A grumpy woman ruined three generations of grumpy mothers.

Lead: Ed Tronick, a professor of psychology at Manchester University, once did a very famous experiment-the static face experiment.

He asked a mother to interact with her child first, and the child was very happy and responded positively; Then let the mother change into an expressionless face. No matter what the child does, the mother keeps a straight face.

Experiments show that during the period when the mother does not respond to the child, the child's heart beats faster and the stress hormones in the body increase. If it continues, cells in key parts of his brain may die. When the mother smiles, the child will ignore the visual cliff, overcome the fear and climb to the mother.

Relationship is the core of our life.

Mother-child relationship is the initial relationship, the most important relationship, and the embryonic form of our life. We need each other and want to see ourselves in each other's eyes.

Many psychological researchers have told us how important it is for a mother's emotional stability to her children!

By extension, it also means that the emotions of family members who take care of young children have a great influence on the development of children's personality! )

Appearance-1.

The child has been brought up by his grandmother for more than three years since he was born. She is sunny, cheerful and polite.

For a time, when grandma took care of her, the children cried during the day, cried at night and cried in their dreams. The originally happy and cheerful children became sensitive, irritable and hysterical. ...

At that time, my neighbors came straight to the point or tactfully hinted that my mother-in-law could always be heard yelling all day long at home, followed by my son's crying, often for a long time. ...

How could I not know the change of my child? We are both distressed and helpless. I begged my husband to communicate with his mother, but unfortunately ... I will talk about what kind of children this mother has brought up, which has affected the happiness index of at least three generations.

2.

My mother-in-law didn't want to take care of the children on weekends, so I had to take her to the company to work overtime. She is in no condition to take a nap. When eating, he was particularly sleepy. He squinted and said weakly, "Grandma, I can only eat a little at night. I am too tired to eat. "

However, he was greeted by an overwhelming roar: "Don't be wordy, don't eat if you don't want to."

Now, what kind of children will a grumpy mother raise!

My mother-in-law has a son and a daughter, and her daughter completely inherits her genes, exactly the same. Son, in my opinion, he is stupid and filial.

Daughter: When I grow up, I will be you. The inheritance of the dark side of personality is like a curse. How much my daughter hates her mother, how much she looks like her most annoying when she grows up.

1.

At that time, my mother gave birth to her during childbirth, and she didn't cherish it more because of the hardship and difficulty.

The newborn daughter almost suffocated because of lack of oxygen, and her eyes turned white when she was born. Mother took a weak look and only said, "No, throw it away."

2.

Mother is violent and feels that the whole world is unfriendly to her. She never reviews her shortcomings and never complains!

She accused her husband of incompetence, abused her father-in-law with the most vicious words, and let her father-in-law run away from home. For many years, she only went home for dinner every year.

She ignored the children and beat and scold them if she was a little unhappy.

3.

My daughter dropped out of primary school, fled to work in her teens and got married at the age of 20.

The married daughter has gradually become a mother. She often complains to others: "Bing Bing Dad is useless and won't make money." She is picky, irritable and complaining, and the relationship between husband and wife has taken a turn for the worse, from quarreling to fighting until divorce.

Later, she had a second marriage, and she still didn't reflect. After a few years of marriage, it is another chicken feather.

4.

History is always strikingly similar. When my mother discovered early renal cancer, my daughter said, "My father and I thought it was incurable!" "

At that stage, the daughter-in-law was pregnant, and the company hospital was at home at 3: 00. Luo Zhang, the son and daughter-in-law, contracted all the expenses and care for the patients, but this daughter really never showed up from beginning to end, insisting on "nothing".

Son: I know she is not good either! The whole world can say that she is not good, but I can't! My son has been obedient since childhood, and he gets more love from his mother than his sister. But this kind of maternal love is too unstable. She will give her son drumsticks after school, and she will be furious for no reason. The child is afraid to get close to his mother.

"Growing up, I didn't dare to confess to her, and I didn't dare to ask for it. Even if I was wronged, I wouldn't tell her."

Because I said it, I didn't get her care and help, and I often got a scolding.

Therefore, when my mother dominated our small family and made a fuss, my son was afraid to communicate with her. This inaction makes me extremely dissatisfied as a wife, and my children live in fear every day.

In those dark days, ten thousand words were omitted here. ...

Years of patience have not brought family and prosperity. The more she became angry, one day, her son contradicted a few words, and then the roof was almost overturned. I finally understand why he would rather be accused of "ignorance and cowardice" than dare to confront her.

Conclusion:

Ceng Shiqiang, a master of Chinese studies, once had a joke:

If you have a son, if you don't teach him well, he will harm your whole family;

If you have a daughter, if you don't teach her well, she will harm others' whole family;

If you have an enemy and he has a son, you will spoil your daughter and marry his son, and his family will be finished, and your great hatred will be repaid.

Although it is a joke, it just proves this point: a grumpy mother can ruin the happiness of three generations!