Did your circle of friends block me again?

A friend I hadn’t contacted for a long time suddenly sent me a WeChat message asking: “Have you blocked me in your circle of friends again?”

I said, no, I don’t send friends now. Circled.

She asked in shock, why? I said: "There is nothing to post."

Life has become dull and I have accepted the fact that I am an ordinary person, and the circle of friends is no longer a battlefield for showing off.

That’s all.

When I first went to college, my circle of friends was really lively.

There are "gourmets" who enjoy hot pot and Western food and desserts three times a day; there are photography enthusiasts who make appointments to take beautiful pictures every day; there are academic masters whose circle of friends are full of certificates from various competitions. And the experience of participating in academic exchange meetings; for those who are professionals in love, the separation and reunification of relationships is like a TV series.

The amazing thing is that since graduation, these people in the circle of friends have all disappeared.

Instead, there are tweets from middle-aged and elderly people’s health official accounts, micro-businesses selling weight loss pills, and enrollment advertisements from public examination institutions.

When I can no longer see the circle of friends of those "old people", my mood is just like the lyrics in Pu Shu's "Those Flowers":

They are all old, right?

Where are they?

That’s how we are

Let’s go our separate ways

Sometimes I think of those The color of people gradually faded in my memory, and I wondered if they had blocked me, so I went to "visit" their circle of friends.

It turned out that those people’s friend circles were “only visible for three days.”

Why did everyone tacitly withdraw from the circle of friends after graduation?

Maybe they are the same as me, or maybe they are different from me, who knows?

Why don’t I post on Moments?

Because I am no longer the little girl who has never seen the world.

The four years of college were the first four years after I left the world of study and study. I studied hard in a cold window. It was the first time that the ascetic of twelve years had stepped out of the ivory tower, and everything outside was new and strange.

The first time to eat seafood buffet, Japanese and Korean cuisine; the first time to drink Internet celebrity milk tea and Starbucks; the first time to fly or take a high-speed rail; the first time to participate in an academic exchange meeting; the first time to meet foreigners ; First trip...

Who can restrain their excitement and not post on WeChat to show off the "world" they are seeing for the first time?

When I first entered society, I didn’t understand anything, I was curious about everything, and I wanted to explore everything.

As a result, everything you experience will become a topic of conversation and a romance in your circle of friends.

If I am still addicted to eating, drinking and having fun, and cannot extricate myself from the exquisite girl character in the circle of friends, then it is naked depravity and corruption.

After seeing the so-called world, I realized that the true nature of life is just porridge and noodles, sleeping and going to work.

So bland and boring, there is really no need to share it with others.

Because the relationship has settled

In the past, the reason for carefully creating a circle of friends was because there was a crush or an ambiguous person in the address book.

In order to attract his attention, I posted beauty selfies, nonsense words, and all the evidence that could prove my excellence in the circle of friends, for fear that he would not see it.

At that time, falling in love was a very important part of life. Naturally, the circle of friends became a place where one must check in every day.

Now that I have a stable partner for my feelings, I don’t need to test him in the circle of friends, and I don’t need to keep in touch with him all the time. I can just make a phone call at the end of the day and know what he is doing, and then start talking to each other again. Busy with each other.

Those who are active in the circle of friends, except for micro-business and the like, are generally very lonely.

Because I don’t want others to know my joys and sorrows

As Lu Xun said:

The most stupid idea of ????human beings is to always hope that others can understand their thoughts. .

In the past, I was very simple. My joys, sorrows, and sorrows were all present in my circle of friends, and I longed for comfort and recognition from others.

This is actually very hypocritical, and things that are just for the sake of face cannot withstand verification.

The truth is that if you live a good life, others will question you. Is this really the case?

If you have a bad life, others will step on you. I have told you so!

If you don’t post on Moments, at least you can save enough face for yourself. Whether it’s good or bad is up to you and has nothing to do with others.

Some time ago, on New Year’s Eve, I came across a circle of friends where my junior high school classmates were showing off their affection.

The pictures include birthday cakes, roses, hotel selfies, and city night scenes. The happiness overflows the screen and is enviable.

But I learned from ***’s friend that the “boyfriend” she posted did not acknowledge her.

The boy declared that he was single and was very resistant to others mentioning her.

My junior high school classmate became a clown because of a post he posted on Moments.

While I was shocked by this dramatic scene, I felt deeply sad.

The so-called love cannot withstand showing off and speculation.

It is actually difficult for people in love to see their significant other clearly, just like "I don’t know the true face of Mount Lu, just because I am in this mountain."

But the people in the circle of friends are eating melons. The masses are very smart, and they spread the word to others. You may not know whether the love partner posted in your circle of friends really loves you as much as you think, but others know very well.

However, no one is willing to expose you, everyone has good intentions and wants to see a good show.

So, relationships are really not worth showing off on WeChat Moments.

You think you have found a good partner. Many times, it is just your opinion.

Life is hard enough, why make yourself a joke.

Moments is a very hypocritical and exaggerated place.

The girls in the circle of friends are all famous ladies and beauties, and the boys are all wealthy male models. Indispensable are brand-name bags and luxury goods, luxury cars and houses, full of friends, and they are all brothers from all over the world.

Everyone can play chess, calligraphy and painting, bake and cook, read poetry and books, and be dedicated to their work.

Everyone is happy in love, rich in wealth, elegant in taste and happy in life.

The circle of friends is too lacking in authenticity.

Everyone lives like others, but not like themselves.

Those flowers who don’t post on WeChat Moments are probably trying hard to live their own truth.