Sally who can't afford to lose

-Teach children how to face winning or losing-

Reading picture books with children before going to bed, Sally who can't afford to lose. Here's the story. Sally, a child, wants to win everything. When she loses, she will blame her teammates. Later, under the guidance of her coach and mother, she realized that the most important thing in the competition was hard work and happiness. Next is winning or losing. She studied sportsmanship, won if she could, and she was happier when her friends came back to her at last.

Very simple story. What the child said after listening made me unforgettable for a long time: "Mom, I can't afford to lose cocoa! I win every running race, but I'm not angry when I lose! I try to cheer and win next time! " This influence! I turned over the cover of the book, but it was exclusively authorized by APA (American Psychological Association). Interesting.

Yes, if you can't afford to lose, you can win

We can all play badminton, but why did only Zhang Dan win the Olympic champion? The difference between "skill" and "accuracy" is not just skill. The so-called master is a person who can maintain a stable and high level of play for a long time. Everyone has a cat in his life, and there is time in spring. When inspired by adrenaline and production, we believe in writing a good poem, writing a good article, doing a beautiful thing, drawing a good picture, singing a good song and playing a good game. People are born with this occasional ability. It should be noted that life is full of accidents, and villagers in the mountains also have golden sentences. The difficult thing is to keep it for a long time and make it inevitable. In other words, it is easy to win for a while, but difficult to win for a lifetime. The reason why the brand has a premium is not only a temporary sensation, but also a strong stamina, maintaining a high output level for a long time, leading the people and wallets. Great men are great men because they have the best martial arts and laugh at the end.

And you and I are just mortals! How to make every ordinary person, in every field and in every time zone, stand first? At this time, for self-positioning, the mentality and coping with the occasional loss elsewhere directly determine the direction of its future achievements. General Patton said that a person's success depends not on how high he climbs, but on how deep he climbs from the bottom of the valley; Only when you are in adversity can you burst into greater strength, and breaking through adversity is the real success. You can still understand that blossoming with wealth and fame is a double-edged sword, which rewards achievements and raises the threshold of the next achievement and the opportunity cost of failure; Those who don't drown themselves in the low mud, but still look up at the stars and don't give up, hope is always ahead and victory will come. "I will be back" is the most beautiful response to the fate lock throat method.

People who can't afford to lose are easy to focus on their current growth and hope for future plans. Instead of complaining, blaming pig teammates, being jealous, and trying to pull the opponent down. The last three losers' unique complaining can effectively ensure that they get nothing from their paintings. No one in the world can gain progress and nutrition from losing oneself. Too arrogant is easy to be lonely, too arrogant and too egoless. Parrots can't learn from each other step by step, but it's just a bad joke.

At the end, I would like to share with you my feelings after reading the article "Cultivating children's competitiveness, not their sense of competition":

My child, it is better to be different than better. In the competitive era of your future life, what is more fun than zero-sum games is win-win cooperation and opening up new ways of playing. It's not standing high that makes you see far, but thinking deeply and seeing far makes you stand high. The emergence of a large number of human beings is negatively related to "how can you be born?" More importantly, it benefits from letting a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred schools of thought contend. People can't always be better or worse than others on the axis of time and space. If you can jump out of this thinking limitation, your life pattern will be very different. If comparison is really needed, a gentleman is harmonious but different. I hope you can always keep a little different from others, which is your most unique and self-centered part.

My child, I wish you find yourself, love her unconditionally, accept her, release her, establish your own boundaries, respect the boundaries of others, and learn to balance yourself, others and the world. You don't need to be too beautiful, I hope you have a beautiful lifestyle; You don't need to be too sexy, I hope you have a sexy mind; You don't need to be in the top few grades, I hope you are more and more diligent, low-key, pragmatic and persistent; You don't need to be too smart. I hope you have a wise heart, a healthy body, a rock-solid mentality, know your own direction, and face and pursue bravely.