How terrible is it for rural people to compare?

Only you know whether your life is good or not. Life is your own feeling, not for others to see. In the countryside, everywhere is full of human feelings, which really makes people feel delicious and enjoy it. But now, the atmosphere in some rural areas has changed. Rural people, who have always been known for their simplicity, are now more and more fond of comparison, especially young people who go out to work, and the trend of comparison is even worse.

So how serious is the wind energy in rural areas?

First, smoking: ten dollars is not good, Yuxi's is the most popular.

I went home for the Spring Festival last year and bought two cigarettes. I thought I could give one to my neighbors. As a result, when my dad saw it, he opened his mouth and said, you have the nerve to take out this cigarette. If others see it, you must not laugh at our family! Hearing this, I was still very calm, thinking that my father was just joking with me and didn't take it to heart. After all, the income in the village is not high. Usually working in the city, smoking is only a dozen dollars.

Unexpectedly, during the Chinese New Year, many neighbors and villagers actually told me that my cigarettes were poor, and I said that I would take out more than ten yuan of cigarettes. I said, what else can I smoke? A fellow villager opened his mouth and said that Yuxi was the last time. You must have a hard time out there. I was surprised when I heard this, because this fellow villager can earn more than two thousand a month. Later, I found out that everyone is like this. No matter how much money they earn, they have to buy the best cigarettes. I really feel that the village is not as simple as it was when I was a child, and the wind of comparison is getting worse and worse.

Second, follow the trend: often chanting who is mixed, often slandering who is finished.

Unlike the city, the countryside may be familiar to everyone who lives next door to you. In a village in the countryside, a news circle, within half a day, everyone in the village knew how much money their son earned outside and how his son was doing outside! Women often talk about this when they are together. Whose son is promising, who is an official! Mine is useless.

If something goes wrong, everyone will embellish it and slander you behind your back! Who is poor, even relatives are too lazy to go to your house, and who is rich will follow suit to please you! When I meet the boss who is an official outside the village, I don't care if he is familiar with it or what position he holds, I just meet a smiling secretary boss!

Third, buy a car: if you can't buy a cheap one, you have to buy an expensive one, but you can't drive it.

Buying a car is very popular in the countryside here. For example, my husband likes to compare with his neighbors very much. After several years of marriage, we scrimped and saved some money, with nearly 200,000 deposits in our hands. This is very rare. I thought I could pay a down payment for a few more years in the city and no longer rent a house. As a result, my husband worked hard and bought a car. Later, I wanted to buy a car, and domestic cars with tens of thousands of yuan were also good. I didn't expect my husband to take out all his money to buy a car and have to buy a car of 200 thousand.

My husband also told me that if I don't buy this 200 thousand car, I will go home for the New Year by myself. As a result, I couldn't stand him and bought a car. However, this car is useless, except when I drive it back to my hometown in the countryside. Not at other times, gas money is particularly expensive. The usual maintenance insurance money is also a big expense. This kind of car will be reduced in price in two years. I really don't know what my husband is doing. Now that the house is more expensive, I feel that I can't afford to save money. All the money for buying a car is wasted.

Fourth, the bride price: If you get a bride price of 654.38+10,000, I will get1.20,000; You set 50 tables, and I will set 100 table.

The comparative trend, especially the bride price for marrying a daughter in recent years, if the bride price for marrying a daughter in this village is 6.5438+0.3 million this year, it will definitely rise to 6.5438+0.2 million to 6.5438+0.3 million next year, otherwise others will look down on themselves!

Nowadays, there are fewer and fewer girls in rural areas, and marrying a daughter-in-law has become the greatest wish of rural people. In this way, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, the bride price in the village is rising. However, the meager income from farming is far from enough. Rural people spend their whole lives on houses and bride price. At the same time, in order to prove their family life, some people even take out loans to marry their wives. Although I did marry a daughter-in-law, I owed a lot of debts for it. The prosperity of the countryside on the surface, but I don't know how much sadness is revealed.

Rural people think that they would rather be poor for one year than one day. Wealthy families do a lot of things in the countryside, but so do relatively poor families. Even if they borrow money, they should be proud of their face and not lose face. Everyone is competing with each other. You set 50 tables, I'll set 100 table. In rural areas, people are proud of the number of guests, but now some people rob others to eat. Although it is an honor to do so, who knows the hardships? A banquet sometimes costs tens of thousands of yuan, and the hard-earned money in the countryside is wasted.

Fifth, use gifts: use less, for fear that others will look down on you.

My home is a very remote rural area. Most people earn two or three thousand yuan, but everyone likes to hold banquets, let alone get married. Red envelopes are common in 500 yuan every time. It's closer to 1000 yuan, and there are thousands of red envelopes. Children's birthdays, moving, going to college, etc. Everyone is going to have a big party. At this time, it is time to be very proud. If you give less, others will look down on you. People are always troubled by these things. If you go to every banquet, one month's salary is not enough.

Generally speaking:

Comparing with each other is also a good thing, because it will make you more motivated, but if you compare too much, it will have a very bad influence on the countryside, because pursuing some flashy things will change the taste of the countryside. Therefore, many people reflect that they miss the rural areas and rural friends who used to be very simple and kind. I don't know why there is such an atmosphere now. I hope I can come back slowly in the future.