Must read for parents! Mother and daughter's mutual support for homework help tells us that this is a sad "history of blood and tears"

The topic of helping children with homework has always been at the top of the hot search list. "If you don't do your homework, your mother will be kind and your son will be filial. If you do, you will be like a chicken and a dog." In every family with a student party, a "large-scale family action movie" will inevitably be staged at night. As long as parents talk about accompanying their children to do homework, it is simply a bitter "history of blood and tears"!

A mother got too excited while helping her child with homework and suffered an acute cerebral infarction. Recently, a cute little kid got angry with his mother when she was tutoring her on homework!

What's going on?

It turns out that the cute baby was forced to stand after being scolded by her mother. Faced with her mother’s request that she could only play after finishing her homework, she was very hard-core: "You are talking about me like this now, how can I study?" , I don’t know anything anymore! You teach me like this, and you still scream!” Then, the child put his hands behind his back and told his mother righteously: “From now on, your child is a fool. ”

This is not over yet, the child continues to use his tricks and continues to be tough: “How can I still want a mother like you? How can I still teach you?”

A parent of a primary school student "sends off his daughter" in WeChat Moments, saying that he can give her a RV and arrange a banquet without any gift. The only requirement is "pick up the child now and help her with her homework. Whose family is it?" Who will take care of my daughter-in-law?" As soon as this statement came out, a craze for "giving away the baby in tears" immediately started in the circle of friends. All the parents who accompanied the students wanted to "send their children to marry them in advance" and were eagerly looking forward to: Can they accept it now? Walk?

Parents’ seemingly joking words actually reflect the fact that parents are having a lot of headaches over tutoring homework. Why is tutoring children with homework so frustrating? In fact, in addition to the children's own reasons such as dilly-dallying, parents also have to look for their own reasons. Why don't children do their homework? What are you doing when your child is doing homework?

What are you doing when your child is doing homework?

I believe that parents are all familiar with the following scenario: when your children are doing homework at night, you are supervising your children while watching TV and scrolling through your mobile phone, and you keep saying: "Write faster, don't do it." "Don't watch TV, study hard"

As a result, the children are often unhappy, thinking: "Why can you watch TV and I can't? It's really unfair." It reduces the quality and efficiency of children's homework.

The correct approach should be: adults also read books, do not disturb the children, and create a strong family learning atmosphere. This will keep the children calm and focused on learning.

What would you do if your child is struggling with homework?

I believe every parent has scolded their children when they were procrastinating on their homework: "You are so angry with me. Why haven't you finished writing? I can't help but look at it for a while. Hurry up." Write! I’m watching you.”

As a result, the child not only didn’t care about what you said, but also continued to write slowly. This is the child's rebellious psychology. The more you push him, the less he will care!

The correct approach should be: Strictly and calmly say to the child: "Writing homework is your own business. You must be responsible for your own affairs. You are not allowed to write until you finish writing. It's time to go to bed." , go to school and explain to the teacher tomorrow.” (Let the child bear some consequences of his behavior appropriately.)

At this time, the child will gradually realize his mistake, regret it, and think to himself. : "It's over now. How can I tell the teacher? It seems that I have to do my homework faster tomorrow, otherwise I will be criticized."

Your child keeps watching TV, doesn't sleep, and doesn't do homework. What do you do? Do?

When faced with this situation, most parents choose to turn off the TV angrily, yelling and scolding their children to do homework or go to bed. As a result, the child goes to bed or does homework unhappy, hating you in his heart and calling you a tyrant.

The correct approach should be to calmly say to your child: "Child, it's time for you to do your homework. If you can't finish your homework, the teacher will criticize you tomorrow. How long do you want to watch?", Child: "Can I watch it for another 10 minutes?" Parents: "Okay, keep your word and turn off the TV when the time comes." Both parties took a step back.

By doing this, you can also test the child's control. When the time is up, will the child take the initiative to turn off the TV? If not, you can change the method next time.

What should you do if your child’s homework is scrawled?

When parents who have been busy outside for a day check their children's work, they find that the handwriting is very sloppy. Most parents will get angry and ask, "Why can't you write better when the writing is so messy?", or even Angrily tearing up the child's homework. As a result, the child was frightened and at a loss.

The correct approach is to calmly say to the child: "Child, I have already said that if the writing is not neat, you have to rewrite it, because if it is not neat, it will break the "rules" of writing. The teacher will not be able to see it clearly. You see, you should write like this (the writing should be standardized horizontally and vertically, and the size should be consistent.). My child, you just need to improve your writing. Are you confident?

By doing this, the children will understand the importance of "regulations" and think: "It is easy to make progress compared to the words just now." The children will also be confident in themselves and will make progress every day.

Of course, the above scenarios can only be regarded as a drop in the ocean, so

Regarding how to help children with homework, I have a few general tips that I would like to share with all parents ~ I hope they can help you. !

However, some parents themselves have depression and anxiety. In the process of communicating with their children,

they need to understand their children’s thoughts. I will repeat it again here. Parents are reminded not to be controlled by their own emotions when disciplining their children. Only parents who are happy and cheerful can understand their children with a more tolerant heart. Therefore, parents should also check their emotions frequently.

What should you do if emotions come up when communicating with your children?