Grandma asked her granddaughter to call her grandma, but dad was worried that the baby would make a mistake in the exam, and grandma and grandma would make a mistake.

Perhaps many families have favored sons over daughters since ancient times. In Chinese culture, the father’s mother is called grandma and the father’s father is called grandpa. However, in my family, my father-in-law and mother-in-law don’t like to be grandpa and grandma. , they believe that grandparents are closer to each other. From the time the baby is born, the father-in-law and mother-in-law let the baby call them grandpa and grandma. As a younger person, because they are the ones who take care of the baby, without them, my baby would not be so cute and smart, so I just follow them and let the baby call them grandpa and grandma, but this is inconsistent with the traditional Chinese culture. The difference is quite obvious. Let me analyze this matter from my personal perspective. I also hope that netizens can share their thoughts and concepts.

1. Let the babies change their names, mostly to satisfy their own inner wishes

In probably most families, grandma is grandma and grandpa is grandpa. Although many grandmas and grandpas believe that grandpa and grandma are closer to each other in their hearts, it is estimated that there are very few juniors who change their name to grandma and grandpa. They do this in the hope that their children will treat them well when they grow up. Hard work.

On the other hand, from a cultural point of view, most people may understand immediate family members, starting from grandparents, father and mother. In their hearts, father-in-law and mother-in-law believe that they have been taking care of the child since the baby was born. , the baby is the person closest to him, calling him grandpa or grandma is a matter of course and understandable.

2. Dad’s worries are justified.

Originally, this is how Chinese culture taught us. Grandparents and grandparents are actually from the same generation, and there is not much difference. The children are very young and have not yet entered the stage of systematic school education. It is inappropriate to do this. If the children make mistakes in the exam, are they trying to make a joke?

On the other hand, Bao's father is also particularly worried that his children will be misled in other aspects. This is how the culture teaches them. If you insist on saying that, isn't that misleading your children? Therefore, the father does not want his children to have too much contact with his father-in-law and mother-in-law. He does not want his children to be exposed to some unnatural and non-scientific content, for fear that it will be detrimental to the child's future growth.

3. I believe that children will still treat this issue rationally in the future

My father-in-law and mother-in-law are very thrifty and hard-working. They have been diligent and hardworking throughout their lives and have worked hard to provide for their daughter and mother-in-law. The younger generation pays. Without their efforts, the babies would not be able to grow up so well and be so smart. Dad treats this matter by respecting the advice of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and respecting the culture. If such a question is asked in an exam, he will explain to the child that this is a sign that the father-in-law and mother-in-law love you, but culturally we must Do it according to the actual situation.

4. What I personally think is the correct understanding of this issue

First, as an elder, I feel that it is not appropriate to educate children in this way. On the one hand, their own understanding of culture is biased. Grandpa and grandma are actually no worse than grandparents. It mainly depends on which one loves the child more and loves the child more. On the other hand, when educating children in this way, they do not pay too much attention to the children's understanding and absorption of the correct culture. If the children answer the wrong questions during the exam, isn't that a joke?

Secondly, as juniors, I think we need to respect some of their hearts. Although I don't agree with their education methods, out of emotional and practical considerations, I still respect their understanding. Although I don't agree with it in my heart, I won't actually destroy this ecology, because we are still a family, and some Cultural differences and understandings may be deep-rooted, and there is no way to change them. However, when it comes to educating children, we must not allow them to make cultural mistakes. Whatever they are is what they are. But emotionally, when the children grow up, I hope they can themselves I can understand it, and I don’t want this to cause any psychological deviation to the child.

5. If you encounter such a problem, how would you deal with it?

If you are like me, in the position of a junior, when you face such a thing , how would you consider this issue? Maybe you will say that elders should not educate their children in this way. Maybe you will respect their understanding like me and hope to hear your suggestions and voices.

Thanks for reading, comments welcome