Dream of Red Mansions: Standing on a dry shore - an allusion to not getting involved (wet)

In the 16th chapter, it is written that after Jia Lian went to Suzhou to pick up Daiyu back home, Sister Feng drank for her husband to wash away his dust. During the dinner, he told Jia Lian. In a barrage of words, although There was self-praise and complacency, but she also expressed great dissatisfaction and grievances. When Sister Feng answered Jia Lian's question about recent family affairs, she said:

I can't take care of these things! I have little knowledge and quarrels. I'm stupid, yet outspoken. If someone gives me a hammer, I'll take it as a needle. ...Besides, I have never experienced any major events, and I am timid. My wife felt a little uncomfortable, which scared me so much that I couldn’t even sleep. I resigned several times, but my wife refused to resign. She said that I wanted to be used and refused to learn. Little did he know that I was sweating a lot. Don't dare to say another word, don't dare to take more than one step. You know, among all the housekeepers and grandmothers in our family, which one is easy to pester? If they are wrong, they will make fun of them, and if they are wrong, they will criticize and complain. "Sit on a mountain and watch tigers fight", "Kill someone with a borrowed knife", "Incite wind and blow fire", "Stand on the dry bank", "Push over the oil bottle without helping it", are all martial arts skills. Besides, I am young and I am not above others, so I have to be ignored...