What do you think of "you still call me aunt after being married to my family for half a year" and "you didn't give me a change fee"?

"I used practical actions to force my in-laws to make up the change fee for me." Abortion said to me with a happy face.

My best friend Xiaoyue is 26 years old this year. She has just been married for six months. Her life is not bad. Her husband has an independent wedding room, so he doesn't have to be crowded with his in-laws after marriage.

Xiaoyue is a very independent girl. She has a very good job, and her monthly income can reach more than 6000 yuan. Although not much, self-sufficiency is more than enough.

On the surface, everything is fine with her, but few people know that she has never called her parents-in-law "mom and dad" since she got married for half a year. It's ridiculous that she has been calling them "uncles and aunts" for so long. She hasn't changed her mind after being married for half a year.

She did this not because she didn't adapt, but because her parents-in-law did something she couldn't accept on her wedding day. According to local regulations, both parents need to prepare a red envelope as a change fee on their wedding day. The newlyweds will offer tea to their parents. After receiving the red envelopes, they will start calling them 1' s parents.

On that day, both parents prepared red envelopes and changed their minds by offering tea in front of everyone.

But after returning home, Xiaoyue found nothing in the red envelope. She felt wrong and took her husband's red envelope, so did she.

She felt that her parents-in-law had misunderstood and told her about it. But my mother-in-law said to her face that she was too concerned. This kind of thing is just a formality, there is no need to go online.

Abortion was particularly angry that day. If it weren't for her wedding, she might have quarreled with her parents-in-law on the spot, saying that it was a formality, but her parents didn't do it, but each red envelope was 1000 yuan. Her parents-in-law were so stingy.

Since they don't want to change fees, abortion naturally has no reason to call them mom and dad, so she has been calling them uncles and aunts since that day. Although I don't usually communicate with each other, my parents-in-law are also very uncomfortable when I hear the words uncle and aunt.

Some time ago, my husband took her to her parents' home for dinner. In the meantime, she called them uncles and aunts. Her father-in-law's face changed at that time. Her mother-in-law was very angry and said that she didn't know the rules. She has been married for half a year, and her name is Aunt.

Abortion is not angry or annoyed. She just said, "You didn't give me a change fee. How can I change my mouth? "

Abortion felt that she had done nothing wrong. Since her parents-in-law are unwilling to pay the change fee, she naturally won't call them mom and dad. As for her husband, it is completely different. Her parents paid the change fee.

Maybe it is because abortion is too stubborn. Before going home after dinner, my parents-in-law finally wrapped a red envelope and handed it to her. She opened it and found 1, 000 yuan in it. Her parents-in-law told her that she had been given the fee for changing her mouth. Don't call them uncles and aunts in the future, so as not to make people laugh.

Xiaoyue smiled and replied, "I know, mom and dad."

Bian Xiao has something to say:

Everyone has different ideas about the change fee. Some people think that it is an indispensable part of the marriage process, because the change of mouth fee symbolizes the change of identity. Others think it's just a custom, and it's not necessary for everyone to surf the Internet.

In fact, in marriage, the change of confession fee is still very important. It is not only a sum of money, but also a symbol of in-laws' respect for their daughters-in-law.

Now that they are a family, parents-in-law should naturally not be stingy with that little money. It's not much, but it's a gift.

After receiving the money, the daughter-in-law naturally calls them mom and dad. After all, the formalities have been completed and the daughter-in-law is happy and smooth.

But if the parents-in-law are unwilling to pay the change fee, how can the daughter-in-law willingly call them mom and dad? After all, the daughter-in-law will feel that she is not respected and uncomfortable. How can she call her mom and dad?

Some people may think that the daughter-in-law's practice is a bit extreme, but the change fee of 1000 yuan is only. In real life, 1000 yuan is not too much, and it is even more insignificant compared with family ties.

She shouldn't have trouble with her in-laws because of this, and even call them uncles and aunts for a long time. This practice is likely to lead to family conflicts.

Everyone understands this truth, but who has thought about it from the standpoint of a daughter-in-law, not to mention that it is not a question of money at all.

Daughter-in-law cares so much about the change fee, not because she values money, but because she really values the respect from her in-laws, so she naturally cannot compromise in the face of principled issues.

In-laws can save money without changing fees, so will they do more excessive things in the next time?

After all, the details depend on personality, and they don't even want to give thousands of dollars in change. This shows how harsh and stingy they are to their daughter-in-law. How can such in-laws get along with their daughters-in-law?

At some point, my parents-in-law have been testing my wife's bottom line. If they find my daughter-in-law weak and easy to bully, then in the following time, they will not take her seriously at all, and she can hardly live a good life.

But if the daughter-in-law has a hard personality and is the kind of object that can't be bullied, the in-laws will naturally act cautiously. This is reality. Most people are bullying others, so are their in-laws and daughters-in-law. Therefore, it is of great significance for the daughter-in-law to stick to the end.

Filial piety is a traditional virtue in China for thousands of years. Daughter-in-law should be filial to her in-laws, but everything depends on the specific situation. Some things can be compromised, but some things cannot be compromised.

If the daughter-in-law flinches in the face of some major events, her next life will be difficult, because she will create a very weak image for her in-laws, which will hardly give her family status.

People are mutual. If in-laws want to have a happy and harmonious family, they must know how to respect their daughters-in-law.

As the saying goes, everything goes well at home. In front of family, money and other things are not worth mentioning at all. Therefore, parents-in-law and daughter-in-law must respect each other, understand each other and love each other.