What psychology is it that you always like to find trouble for yourself?

It depends on what kind of trouble you have caused yourself.

For example, constantly washing hands, constantly checking whether the doors and windows are locked, and can't tolerate a little uncleanness at home and outside, etc., and so on are generally mandatory.

Then there is the innate enthusiasm and responsiveness, which delays time in order to help others. Then there are several troubles: 1. I feel happy and helpful after helping others. If you don't want to help others and waste time, you don't have to help others, but you should be timid and cautious. I don't want to help myself or get into trouble. But when you see other people's business, you always have to take the initiative to help and make trouble, just to leave a good impression on the other side, which belongs to the psychology of pleasing.

There are also some problems that are not caused by psychological reasons. For example, many people do wrong things with good intentions because of their imperfect skills in life and work, and the more they help, the more chaotic they are. Don't worry about that. With the improvement of the required skills, everything will be solved.

First, good face

1, I'm not satisfied with my own economy, but I still have to invite people to dinner and buy some expensive clothes and bags. Because otherwise people will look down on me.

2, compared with others, others have a car, I also want to buy one with a loan, not too much, I would rather tighten my belt to repay the loan. Otherwise, the reunion will lose face.

3. When you see other children's good grades, you force your own children with sticks, and you will be beaten if your grades are not good.

People who love face, compare with others and don't like others' good or bad are the easiest to get into trouble for themselves. Everyone's situation is different, so we should keep up with others. They are nervous and scared every day, and they are afraid of not being able to compare with others.

Second, selfishness is more real.

1. Why does the old lady set up a stall opposite my door to sell fruit? Why do I have to pay for water and batteries? Why does the bread I bought today feel a little small?

2. Why is he so ugly but has so many women and I don't have any? Why do all kinds of false advertisements pop up in the network but no one cares? Why does this person smoke in public without considering other people's feelings?

3. You can't say that I saw the old man fall to the ground and didn't go to the rescue, because it might be touching porcelain; You can't say that I don't donate money to the disaster area, because I am afraid that the money will be corrupted; You can't say that I don't know the world, because it needs money to do it.

Third, there is no faith.

Many people think that it is faith to say amen to kowtow, but it is not. True faith is a belief higher than life, that is, you can sacrifice everything and even your life for this belief. For example, the former producers of * * * were like this, and they could sacrifice their lives for the belief of the proletariat.

People who have no faith, or people who "believe in themselves", are not strong enough inside. Because they are all centered on their own standards.

Not paying attention to the laws of nature is asking for trouble. Immortality, reverse growth, disease-free and painless ... these pursuits must not be realized, and if they are not realized, they will feel painful. This is asking for trouble.

Modern people also praise falsehood. Isn't it? Women make up every day, take photos with Meitu Meitu, and try their best to make themselves "beautiful". Isn't that fake? Who will believe photos now? But you can't say that they are wrong, because they will kill you. Therefore, such people will certainly live in the pain of "I am getting older and uglier".

If you have faith and transcend life and death, that is another matter. Not even afraid of death. What are you afraid of? Afraid of old age? A man of faith will have a great pattern because he can understand and accept the world. You must accept it whether you accept it or not. Accepting it frankly is wisdom. Faith is wisdom, but wisdom can make people have a bigger pattern.

Fourth, summary:

1, people with small patterns must be selfish. Selfishness will focus on their own standards and always feel that many things in the world are difficult for them.

2. People who have a good face are selfish people. He always follows others closely and doesn't think others are better than himself. There are too many things better than him, so there are too many troubles.

3. Establishing a belief above all else is the most basic way to solve the dilemma. Because for the sake of "faith", you will give up all your self-standards and will not have any troubles.

I am a perfectionist. When I do something, I always want to be the ultimate, perfect and satisfy everyone. But thousands of people, I still didn't do what I imagined.

I felt very tired during that time, and my nerves were very nervous every day, which made me uncomfortable. Looking back now, I feel that I was too hard on myself during that time, which is what you said to get myself into trouble.

This perfectionism, once it is not as you think, will be agitated. However, once people are unhappy and anxious, they should learn to subtract for themselves, abandon some useless ideas and reduce some unnecessary social interaction.

"The first half of my life is passionate." Passion period, don't think so much useless. Life is so stressful now that you can easily get into trouble yourself. You should make yourself more self-disciplined, and a person who knows self-discipline will live a happier life.

There is an old saying in China: Worry can age people. It means that when people are troubled, they will age; Without worry, he grows old slowly. So don't give yourself trouble, don't give yourself a hard time.

People are born to solve problems. In my opinion, troubles vary in size, and troubles within my ability are all small troubles, which only need a little time, energy and money. If you are excited, small troubles can also be small pleasures. This has nothing to do with what others say. Trouble beyond your ability is the real trouble. Try hard, rack your brains, ask for help, and try your best to solve the trouble. This is a test for yourself. Even if you don't succeed in solving the trouble, at least you have tried, and the experience gained is more worthwhile than solving the trouble. Experience is wealth. [Punch] [Come on] [Applause]

A baby who hasn't grown up and doesn't think about the consequences will bring back a lot of trouble, not only for himself but also for others.

I think how to define your so-called trouble. Is this a daily chore? Still the way to treat people and things, strict with self-discipline;

People who pursue fame and fortune and ability in life, and those who want fame and fortune, are unwilling to live a busy life. The fame and fortune they have earned through hard work will eventually become nominal and disappear like an apple. So Zhuangzi's idea is that it is his own fault that he didn't carry forward his own value and didn't live well in this world. ?

When we get together with friends, we often talk about many feelings, such as the impermanence of life and the emptiness of the soul. Finally, let's talk about a common confusion, that is, we have no worries about food and clothing. What else can we pursue in life? ? I believe that most people's answers are aimed at peace, health, success, happy marriage and happy life. ? If you ask further: How will you feel after all these goals are achieved? Be content; What does it feel like to be satisfied? ?

In fact, many things seem complicated at first glance, but if you peel them off layer by layer, you will find that they are so simple. ? Governing the country and leveling the world is a great cause, which can be realized through consistent practice; How far Rome is, it will eventually arrive step by step; A thousand-year-old tree is undoubtedly a miracle of the world, but it didn't start with a seed ...? We pursue this, pursue that, have wealth, fame and fortune, and have happiness in life. What is the deep feeling at this moment? A serious, simple and honest answer is probably the word "happiness". So, isn't the pursuit of life "happiness"? ? A group of British psychologists tried to find a happy formula and finally decided to use "Don't make trouble" as the title of their research report. ? If this sentence is interpreted by extension, then "don't make trouble" actually includes two meanings. First, don't give others trouble, this explanation is easy to be accepted and recognized; ? Another explanation is not to make trouble for yourself. This layer is often ignored or not recognized at all, so the culprit that ultimately leads to our unhappiness is "making trouble for ourselves."

Not content with the status quo, want to find a better way out. I'm upset and want to vent. Be depressed and sulk for yourself.

My mind is a little deformed. I live too depressed, everything goes wrong, everything is inferior to others, and I lose confidence in myself. People are easy to abuse themselves, and the subconscious mind is easy to get into trouble for itself.

Keep exercising and running. Over time, you will become sunny and positive. Everything is not 100% perfect. Do your best. Adjusting mentality is the key.

I will often find myself unhappy, and more often, I am dissatisfied with reality and myself. If there is no trouble, it is a good time on earth.