How to know yourself correctly?

The "Su Dongpo effect" originated from a poem by Su Dongpo: "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but I am only in this mountain." Standing in the middle of the mountain, you don't know this mountain. Social psychologists call the psychological phenomenon that people clearly have "self" but it is difficult to understand it correctly "Su Dongpo effect".

In ancient times, an emissary escorted a monk to Beijing. The monk is a clever man and always wants to escape. In the evening, the opportunity came. In the store where they stayed, he got drunk, borrowed a knife from the store, shaved all his hair, and then ran away. The messenger woke up in the middle of the night and felt that there was no one around him. He was startled. You know, if you can't go back and pay for this job, it's a matter of losing your head. He quickly searched carefully in the dark, then touched his bald head, and his nervousness was immediately replaced by surprise. Xiecha breathed a sigh of relief and said, "Fortunately, the monk is still here." Then he was confused and asked, "Then where am I?

The monk just shaved his hair and mistakenly thought he was a monk. He made a joke about "Where am I?". Although this is just a joke, many people in life, like Xie Cha, often find it difficult to correctly understand the "self", which is in their own hands. Because of this, people will feel that "people are expensive and have self-knowledge".

Most people in life seldom really think about "who am I". Indeed, for such a seemingly boring and useless problem, everyone is busy around. It is better to sing children's songs, play mahjong, go shopping and listen to songs. Leave such thinking to those "philosophers". But is this really the case?

In real life, people are playing different roles in order to keep consistent and harmonious with the real world. For example, we play children in front of parents, parents in front of children, subordinates in front of leaders, leaders in front of subordinates, confidants in front of good friends, and we are just passers-by in front of strangers. The role itself determines the outline of the actor, but due to the difference of "self", the same role may also show different performances. Obviously, role-playing is very important to know yourself, which is also the method that people usually use.

In addition, Su Dongpo's poems also provide us with another method, which can be regarded as a mountain peak on the edge of a ridge with different heights. The way to overcome the "Su Dongpo effect" can be to explore its subtlety in this mountain, or to jump out of this mountain and have a panoramic view. In other words, only by combining micro and macro perspectives can we know ourselves comprehensively.

"I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but toward which corner of the mountain." It is difficult for people to have self-knowledge. If you are arrogant and don't know yourself, it's like a well-dressed, polite and gentlemanly person, showing a furry tail behind his ass and making everyone laugh. In fact, such jokes are commonplace.

To know yourself is to find another self, the real self behind a mask, a part that divides you, your eccentricity, prejudice, ignorance, ugliness, indifference and fear, your enthusiasm, inspiration, courage, creativity, imagination and unique personality. In fact, a person is more or less divided, and the equal and rational dialogue between divided selves is also a process of introspection, and it is a cognitive process of a person moving from darkness to light. As the truth becomes clearer and clearer, kindness, wisdom and sense of justice may emerge in people's hearts during the narration, explanation, comfort and even fierce debate between individuals.