A Dream of Red Mansions-What is a bosom friend?

I once saw a saying: if a beauty has tears, a gentleman can solve them; If a gentleman has tears, then a beautiful woman can rely on. I used to think this was a bosom friend, but after reading A Dream of Red Mansions, I found that a bosom friend should be stronger, deeper and stronger than this. As far as A Dream of Red Mansions is concerned, personal confidants are Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu. (this article only talks about the topic of bosom friends, and has nothing to do with pro-wearing and pro-firewood. )

What is a bosom friend? A confidante is more like wine than tea. There are two paragraphs in A Dream of Red Mansions, which completely explain the word confidant. When Daiyu first moved into Jia's house, she said, "Sleeping like Sister Lin, sleeping for a while after meals, or being sleepy at night are not the way to keep fit. If you get sick sooner or later and he doesn't listen, I can't let him sleep. "

Daiyu was ill and lost. Baoyu saw that Daiyu was sleepy every day and was afraid that he would be "sick", so he shared jokes and allusions with him to relieve boredom. Such thoughtfulness can only be considerate of his heart. As a confidant. You can care about your health, gamble with books, pour tea together, dance together and laugh together. You have no regrets in this life. Audrey Hepburn once said, "I like people who can make me laugh. Laughter may be my favorite thing to do. " When you, my love, ride a bamboo horse, trot in circles and throw your childhood, you are probably the best confidant.

Another sentence from Daiyu said, "Sure enough, I have a good eye. I once regarded him as a confidant, and he was a confidant. It's just that he is too selfish in front of people to avoid suspicion. It really surprised me. Since you are my bosom friend, why is there a golden jade theory? It's your turn to eat Baochai. I can only sigh that my parents died young.

When I first read A Dream of Red Mansions, I was deeply touched by Dai Yu's words, especially, "It's just that he is selfish in front of people and doesn't avoid intimacy." You know, in that red chamber, sisters are deeply in love, but Baoyu can't avoid suspicion. He is busy explaining and excusing Lin Daiyu, which shows the position of Daiyu in Baoyu's heart. Is Daiyu really unlucky? I don't think so, because Baoyu gave her all the love she couldn't get from her parents

It is more like wine to say that a confidante is like tea, "like tea" is the feeling of caring, considerate and caring for friends, and "like wine" is the expression of love without hesitation. What is a bosom friend? It is the affection and admiration between friends, one is like tea, the other is like wine, the other is strong and the other is alcohol.

What is a bosom friend? Living in two places is an idea. After Baoyu was beaten by Jia Zheng, he wanted to ask Daiyu during his recovery, so he gave an old handkerchief and told Qingwen, "She will understand." When Daiyu saw the handkerchief, she said, "I am glad that Baoyu's painstaking efforts can understand my suffering;" I don't know what will happen in the future, very sad; Suddenly, I sent two old handkerchief. If I don't get my deep meaning, just looking at this veil makes me feel ridiculous. I'm afraid to pass it on in private; Every time I cry, I feel tasteless, which makes me feel ashamed. "

This passage reminds me of a song by Zheng Shuang: No one can match my beat better than you, and no one can replace your love for me. An old handkerchief can let Daiyu know and write such a beautiful poem, which shows that both sides really understand each other. Suddenly remind of a sentence: if the heart is close, words and deeds are only as natural as running water in late spring; If the heart is alienated, words and deeds will only be as bleak as the fallen leaves in Sanqiu. Not afraid of isolation, the heart is in the north and south. Get a bosom friend in life and die without regret.

What is a bosom friend? It's not that enemies don't get together Baoyu and Daiyu had an inner conversation: "People don't know my heart, so I can forgive them. Even you used it to mock me. It can be seen that I have you in my heart for a moment, and you don't have me in your heart. " "You naturally have me in your heart. Why are you in a hurry when I mention Jin Yu? You know you always have that piece of gold in your heart. When you see me mentioning you, you are afraid that I am worried and deliberately worried about me. " "Anyway, I'm fine. As long as you are free, I am willing to die for you. Whether you know it or not, it's just from the heart. You are close to me, not far from me. " "You only care about yourself, you care about yourself, why did you lose yourself for me? I didn't know you lost me, so you didn't let me be by your side, but you deliberately told me to stay away. "

This passage is a bit roundabout, and it is really interesting to read it carefully. Daiyu and Baoyu had an argument over a trivial matter. But this little thing doesn't seem to affect their affectation in the future. This is actually a response to Jia Mu's statement that enemies will not get together. Although I doubted each other's position in each other's hearts, I didn't alienate each other. Now it seems that they are more of a show of love. I long for their little quarrel. There are many people in this noise. I feel sorry for each other, but I am tired of getting old and forgetting the Jianghu, but I miss it and cry. Looks like a confidant, but it's better than a confidant.

So what is a bosom friend? In my opinion, a bosom friend is to get along with you and do something warmer in summer. Running water is in a hurry, and years are in a hurry. Please don't let your confidants down, they are worse than your lover.

The above contents only represent the author's personal views. Readers are welcome to make suggestions if there are any problems.

The author Gu Mu is an author who started in the late Qing Dynasty.