life: Tang Jing, a woman who is too capable has no good life. what do you think?

Nowadays, women are always required to go to the main hall, attend the main hall, have a career and take good care of their children. It seems that only women who live like superman can be happy.

But this is not the case. If we carefully observe the first half of my life, we will understand why. Why does Han Han prefer Luo Zijun to Tang Jing? It's not that people think the script is ruined, but that Tang Jing is too capable!

I really don't want all our women to be Tang Jing!

A capable woman always does a lot of things she shouldn't do.

Let's look at Luo Zijun and Tang Jing, two girlfriends.

At the beginning of the first episode, Luo Zijun called and asked Luo Zijun to check the intern who met Chen to buy a necklace this morning.

On the other hand, Tang Jing appeased Luo Zijun during the meeting. When she came back from a business trip, she refused He Han's invitation and went directly to Luo Zijun's residence to help Luo Zijun get what she wanted.

It can be said that Tang Jing played the role of "mother" in her friendship with Luo Zijun. What good friend would do that?

Later, after Luo divorced, she used various relationships, including her boyfriend He Han, to help Luo.

Why does she go to so much trouble?

Is it because she cares about friendship?

Don't!

Because she is very capable.

In others' view, even in her own view, there is no need for her not to help Luo Zijun and to do what she can. It is precisely because of this idea that He Han was pushed to Luo Zijun's side step by step.

36. A woman who is too capable is most likely to be used by people around her. But smart people will refuse; But people like Tang Jing can only be squeezed out by unrestrained demand.

Later, Luo Zijun's mother said to Tang Jing, "It's very kind of you to have no He Han and others. But my daughter can't find the right one without He Han!

Am I weak? Am I right?

This is not destroying ideas, this is reality.

Therefore, even if you are a friend, don't be too capable and don't help people you don't want to help. This is not selfish, but for your friendship.

Otherwise, one day, you will lose this friendship.

A woman who is too capable will confuse men.

Has Han ever been in love?

I must have it.

But why did He Han finally reject Tang Jing and choose Luo Zijun?

Because Tang Jing gave him a feeling far less good than Luo Zijun gave him.

Behind a woman who is too capable, there must be a man who feels unwelcome. Since he is not needed, he may not find his place in the relationship, so he can only seek a balance outside: good virtue, strong ambition, poor virtue, and entering another woman's gentle land.

When Tang Jing said, "The ring is beautiful, I can buy it myself." Everyone thinks she's cool. But I think she is a big loser.

You can do anything by yourself. What do you need him for?

When in contact with Tang Jing, He Han didn't feel needed at all. What he saw was that in front of Tang Jing, he was at a loss and helpless.

But in front of Luo Zijun, he can always feel that kind of "need" and has always been "needed".

Need supreme love.

If we carefully look at the jokes of "widowed child-rearing" and "widowed marriage", we will find that they all have one thing in common: they all have a wife who is too capable.

The balance of marriage is broken not because men are too lazy, but because women are too capable.

A woman who is too capable will pay emotional blackmail

A woman who is too capable has a "killer weapon", that is, a means of paying emotional blackmail.

From a sociological point of view, the distribution of housework reflects the power relationship of a family. Doing housework is a kind of pay. Those who spend their energy on housework will seek a greater say in many family affairs. This contribution can be regarded as the capital to occupy the moral high ground.

People who don't do housework enjoy the warmth of their families. Even if he earns a lot of money, it will not be directly reflected in his daily chores, such as housework. Therefore, people who don't do housework can hardly have a say in family affairs and are often at a moral disadvantage.

Many women feel that it is a sacrifice to do all the housework by themselves, but they also have the right to control their husbands. They spend money to make their husbands feel guilty, hoping that their husbands can do what they want.

Let's think about it. You argued, "I did all the work at home." What did you do? "You this face can make me angry?

If you pay too much, he will tolerate your disagreement, which is a kind of control.

In your relationship, you deprived him of the right to participate in housework, and then you used emotional blackmail to make him feel guilty about you, so he was forced to do something he didn't want to do.

Therefore, both sides tolerate a lot of dissatisfaction in the relationship, and when it breaks out, the consequences may be devastating.

I remember watching Men Who Do Housework, everyone envied Zhang Xinyi for marrying well, because she had a Justin who could do housework. In fact, a good man is not born a good man, but needs to be cultivated with heart.

Make sure your husband is actively involved in housework. When he is busy, give him some small tasks that don't take time, and encourage him patiently when he doesn't do well.

Remember this: a woman who is too capable is doomed to failure. And those women who look lazy and stupid can live happily.