{Original} Interpreting girls' makeup behavior from a psychological perspective

From a psychological point of view, all human behaviors have their own reasons. A straight man will never understand why his girlfriend wears makeup, and a straight man will never understand why his girlfriend puts toothpaste on his face. To tell the truth, I don't know much about cosmetics either. But this tweet is not to teach your girlfriend what's in her cosmetic bag, but to explain from a psychological point of view why girls like to make up, and how boys can understand their girlfriend's makeup so as not to become your girlfriend's predecessor.

① ? It is an instinctive need for self-beautification and self-improvement. Observing children's behavior, we can clearly find that when children are two years old, boys and girls have already made differences in choosing toys and games. Male babies generally show their love for cars and robots at a very young age. Female babies show their love for dolls, toys and cosmetics. Before girls have accepted the adult consciousness that girls need makeup, you will find that girls love "coquettish beauty" more than boys. Many people will find that even if they wear lipstick, they will wear it properly and enjoy the process. Even girls like to secretly use their mother's cosmetics when her mother is away, and there are a group of soul makeup artists. In fact, it is an instinctive demand for girls to love beauty.

When our ancestors were apes living in primitive forests, if a female ape wants to stay with tribal leaders, she must have her own beauty and characteristics that conform to the aesthetic values of male leaders. Human ancestors were gregarious animals. If the female ape is not favored by the male ape and has to stay in the tribe and leave the group, it is almost impossible for her to survive in the virgin forest.

However, such a thing as face value depends entirely on God's care for you. In fact, at that time, the female ape had the most primitive method of self-beautification, so this demand for self-beautification was slowly passed down in the long river. Make-up is not only a habit of girls, but also a lateral manifestation of the need for spiritual self-improvement. The more people climb, the higher the requirements of the environment for people, and the value of the face must also be improved.

② ? Make-up can improve temperament and face value, and at the same time make people feel a kind of heartfelt self-confidence and better accept their imperfect self.

For girls, what they are most proud of is not only their ability, but also their looks. Even if a girl becomes a woman in the future, besides a considerate and gentle husband, the only thing that makes her proudest is her appearance. The biggest purpose of many girls' makeup is to make themselves more confident. However, when a person is confident, the mood and efficiency of doing things have also been greatly improved. This makeup process is the transformation of a girl who gradually becomes confident. I'm not denying those who are still confident without makeup. If makeup is a way to make girls more confident, why should we worry about opposing them and laughing at their hypocrisy? In fact, people are superficial in many cases, and it is easy to judge people by their appearances, including ourselves. When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we will feel better and have a higher degree of self-acceptance. Self-confidence and self-acceptance are both important factors affecting happiness. Girls who can make up and pursue will become extremely beautiful and elegant.

③ ? Exquisite makeup is a girl's armor and a mask to protect herself.

For a boy, the most hurtful words should be "how can you be so timid and incompetent!" " However, for girls, it should be "how can you be so ugly!" Don't you know you are so disgusting and dark? "

If I hear this, I may stand where I am, or I may be desperate to pick up something disgusting around me and throw it at him! My elaborate makeup is like a beautiful mask. I can't stand you smearing my face! In this exquisite mask, what is hidden is my own imperfection, my own deformity, and my inferiority complex. A person who wears makeup may lack the courage to face her true self more or less, and makeup is her self-protection. However, the best way to respect a person is to maintain his carefully constructed inner fortress, rather than rudely uncovering his inner defense. Since she uses makeup as her armor, what we can do is not to pierce the armor, but to choose a way that makes us both comfortable. After all, distance produces beauty and comfort.

As a girl with normal sexual orientation and a need for makeup, I have seen people with more than a dozen pieces of facial cleanser, people with several plates of foundation and people with more than 100 tubes of lipstick. Girls will have their own favorite and persistent types of cosmetics, so we will simply analyze how to see her personality characteristics and spiritual needs from the cosmetics or clothing that girls prefer.

① ? Lipstick. Lipstick is the ornament of a delicate face. This is the most brilliant and eye-catching place. Many boys judge whether a girl wears heavy makeup according to whether she wears dark lipstick or not. Most girls who prefer lipstick and like to collect lipstick have a need for attention, just like a child sticking a small red flower on his forehead after getting a teacher's small red flower. She wants others to notice her bright spot. Especially for girls who prefer big red lipstick, their inner needs for attention and praise are stronger and their desire for control is stronger. People who prefer lipstick not only need attention and praise, but also focus on her hope that others can pay attention to and care about what is expressed in her mouth, and hope that others can respect the needs expressed by others like her.

② ? High heels. At first, high heels were invented for men to increase their height. Later, with the changes of the times, high-heeled shoes gradually became a symbol of women, and even gradually had a strong sexual meaning. When girls wear high heels, their body curves will be more graceful. Because you can't walk too fast after wearing high heels, your posture is slim, your temperament will increase a lot, and you have the attitude of "breeze helps willow". Women's preference for high heels is a positive reflection of women, and their persistent pursuit will continue. Unattainable lacks spiritual dependence, is relatively independent, and has personality and temperament. It is a portrayal of a woman who would rather die in high heels than humble. Such a woman is very capable and confident, but she is unwilling to open her inner world to others.

③ ? Skirt. Skirts are also the characteristic clothing of women in mainstream society. Long skirts are dignified and generous, gentle and lovely, short skirts are playful and lively, warm and sexy, and lace dresses are the persistent pursuit of many women. Just as we seldom see girls who always wear skirts, rarely fight with others and cheat, girls who like to buy a lot of skirts are mostly easygoing, able to get along with many people, self-controlled, feminine and gentle. But I lack dependence in my heart, I am not very independent, I like dependence, and I am eager to find a spiritual harbor that I can rely on in my heart.

④ ? Concealer (liquid). Girls who like to buy all kinds of concealer products generally do better concealer and make up more carefully. Such a girl is careful, patient and flexible. She can foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, but she lacks the courage to accept herself, face her true self, face her past well and have a long-term vision.

⑤ ? Powder cake (part two). Most girls who like all kinds of foundation products to change their skin are not confident enough, impatient enough but not decisive enough, and sometimes they are easy to drag their feet and can't make a quick decision. But we must have a long-term vision and a sense of the overall situation.

How do boys face girls' makeup behavior?

When your girlfriend likes makeup, it is necessary to understand her instinctive needs and express a kind of "you look good with or without makeup, you are charming with makeup, and you are cute without makeup!" I prefer the truest you, it's you anyway, I like it anyway. (Knock on the blackboard! ! Focus! )

The above analysis is only personal thoughts, and cannot be generalized. We only see the commonness and ignore the individuality, and copy it to the people around us! You will feel honored when your girlfriend dates you with exquisite makeup. "Women are pleasing to themselves." You are the one who deserves her time to wear makeup to meet! In short, pay attention to the needs of every soul, and every soul deserves our close understanding!