What do you think of the sentence "The biggest obstacle for children at the bottom comes from their parents"?

I often buy snacks for my colleagues at work and never dare to be late or leave early. I will obey whatever my colleagues say, even if I stay up all night.

When I was a child, many memories were vague.

I vaguely remember saying a joke when I was a child. My grandfather called me unfilial and said that I was raised for nothing.

Mom and grandma have a bad relationship. Grandma often finds fault, and mom doesn't dare to resist.

Dad often plays cards and often comes home late at night.

But she may be an only child. She is not stingy with me materially, and she can have whatever she wants, but she is mentally poor. She is often called silly, timid and useless, and she has been labeled with many bad labels at a young age.

I am still so insecure when I grow up, and I belong to a flattering personality.

Materially, it can be said that there is everything, no worse than other children, and even more than many people.

But mentally, my parents often beat me.

I remember that one year I wanted to start a business, and other parents wouldn't say that about their children even if they didn't agree.

My dad said he couldn't go to work well, and he had to go bankrupt to be satisfied. He said a lot.

No matter what I do, even if I am right, I will be laughed at.

Sometimes I go home for comfort and get scolded.

After a long time, I am also chilling.

Why can't parents be mentally rich?

Once my mother said that when she was a child, she preferred sons to daughters and could not eat at the table.

Because she is a daughter, no one will pay attention to her even if she cries for a long time.

At an early age, she had to take care of two younger brothers. In order to make her parents notice her, she is sensible and obedient.

This is the mother's family background. She was never loved when she was a child. As a new mother, she doesn't know how to love her children.

The more indifferent parents are to their children, the more likely they are to grow into a pander.

Why is it difficult for poor children to turn over? I think it is the stubbornness of parents.

If a person is hard and tired to make money and has no time to study, his thoughts will solidify and he will feel that his cognition is correct over time.

But even in adulthood, the relationship between children and parents is still inseparable.

Closely intertwined parent-child relationships can be divided into two types.

1. No matter what parents do or say, they will obey their parents unconditionally.

2. When they yell at their parents, threaten their parents, or are completely strangers to their parents, their relationship with their parents is still inseparable.

Because parents' behavior can still affect children's emotions.

Some people say that "the biggest obstacle for poor children comes from their parents", which makes sense to me.

On the other hand, when children grow up, it is time to get rid of the family and live for themselves instead of indulging in the past.

But after all, they are one step behind the other children. The other children have already started, but they have to heal the past before they can move forward bravely.

It is very likely that most parents at the bottom of the class will be sure that their education is not high at first, and they don't have much relative knowledge and vision, so their understanding and cognition of things will be superficial.

The expectation of these parents for their children's future is to take on the responsibilities at home as soon as possible, get married and have children as soon as possible, and earn money to support their families as soon as possible.

These parents often don't think about their children. They also like to treat their children as their personal belongings and make various demands on them, but they are unwilling to let them pursue their dreams.

It is sad that children are privatized by their parents. In particular, these parents' thoughts will be very traditional and stubborn, and they will be very obvious and even extreme in the aspect of "son preference".

These parents will not have too high requirements for their children's study, and will not even spend money to improve their children's grades. They may think that as long as children can read and do basic arithmetic, they will not be abducted or cheated when they go out.

Therefore, the children of these families will not have a high level of education. Boys may have their own reasons for not liking reading, but most girls may drop out of school for family reasons.

In a family like this, it is really, really difficult for children to go up, live their own lives and get ahead.

That makes sense. If the pattern of parents is small and quite strong, and the child becomes a mother, then the child's life can only be step by step, without autonomy. To tell the truth, in a sense, you are a walking corpse, no matter how many books you read. And parents have many magic weapons, for example, moral kidnapping such as unfilial. If you are weak and have no opinion of yourself, it is really a disaster!

It is the responsibility of parents to hinder children at the bottom. It is true that some adults can't control their children, as long as they are full, and they don't talk to them well. Children don't know anything, so they run and play after eating. In the past, 80% of rural areas were like this. Now that there are fewer children, it may change. I am the youngest of our brothers and sisters. I go to play and go back to sleep. Nobody cares about me. My mother said I was afraid to meet strangers, so I was afraid to talk to strangers. When I am old, when I meet strangers, my heart is pounding. I didn't dare to talk to the leader until I worked for many years. Then I got married and we lived in the station. My husband is with the leader every day, and I am afraid. I was afraid to meet the leader, and my face turned red and my heart beat. Later, I was with a colleague and everyone met. I regret it when I think about it now.

There is a certain relationship, but not all. Parents living at the bottom, due to their own reasons, have limited understanding of the pattern and cannot give their children better and more direct guidance and help. But the society is very big, there are many better people, and you can learn and grow.

I really don't like this brainwashing experience summary. There are various reasons for living at the bottom, including personal factors, objective factors, times reasons, national development direction and so on. The phrase "children at the bottom" means children from poor families, and the result is nothing more than that the parents at the bottom are described as life losers with no vision, low IQ, no knowledge, no skills and even very ignorance. There is no denying that there is such a thing, and there is no such thing as rich people.

There is nothing wrong with poor children being more difficult to succeed. Heavy burden, few choices, few opportunities for trial and error, no hard relationship, no connections and no financial support. Even so, parents cannot be said to be obstacles. At present, the minimum is nine-year compulsory education, at least they will not become illiterate. They have the ability to acquire knowledge, developed transportation and convenient personnel flow. Parents have influence on their children, but they are not absolute.

The reasons for the poverty of the previous generation are complicated, not just personal reasons. With the continuous progress and development of the country, I believe that the gap between the rich and the poor will become smaller and smaller in the future, and there will be no bottom.

There is some truth in this sentence. It is true that the quality of parents directly affects the growth of children, but we can't ignore the talent and genetic inheritance of children. We can't generalize. Absolute environmental impact is unscientific, and natural forces are still very powerful.

The biggest obstacle for children at the bottom comes from society, and parents are the most solid foundation.

There is some truth in this sentence. Children from poor families at the bottom will be influenced by their parents' negative words and deeds or timid behaviors, and they will also become passive and timid.

There are also some poor families, because they can't afford their children to go to school, or because they are short-sighted, let their children drop out of school, work early to earn money to subsidize their families, and let their children lose the opportunity to turn over.

Therefore, the children at the bottom should not only rely on their own efforts and opportunities, but also have their parents' perseverance ahead of time.