What should I post on Moments when a relative dies?

Question: What would you do if a colleague posted news of the death of a relative in Moments?

Moments are different from WeChat friends. Conversations with WeChat friends are face-to-face, and the same is face-to-face on the phone. But Moments is not. Moments are not conversations but are published among all the friends in the address book. WeChat and phone follow orders. When people talk, posts in Moments are not dedicated to conversations with a single person but to be widely advertised.

Notifying yourself of something is a sign of respect for people and a close relationship. Not informing yourself but spreading the word in your circle of friends is a sign that you are not close to the people in your circle of friends.

What you post in Moments should be general things. Things like the death of a relative cannot be posted in Moments obituaries.

Such people are not honest. Since they are friends, if they want to interact with each other, they should inform themselves. The way of yelling at the air in the circle of friends is to make the willing person take the bait, or you come of your own free will. , this kind of online obituary method is not authentic.

When a relative dies, a busy person must be sent to deliver the letter to relatives and friends. You should not notify on the mobile phone. Notifying on the mobile phone is disrespectful. You can only use the mobile phone unless the person who delivers the letter fails to deliver it. Supplementary letter.

When you see this message in Moments, just ignore it as if you didn’t see it, because he didn’t notify you individually on WeChat or on the phone. If you don’t notify you individually, you don’t value people.

Don’t let him take advantage of this voluntarily taking the bait.

Those with good connections will come to express condolences, while those with ordinary people will ignore them. People who post such messages in their circle of friends generally have low moral standards, as if they want to accept gifts from others. He will notify people with whom he has a truly good relationship and will not send random messages in the circle of friends.

There is an old saying in China: Good things will come to you uninvited, and white things will come to you uninvited.

When your colleagues post news about the death of a relative in Moments, it is usually because a relative has passed away, there are few people at home to help, and they are too embarrassed to bother others to come to the home to help. So I posted it in the circle of friends, hoping that friends who saw it would go to his house and help.

Nowadays, the old traditions of young people have been weakened. According to the past funeral customs, when a family member is old, at least 20 people need to help. Not to mention other things, the previous coffin also required 4 people to carry it. Let me tell you something about our place:

There are two families, Yue and Qin, in our town, but these two families have never interacted with each other. I remember from when I was in elementary school that the family named Yue and the family named Qin Students don't play together. There are also very few intermarriages between people surnamed Yue and Qin. Around 2000, an old man named Yue passed away here, and his next-door neighbor was named Qin. According to past rules, the death of the ancestor named Yue had nothing to do with the surname Qin. But on the day of the funeral of the old man surnamed Yue, his neighbor surnamed Qin came to pay his respects. After kneeling three times and knocking nine times, he was about to leave. He was stopped by the Yue family and invited into the central hall to have a drink.

This shows that when a person gets married, you just join in the fun, but if you go to a deceased person's home to help, it is a great help to the family, and it is an unforgettable friendship.

All wedding events are prepared in advance. Who should be invited? Generally, if you cannot accept the invitation, there is no need to go. Because the host family has decided who will come, and even who will accompany the drinks, there will be a clear division of labor.

The family members and neighbors are mainly relied on for daily necessities. When someone in the family dies, helping out is a timely help. After rural people die, they need help until they are laid to rest, such as digging grave pits, carrying coffins, etc. There is no pay for these tasks, and the owner only needs to take care of a few meals. Moreover, even if you pay for this kind of work, others may not be willing to do it. The only people who can help are villagers of the same ethnic group. According to local customs, all procedures and etiquette must be maintained, otherwise you will not be able to show your filial piety, and you may be laughed at by others. When a family member dies, the host family is immersed in grief, exhausted mentally and physically, and finds it difficult to cope with it one by one. Therefore, most of the specific affairs in rural areas rely on others.

In our daily affairs, there is usually a respected elder who will preside over it. Others who come to help only need to follow the instructions of this elder.

Therefore, if you encounter a friend, colleague, or neighbor who has something to do at home, take the initiative to ask for help. Because going to people's homes to help them out will bring blessings to the heavens and bring blessings to future generations.

When they encounter difficulties, they will remember your kindness and take the initiative to help you.

Therefore, when your colleague posts in Moments that a relative in the family has passed away, he should call him immediately and ask if he needs help.

Anyway, in the past, when my friends, colleagues, and neighbors called me to say that an elderly person in the family had died and asked me to help, I had to go even if I was absent from work!

Now that a relative has passed away in a friend’s family, I will go to mourn the death when I know about it.

If you can't spare the time, at least call a friend to express your condolences. And send a memorial ceremony (gift) through WeChat.

What would I do if a colleague posted news about the death of a relative in Moments? It depends on the relationship. If the relationship is not good, just pretend that I didn’t see it. If you have a good relationship, you usually go to pay homage. We have a good relationship, so I immediately asked if I could help. Go quickly if you need to, as a memorial ceremony is definitely indispensable.

It depends on the relationship with your colleagues:

1. If you are close, call immediately, and then go over to meet to comfort and help.

2. The relationship is average, comfort in WeChat, and give gifts in WeChat.

3. It doesn’t matter, then don’t speak out and just mourn in silence.

In addition, you should also pay attention to the position of your colleagues, superiors? Equal? Or a subordinate...

You must be more sophisticated than your brain!

Weddings and funerals are unavoidable for every family, and they cannot be done by just a few people. As the saying goes, no family has a sign saying it is free, and which family has never had someone die? When a colleague posts the news of the death of a relative in Moments, it shows that this colleague is a very decent person, very self-respecting and self-respecting, and considers both his own convenience and the convenience of others. It's much better than telling you in person, because it gives you the space to be independent. If you don't want to go, you can just pretend you didn't see it. The decision is yours, and it won't be awkward when you meet in the future.

What do you do? Because he must be a colleague, when you find out about his death in the circle of friends, you should immediately respond with words of condolence and other words. If you have a good relationship, you should immediately contact him to express condolences in person. If you have a normal relationship and just say a few words of greetings and comfort, you should send a message to express it. I think this is normal Chinese etiquette. If they are colleagues but have no intersection or contact, then you can ignore the matter. Because the colleagues who sent the circle must have the same meaning, I would like to inform you here that if you are polite, you should reciprocate the courtesy, if you are affectionate, you should reciprocate, and if it is irrelevant, you will not be forced!

What would you do if a colleague posted news about the death of a loved one in Moments? If it is a relatively close friend, I will call him as soon as possible to confirm it. If I need help, ask when the funeral will be held, or rush to him as soon as possible without asking for money, even if there is nothing. Don't tell him, just give him spiritual comfort.

I think such things should not be posted on Moments. This is equivalent to shouting on the street. I will not pay attention to people who shout casually on the street. Their quality is questionable. It's best to talk to people less.

Should not post on Moments