My husband lashed out at my leader for some trivial things, which put me in an awkward position. What should I do?

First of all, I want to make it clear that I love my husband. Don't persuade me to get a divorce. Thank you.

The unit has just been established, and there are endless things to do every day. Everyone in the department is working overtime. Unfortunately, children go to primary school this year, and now education is tested by parents. Although learning is simple, the exam is by no means simple. So the first grade needs parental supervision, and I don't have time at all. My children seldom do extracurricular exercises and are not familiar with these problems. The exam is about to pass Of course, our children have their own reasons for not listening carefully in class. Last time I failed in the exam, my father tore it as soon as he saw it. He always told his father that children should be educated and guided slowly, and I tried to bring my work home. However, when I learned about my child's exam results this time, I went home and yelled at my child. I told him that I would go home after working overtime for more than ten minutes, so don't get excited. Then he told me that he would call my leader directly to complain. The follow-up leader told me to go home, and my colleague told me that the father of the child called the leader, and I felt that he must have lost his temper with our leader. I get home at about six o'clock. To be honest, I really don't understand. I was busy and didn't play. He is a senior. How can his EQ be so low when dealing with things? There must be nothing wrong with his IQ. He is what others call a child. I'm embarrassed now, and I don't want to go to work tomorrow. Usually he can take care of the children, but as long as the children don't do well in the exam, they are hysterical. The child was always beaten when he was in kindergarten. Later, my father couldn't stand to decorate our house and talked about him. Flaunting himself as excellent, I think all his patience is devoted to his work and he is serious about his major. He is a self-motivated person, studying every day, but he has no overall situation, no long-term work plan, is stubborn and will not be flexible. It's hard to accept my good advice. What a greasy middle-aged man.

/b999a 90 14c 086 e 06 B3 BD 6 c 8209087 BF 40 BD 1 CBE 6？ X-BCE-process = image/resize，m _ lfit，w _ 450，h _ 600，limit _ 1/quality，q _ 85。 I work in his unit and everyone is together. Isn't it detrimental to our image to call names on our leaders? I can't understand, at present, I have paid a lot in this family. I pay the mortgage and utilities at home. When I'm not busy, I take care of the children, cook and clean up. I never care about money, because our family pays much more than him. My parents just want him to be better. His family is a low-income household. Now his salary has gone up and his temper has become longer. I am constantly changing myself, from a girl who knows nothing to a woman. Washing clothes, cooking, changing locks and decorating the house are all done by my father and me. I made allowance for his busy work, and in the end he went to my department to make a scene. Because I have more prestige in our department and do things neatly, and now he makes a fool of himself. What a good unit. I usually maintain his image as a good man at work. I take care of my family and children. I have a good temper and a sense of responsibility. It's just that I've read too many books and I'm a little arrogant. Now hehe.

Let me start with my current department head. She is a good person. She can learn many ways to do things, grow up with her, and learn her management skills, professional knowledge and communication skills, which is of great help to me. No matter whether she resigns or changes jobs in the future, she has the qualities that our whole department should learn, giving consideration to career and family, but her husband and in-laws are very powerful. When it comes to leadership, the one above is a man, but there are actually some women who are excellent. Some time ago, she also worked overtime until ten o'clock every day. Now that we have cleared our minds, it's getting easier and easier, and we should be able to get off work normally next year.

/8b 13632762 d0f 7032 da 7c 6 1503 fa 5 13d 2797 c5e 6？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 My idea is that while we are young, we should learn more, not only in books, but also in all aspects, so as to establish our own influence and establish ourselves in. I can't analyze the father's psychology now. There are no extremely evil people in life, and they are all conscientious people in the unit. A relatively pure person, a very serious and professional person, a very smart person. But the ability to handle things needs to be improved, and the family education and atmosphere are different. Our three views are now colliding everywhere. Before, no one took care of the children. I quit my job to take care of the children. Now I am doing it again, and he also recognizes my progress, but sometimes he is very resistant to my well-meaning or beneficial suggestions. In fact, to work in a unit, one is professional skills, and the other is the embodiment of administrative identity, that is, management ability. The two complement each other. No matter how good the major is, it has no administrative status. It will be very passive in our unit and will be suppressed in the future. If you have certain management and professionalism, you will get a lot of resources and support in this unit.

/42 166d 224 f 4a 20 a 48 f 0 b 6 f 0 e 9 b 529822730 ed 0 e 6？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 Now I think it's very important to be appropriate, because I often followed my parents when I was a child, because I had to deal with people because I did some small business at home, although I also had to deal with people. The father of the child comes from a poor family. There is not much deviation in the three views. I have poor ability in dealing with people, I haven't realized it yet, I don't want to change, I don't know how to be flexible, and the pride of the literati is vividly reflected in him. He bought me a ring for my family's efforts, our wedding room, decoration, car, drinks and all the things that the man should do. At that time, he was not sensible and embarrassed. Ask his father to have a wedding at his house, too. We'll pay, and I won't be free when people come back. Later, forget it. His father is selfish and lazy. He stopped working in his forties. My mother-in-law went to work to pull home, and she didn't have hot food when she came back. His father's analysis now is a typical character of Phoenix Man+Mambo Man. He is not a bad person. He listens to his mother (who remarried at the age of three) and his sister. In the end, under the problems of mother-in-law, husband and wife, economic problems, irrelevance and long-term consumption of pickled food, from this perspective, women should stay away from Phoenix Man. Of course, I found one myself, but it is still relatively good, considerate and responsible. Fortunately, there is no mother-in-law to tell me what to do, and my father-in-law generally cares nothing.

/c75c 10385343 fbf 240 1 1 F5 eabb 7 ECA 8065388 f3e？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 Although my husband hates his father, he still favors his father in family quarrels, which makes me humble. Even if he is wrong, my opinion is that whoever is wrong will change. Alas, my emotional intelligence is not high, and I need to continue to improve it. Now, I analyze my husband's personality, which is completely selfish. I used to fall in love, but I didn't understand. I spoiled myself as a small public figure with a bad temper. I was having an affair and talked. Then I didn't understand, so I told my mother. Alas, my mother said that I have a bad personality and want to live in peace. Barbara Barbara, my mother is also a big heart. When this happened, she even gave me money to marry me. Hey! Having said that, it's like helping me analyze my husband's personality through a more rational friend and let me change him slowly. I still hope that our family can develop in a virtuous circle. After all, children still need fathers. He made a scene with our leader yesterday. Now I feel really wronged. I am busy every day, and he knows that I will be angry and busy at work. The authorities are confused and don't know what to do with him. They sleep in separate rooms, and my son sleeps with me. His current salary may be very high, and it is inflated. If he does such a thing, he should set it up in time, or it will never end.