How to treat the mistakes made by men when they change their minds, especially by women who don't want to divorce?

Marriage seems to be quite perfect at first. Because of the afterheat of love, they still restrain their behavior and try their best to please each other, and their feelings are also justified.

With the birth of children and the trivial family, it is more and more difficult to talk together. The shortcomings between them are infinitely magnified in front of each other, and it is inevitable that they will be disgusted and picky. Marriage is also the easiest time to hit the rocks at this time. Some men are tempted by the outside, or want to change the fresh air, so they do things that are sorry for women.

Sister Zhao, 40, experienced a midlife crisis a year ago. Her husband stays in the factory all the year round and often drinks himself unconscious on the wine table. When she accidentally turned to the chat record, I really couldn't believe that the father of two children had done such a ridiculous thing.

She felt really unable to breathe, as if the world suddenly became horribly quiet, and it took a long time to cry. After calming down, she knew she didn't want a divorce. Her husband was always a good man at home when he came home. He did all the housework, took care of the children and kept all the money for her. She is used to this kind of life, and divorce may not necessarily find such a good man.

It is easy for a woman to forgive a man for changing her mind, but difficult to rebuild her trust.

In the face of Zhao Jie's questioning, her husband collapsed in fear and promised not to do it again. My husband often looks at her face in his later life. As long as she is unhappy, he dare not speak out for fear of making her lose her temper again.

Watching the story on TV, my husband casually expressed his views, and Zhao Jie was sarcastic, saying that a person who did something wrong was entitled to express his opinions. There are many such examples. As long as her husband says a word, she either quarrels with the wrong person or holds a gun and a stick to shut him up.

I didn't know anything about Zhao Jie at first, but after they quarreled again, Zhao Jie called to complain about injustice and said why people who made mistakes dared to talk back, so I understood the story between them.

Sister Zhao told me bluntly that her husband was cheating, and he would be lower than her all his life and could not disobey her. He should have no right to speak until she forgives him.

I asked her if she wanted a divorce. Sister Zhao said, of course not divorce. But if she does, even if the man makes a mistake, she will take the initiative to file for divorce.

Therefore, in the face of a man's change of heart, women don't want a divorce, so don't make mistakes when dealing with problems.

First: publicizing men's shortcomings to outsiders will push men further and further.

In this materialistic society, it is nothing new for men to cheat. It is inseparable from divorce, and few people really care.

After a man changes his mind, if a woman doesn't want a divorce, she must restrain her resentment. You can cry, scold the man to vent and so on. But these behaviors should be carried out after closing the door. When there are only two people, they will stop after doing it twice.

Some women, like Zhao Jie, think they are victims. They publicize men's mistakes in an attempt to win others' approval and let them share the same fate with you.

However, in fact, people who don't love you will only watch your jokes, and those who really love you will feel sorry for you. If you tell outsiders about a man's change of heart, it will make him lose face in addition to jokes. If a man breaks a jar and falls, there will be suffering.

After a man changes his mind, if he chooses to forgive, he should treat it as a trivial matter. Don't tell anyone about a man's mistake, but let him know his principles and bottom line, and you are not joking, but serious. Only by combining kindness with compassion can he really change his mind.

Second, don't get emotional and let things get out of control.

Sister Zhao obviously doesn't want a divorce, but she acts aggressively against her husband. Although he made a big mistake and did something wrong to Zhao Jie, he is already taking action to make up for the damage he caused and really wants to go back to his family.

However, Zhao Jie said that she forgave him, but she still stuck to the past and laughed at her husband. Finally, her husband began to resist her and filed for divorce.

In her words, it was clearly that he made a mistake, but it made her feel wronged and sad. But she ignored her purpose of not wanting a divorce and was enslaved by emotions. Instead, I did a lot of moves farther and farther away from the goal, fell into self-attack, hurt myself, and made men feel cold.

If you don't want a divorce, you must know what you want and don't want to leave a man. Then you have to find out the problems between them, find the deep-seated reasons and take action to change this situation.

Don't say forgive, you have bitterness in your heart. Understand that emotions can't help you save your marriage, but only make you more uncontrollable and force men to go on.

After a man changes his mind, if a woman doesn't want a divorce, don't let everyone know. You know, men are a shameful species. When he realizes that he has no face, you will see the real ruthlessness. The person who hurts is still himself. Don't do anything uneconomical.

Many women will have the same idea as Zhao Jie. Obviously he did something wrong, why did he change it himself? People with this mentality, in the final analysis, still think it is for men. Actually, it's for myself. If you choose not to divorce, then move towards this goal. Don't make mistakes and drive men to the wall.

After choosing not to divorce, you are doomed to take a very bumpy road, which may be a bloody road or a thoroughly remould oneself. These are the consequences of your choices, and you must learn to bear them. If you can't bear it, choose to follow your heart and don't wronged yourself.