Why are some jokes true when they are opened?

Many times, our communication with the closest people around us is relaxed and pleasant, and most of the time it is in a joking tone. But sometimes, we may tell some truth in a joke and touch the softest place in each other's heart, although it is casual.

I still remember saying something that surprised her once when I was playing with my girlfriend. We played catch together, and everyone was running and dodging with all their strength. In this lively atmosphere, I jokingly said, "You run too slowly. Let me catch you! " Actually, it was just an unintentional sentence, but I didn't expect it to cause her mood swings.

Her expression suddenly became a little serious, and then her trembling voice came to my ears: "I know I run slowly, and I know my body is not as healthy as yours." Where did I go wrong? " I was very surprised and at a loss, because I didn't expect my joke to cause such a reaction.

Afterwards, I learned that my girlfriend has always been very concerned about her body and health. She has been trying hard to exercise and control her diet, but she has never reached her ideal state. I said this sentence, although it was a joke, but it touched a very soft place in her heart, squeezing the anxiety she had been hiding in her heart and making her unbearable.

Obviously, this is an unexpected consequence. I have reflected on this for a long time, because I deeply realized the power of joking. In the past, I believed in using jokes to ease the tense atmosphere, but smiling without thinking and slapping too casually would probably make the people you care about most feel uncomfortable and offended.

Therefore, this experience tells us not to erase their feelings by talking to the closest people. Joking or not, before taking action, we may need to spend more time thinking about whether it really has no adverse effects. Such a trivial matter is not worth mentioning, but it shows that we need to pay attention to the details of communication with others, so as to establish good interpersonal relationships without hurting others.

No matter who you are with, you should speak carefully, choose your own words, pay more attention to the other person's thoughts, and minimize things that cause misunderstanding, such as jokes, instead of really hurting the closest people at their most vulnerable moments.